Resting Reminder - Relationships... Who Needs Them? I Do!!
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The relationship that I have with myself influences ALL my other relationships. When I embrace myself fully, it's like finding the golden master key that opens the doors to the ultimate relationship possibilities.
In the United States, this is the month that we celebrate relationships in the way of Valentines Day. I think this is the perfect opportunity to explore a broader aspect of how we relate to ourselves and not just how we relate with others that we love. This is a continuation from my last Resting Reminder about loving yourself, but I'm exploring this from a different perspective. You can find last months Resting Reminder on my website under the "blog" tab or click here.
Having healthy relationships is one of the keys to happiness and good health. A good friend and mentor, Dr. Katherine Hendricks said that it only takes three people who light up when you walk in the room to have your life full and happy. Hmmmm.... only three people who light up when they see me. Three people, that's not too many and seems completely doable for just about anyone.
If you're feeling lonely or alone and think that finding three people who light up when you walk in the room is impossible then this message might be for you. Also, if you're in a relationship and you don't get the sense that your partner lights up when you walk in the room, then this message might be for you also. And if you don't light up when at least 2 or 3 people in your life enter the room, then this might be for you too.
Far too often we look for someone to do something for us that were not willing to do for ourselves. This is especially true when it comes to loving oneself or being over the top ecstatic when we look at ourselves in the mirror. The relationship that I have with myself influences ALL my other relationships.
Trying to get someone else to do something that you're not willing to do for yourself is energetically exhausting. Funny enough (though not really very funny), that's often how couples show up for relationship coaching; two people trying to get the other to love them in ways that they won't/don't love themselves and then wondering why it isn't working out so well.
What if the very first person on your list of three that are lit up is yourself? What if you lived in the state of being that you were lit up just to be able to feel yourself walk into the room? What if everywhere you went, there YOU are... to greet yourself in that ecstatic love for yourself? How different might your life be?
I promise that when you get to the point of absolute love for yourself, there will be so many people joyous to see you. Your love will be contagious and any pressure toward others to love you will be relieved. This will be a big relief to a partner or potential suitor!
One exercise that you can use to start shifting into a deeper love for yourself is to imagine someone or something that you know that you absolutely love unconditionally. Take a moment and feel into that one thing and let the energy just keep expanding until if fills your whole body. Let that feeling simply keep expanding and now invite anything unlovable about yourself into this new expanded space of love. Feel what happens, notice what you notice, there's no right or wrong here.
Adding in some resting phrases to the above exercise will enhance the expansion of love within you. I'll share a few of my favorite resting phrases that have continually resonated with my clients over time. You can try them or find other phrases that feel rested for you.
Say one phrase and pause for 20 to 30 seconds and then say another one. It's very simple.
Say to yourself, "I'm resting into those peaceful places in my body now... "
"I'm resting into my heart now... "
"I'm resting into those lovable places inside me now... "
"I'm resting for my whole being now... "
If you're willing, use this month as a time to expand your love for yourself. You can do the exercise that I shared as a daily practice until you experience a deeper love for yourself. The more you love yourself, the more space you have to love others.
Monthly Intentional Resting call - Free
Topic: Expand a Loving Relationships With Yourself
On our free call this month, we'll be exploring our relationship with our-self and how this main relationship affect every other relationship. If you want to, bring a friend or loved one to the call and see what you might discover together.
Tuesday, February 7th (every 1st Tues)
7pm mountain time (6pm Pacific, 9pm Eastern)
Dial-in number: 424-203-8000
Access code: 717453#
Playback number: 424-203-8099
Access code: 717453#
Much love to you,