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Notes from the Director...

We are trying something a little different for most recent editions of the What's Up . We've asked a guest writer, Ana Hernandez, to write about her experience in a domestic violence relationship where her then girlfriend used their dog Sana as a way to inflict harm in the relationship. Ana has written a four part essay. The first two parts have been included in the last and current issue of the What's Up and the last two will be posted to our blog later this week. (Click Here to read Part I of this essay.) We hope that this essay will bring to light some of the issues around domestic violence in the LGBTQ communities as well as how very deeply the animals in our lives are affected. Please note that this essay is the abridged version. If you would like to read a longer version that includes how the other dog and cat in Ana's life were affected, please let us know.

Thank you,

Kim Fountain, Executive Director

Sana (Part 2)

By Ana Hernández

Late one spring night in 2006, Jackie and her new girlfriend, Beth, hid behind the shed at the end of my long back yard. Jackie had moved out months earlier and had whittled down to sporadic “visitation” with Sana. But she knew my routine, and Sana knew Jackie and approached the fence when called. I sprinted toward them, but Sana was snatched over the fence and they all disappeared down the alley.

Just days before, my neighbor Paige, also a family law attorney, stopped by. After a quick check-in, she cautioned, “I saw Jackie at the farmers’ market yesterday. She’s really, really angry.” And, gesturing towards Sana, “I’d be careful with her if I were you.”

As I ran back inside, intent on getting to Paige’s, the answering machine picked up and intoned, “Ana, this is Jackie. I took Sana and she will be with me from now on. Thank you for taking such good care of her. You have abused this little dog to hurt me, and you don’t deserve to have her. You’d better not do anything to try to get her back.” I felt what had become, with Jackie, the usual collision of emotion and insecurity – abuse Sana? Why was she lying? Hurt Jackie? Was it true? Thank you?! She was contradicting herself! Paige took me into her living room, listened to my account and marched us back to my house to listen to the message. “Idiot,” she muttered, and commented how great it is when abusers tell you what they have done.

I called 911 and they dispatched a police officer, who repeatedly insisted it was a civil matter and not his problem. Paige told him, as I had, that the perpetrator was my ex-partner, which suggests that very likely there was more than simple theft at hand, and that Jackie violated the property boundary to complete the theft, which is a criminal act. The officer refused to listen and left. Paige told me we could call the police station in the morning and file a report, as the officer was wrong and we should find someone else.

The next morning, I was nervous because of how things ended the night before and because Jackie had bragged several times that she knew some women officers and one or two had a crush on her. With Paige present, I called but once I said my name, I was told I’d given Sana to Jackie because, I’d supposedly said, they had bonded to each other. Paige took the phone and said, “That’s not what she told the officer. I was with her last night when she talked to him. I was here. I’m her attorney.” But I could hear the voice at the other end, not pausing, definitive, and impassable. Paige quickly got off the phone. “Jackie talked to them already this morning. They’re lying.” My stomach knotted – this was the first time I’d ever asked for legal help, and the doors were quickly slamming shut.

-- Part III will be posted at RU12.org on Friday, January 25th. Stay Tuned. --

Killington Winter Pride

A benefit for RU12?

Feb 1-3. Killington Winter Pride is a fun-filled weekend aimed to celebrate the LGBTQ movement. The three-day event will feature an exciting lineup of on-snow activities, Pride parties and live entertainment. Event festivities will take place at Killington Resort, the largest ski resort in Eastern North America.

For more information or to register, visit www.GnarWinterPride.com or e-mail info@gnarwinterpride.com.



Announcements

Introducing Relay For Life- Rainbow Edition

The American Cancer Society is proud to announce a groundbreaking new movement in the fight against cancer. Introducing Relay For Life- Rainbow Edition; an event for and by the LGBTQ community geared towards highlighting disparities in cancer and raising money to fight back!

Click Here for more information or visit our FACEBOOK page. To get involved email Claire Giroux-Williams or call 802-872-6321.

Statewide Community Bulletin Board Online!

Now you can find or post ads from members of your community for housing, carpool or ride share, furniture and personal items, employment opportunities, and more! It's FREE!

Check it out HERE

Around the State

Report Violence Online

Now people can report discrimination, hate violence, domestic violence, intimate partner violence and sexual violence through a secure link our website. As with any reporting to SafeSpace, the information is confidential and there is the option to remain anonymous.

Brattleboro

Crossroads Launch Party

6pm, Fri Jan 25th at the Backside Cafe, High Street, Brattleboro. Refreshments, door prizes, and PRESENTS (for as long as they last!)!is Brattleboro-based program that hosts social events, gathers and maintains info on community resources, and provides referrals to area support networks in order to make our community stronger, healthier and more visible. FMI: Visit them online or send an email.

Rapid HIV Testing

AIDS Services of Southern Vermont: Everyday, by appointment only. Call (802) 254-4444 to schedule.

GLBT: AA Meeting

Every Thursday 8pm; St. Michael's Episcopal Church, Putney Road, Brattleboro. Alcoholics Anonymous meeting for LGBTQ people seeking help, support, and a way out.

Dorset

PFLAG Chapter

A chapter of Parents, Friends and Family of Lesbians and Gays (PFLAG) has been formed in Southern Vermont. PFLAG Dorset, an affiliated chapter of PFLAG, has formed as a local, nonprofit community support and educational outreach group. For more information, please contact Mike Watrous at PFLAG.Dorset@gmail.com or 802.768.1585 More Details

Fairfield

RU12?’s Rainbow Reading Hour!

1st and 3d Mondays 5:30 to 6:30pm Bent Northrop Memorial Library in Fairfield.

Children of all ages to gather and read a story, and then do an activity together. This is a chance for LGBTQA families to meet and find community at the Feel free to bring a favorite book or friend to join the fun!

If you have any ideas, would like to volunteer, or need more information, email Sam@ru12.org contact RU12? at 860-RU12 (7812) or . Click Here for more details.

Montpelier

GLBT Parents Group

This group is for GLBT parents, parents-to-be and kids of all ages. Find support, build friendships and have fun through outings, potlucks and playgroups in the central Vermont area. If you are interested please contact Kara Casey at vtglbtparents@gmail.com or (802) 730-2388. More Details

Outright Vermont: Friday Night Group

From 7-8:30pm, 2nd and 4th Fridays at Black Sheep Books on 5 State Street. Twice a month, there is a support group run for queer youth to talk about, and get support for, the issues they are dealing with in their schools, families, and life in general. Youth get to talk with each other and see that they are not alone in their quest to be accepted and feel supported.

Montpelier HangOUT:

A laid-back social gathering for Central Vermonters across the queer spectrum (21+ only, please). We meet on the 2nd & 4th Thursdays of the month for potlucks, drinks, billiards, game nights, and other good times. FMI: Check us out on Facebook! or email montpelierqueer@gmail.com .

Guerrilla Gay Bar

7pm Sundays, Charlie-O's, Montpelier. A weekly meeting of the area's finest queer folks! Like GGB on Facebook!

Norwich

First Mondays at the Norwich Inn

Please join the monthly LGBTQA Community 'First Monday' social on every 1st Monday at the Norwich Inn. Catch up with colleagues or meet new friends... Come and join the fun! Light refreshments will be provided (additional food and alcoholic beverages for purchase in the pub). Please feel free to drop by anytime between 4:30-7:30pm. MORE INFO

Plainfield and Hardwick

Free & Anonymous HIV Testing Site!

Free and Anonymous HIV Testing in Plainfield. Call 322-6600 to make an appointment. The Health Center, 157 Towne Avenue.

Women-Stirred Radio

Thursdays, 4-6 PM, Goddard College Community Radio (WGDR 91.1 FM Plainfield and WGDH 91.7 FM Hardwick). Hosted by out lesbian Merry Gangemi. Stream it live at http://www.wgdr.org

The Quiet Storm

Thursdays, 12-2 PM, Goddard College Community Radio (WGDR 91.1 FM Plainfield and WGDH 91.7 FM Hardwick). Northern New England's only smooth-jazz/R&B radio show, hosted by out bisexual Skeeter Sanders. Stream it live at http://www.wgdr.org

Rutland

Gay Men of Rutland

January Gay Get Together

6 - 9pm, Fri Jan, 25th, at Table 24, on 24 Wales Street, Rutland. Look for us in the lounge by the overstuffed chairs!

Gay Men of Rutland (GMOR) is an informal social group of gay men in Rutland VT who get together for drinks at various local establishments. FMI: email gayrutland@yahoo.com

"Like" GMOR on Facebook to receive updates about upcoming events!

Outright Vermont: Friday Night Group

6:30 1st & 3rd Fridays. 1st Friday of the month we go out on the town like check out the cinema, bowling, coffee, etc. Group will remain traditional on the 3rd Fridays and pizza will still be served. Cairo Cafe at The Pyramid 120 Merchants Row. Contact Adam@outrightvt.org or call 802-865-9677 for info.

Rutland Vistas Potluck

Every second Sunday, Grace Church, 8 Court St., Rutland. LGBTIQ and friends potluck supper and game night. bring a dish to share! FMI 802-345-5255

Saint Johnsbury

Needle Exchange Program

Mondays and Thursdays from 11am-1pm. Other times available by appt, call 802-748-9061, 1235 Hospital Drive Suite 2. Sponsored by Vermont CARES, (802) 748 - 9061. Vermont CARES is proud to be a part of a progressive network of needle exchange programs throughout the country who believe a harm reduction approach in one of the best ways to help prevent future HIV infections.

Stowe

Winter Rendezvous

Jan, 23rd-27th. Stowe, VT. 8 great events! Celebrate 5 Days of Wintry Bliss with hundreds of GLBT enthusiasts from across the country and beyond. More Info

Williamstown

Central VT LGBTQ Kink Discussion Group

6pm, 3rd Thursday of Every Month at Williamstown Masons Lodge, 111 Brush Hill Rd. Williamstown. This new kink-focused discussion group is open to all. It is a chance to discuss safety within lots of different lifestyles, particularly kink. This will be a safe place to express your concerns or fears, and to give your opinions on these subjects. FMI: olderlover60@yahoo.com

More info

New Hampshire

Keene

PFLAG: St. James Episcopal Church

PFLAG-Keene is a local chapter of the national organization Parents, Family & Friends of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans and Questioning People. PFLAG meets the first Tuesday of every month. All are welcome! The national organization is committed to helping families stay in loving relationships via support, education and advocacy. Local contact is Roberta "Bobbie" Barry, at bbarry29@ne.rr.com

Lebanon

GLBT Book Club

The GLBT reading group is now meeting on the 7pm on the 2nd Tuesday of each month at the café in Books a Million in W. Lebanon. For questions or more info email staylongtalkmuch@hotmail.com

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RU12? Spotlight

Are You One Too?

Full List of Support Groups

All events take place at RU12? Community Center, 20 Winooski Falls Way, unless otherwise specified.

“Friend” our Facebook Event Page if you’d like us to invite you to RU12? and other community events.

Wednesday, January 23rd

Center Drop-in Hours: 10am - 6pm

GLAM Meeting

Every Wednesday 6:30pm. We're looking for young gay and bi & Trans guys who are interested in putting together great events, meeting new people, and reaching out to other guys! Core Group runs our program, and we want your input!

If you're a young gay, bi, or queer man who would like to get involved, email us at glam@ru12.org or friend us on facebook

GLAMflixx: Safety Not Guaranteed

7:30PM at RU12?. Join a bunch of other gay, bi, queer and/or trans guys as we watch the critically acclaimed comedy "Safety Not Guaranteed", nom on popcorn, and schmooze. GLAMflixx are held every month.

GLAM is a group of young gay, bi, queer, and trans guys who are coming together, getting out, and enjoying the connections we made with one another. FMI: contact Mike Bensel or Jean-Denis Couillard at glam@ru12.org or 802-860-7812. Facebook Event Page

Thursday, January 24th

Center Drop-in Hours: 10am - 6pm

Walk-in HIV Testing Hours 12-6pm

Results in just 20 minutes. Are condoms and safer sex materials getting too expensive? Stock up for free at RU12? For possible wait time or other questions, call us at 860-7812 or email Mike at Michael@ru12.org or Jean-Denis Jean-Denis@ru12.org .

Off-site LGBTQ Group for Individuals with Disabilities

4pm Every Thurs at the Wellness Co-op, 43 King St. in Burlington. For more information Click Here or contact Brenda or call RU12? at 860-7812

Friday, January 25th

Center Drop-in Hours: 10am - 2pm

Sunday, January 27th

RU12? LGBTQ Fiber Arts Group

The Fiber Arts Group meets 2nd and 4th (and sometimes 5th) Sundays of every month at RU12? Community Center. Knitting, crochetting, weaving, ebroidery and more for people of all ages, gender identities, sexual orientations, and skill levels to come together in a queer space. If you have questions or you'd like to join the group please contact RU12? at 860-RU12 (7812) or email TheCenter@RU12.org.

Monday, January 28th

Center Drop-in Hours: 10am - 6pm

NEW EVENT: Monday’s are a Drag!

It's that time of year boys and girls!!! RuPaul's Drag Race is starting back up and we're going to be having a viewing party every Monday!!

Porsche Pink will be your hostess with the mostest at Esox every week as we watch the number of LadyBoys dwindle until one is crowned America's Next Drag Super Star! Cocktails: 8:00pm - Show Starts at 9pm.

More Info

Tuesday, January 29th

Center Drop-in Hours: 10am - 6pm

Walk-in HIV Testing Hours 12-6pm

Protect yourself and your partner.

KNOW YOUR STATUS

Drop-in Rapid Testing: Tuesdays: 12-6pm & Thursdays: 12-6pm * Every Day by appointment! Results in just 20 minutes. Are condoms and safer sex materials getting too expensive? Stock up for free at RU12? For possible wait time or other questions, call us at 860-7812 or email Mike at michael@ru12.org or Jean-Denis at jean-denis@ru12.org.

Social-Support Group for LGBTQ Individuals with Disabilities

Come together to talk, connect, and find support around a number of issues including coming out, socializing, challenges around employment, safe-sex, self advocacy, choosing partners, discovering who you are, and anything else that you would like to talk about. Tuesdays at 4pm at the RU12? Community Center, located in the Champlain Mill in Winooski, VT. For more information contact the Center at thecenter@ru12.org or call 860-7812 Click Here for more info

This Week in Chittenden County

Wednesday, January 23rd

Outright Drop-In Hours

Tues- Sat 12-8p.m. For LGBTQ youth 22 & under. Contact Adam@outrightvt.org or check out Outright VT for info.

Outright VT HIV Testing

Outright offers free and anonymous HIV testing to anyone, no matter their age, orientation or identity. Testing is available from 12pm-8pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays, and from 12pm-6pm on Fridays.

Squeer Dancing

Wrangle up a partner for Squeer Dancing at the Chittenden Emergency Food Shelf, 228 N. Winooski Ave, Burlington. Everyone is welcome: gay, lesbian, bi, trans, straight, couples, singles, young, old and dance experience is not necessary. (Every Weds) More Details

Thursday, January 24th

Outright Drop-In Hours 12-8pm

Outright VT HIV Testing

Outright offers free and anonymous HIV testing to anyone, no matter their age, orientation or identity. Testing is available from 12pm-8pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays, and from 12pm-6pm on Fridays.

HIV and Hepatitis C Testing at Safe Recovery--Burlington

Every Thursday, 1-5pm, 45 Clark St. Burlington. Support, needle and syringe exchange, and Education Program.

Free, anonymous walk-in Hep C and HIV testing, or by appointment. Call 802.488.6067 for more information.

Thursday Night Roving LGBTQ Pinochle

Every Thursday 7pm. For additional information call Matthew at 802-735-5362 or Cathy at 802-922-4550 More Details

Friday, January 25th

Outright Drop-In Hours 12-8pm

Youth Space Hours: Tues – Fri, 12- 8pm & Sat 12- 5:00pm !

Drop by for Outright's youth space hours. Relax on a couch, use the computers, watch shows on the Wii or work on some art projects. Queers and allied youth (13-22) are welcome to come hang out! For more information email youth@outrightvt.org or visit Outright VT online!

Bob Bolyard's Karaoke

8-10pm. Friday nights at the St. John's Club in Burlington's South End. Club member Bob Bolyard hosts karaoke, free and open to the public. St. Johns Club, 9 Central Avenue, Burlington

Saturday, January 26th

Root 7 - Vermont A Cappella

5pm, Doors- Club Metronome. Root 7 is a mixed ensemble a cappella group located in the Champlain Valley region of Vermont. We are currently a group of five men and four women from as far south as Ferrisburgh all the way up to Colchester... with most members in the greater Burlington area. More Details

FLASHBACK

Every Fourth Saturday at Half Lounge, Church St. Burlington is Flashback featuring DJ Rob Douglas and DJ Veena from 10PM - 2AM. No Cover!! More Details

Sunday, January 27th

Volleyball with VGSA

All levels of play welcome and encouraged. We will continue to play inside at Mater Christi School on Mansfield Ave. in Burlington, but if it's a nice day we're heading to Bayside Park in Colchester to burn up their sand courts! To find out where we're playing each Sunday at 5PM, call the volleyball hotline at 802.660.1790. All levels of play welcome and encouraged. Come join the fun! $5 inside, free outdoors. FMI or to be added to the volleyball e-mail list contact Guy at 802-272-2000 or email gviens@u32.org

Women’s Indoor Pick-Up Soccer

Every Sunday, 6:00 p.m. - 8:00 p.m. Welcoming to all skill, experience and fitness levels. Every Sunday (until April 14) 6-8pm. Miller Center located at 130 Gosse Court in Burlington, Cost $3.
More Info.

Monday, January 28th

HIV Testing at Vermont CARES - Burlington

Every Monday, 4-7pm, 187 St. Paul St. Free, anonymous, oral HIV testing. Check out Vermont CARES for more information.

VGSA: Das Queerhaus

5PM at Das Bierhaus, Burlington.

Das Bierhaus unfurls the rainbow flag beside the Bavarian for this special monthly event! Last month, dozens of folks showed up for warm pretzels, sparkling lagers, and rooftop views over Burlington. Check out VGSA for more information.

Tuesday, January 29th

Outright Drop-In Hours 12-8pm

Outright VT HIV Testing

Outright offers free and anonymous HIV testing to anyone, no matter their age, orientation or identity. Testing is available from 12pm-8pm on Tuesdays, Wednesdays, and Thursdays, and from 12pm-6pm on Fridays.

UVM Students: Gay Men's Group

Tuesdays 4:30-6PM - Wright Hall CAPS office. Too many gay men know the consequences of feeling alienated and alone at UVM experiencing isolation, depression, sadness, and despair (even within the queer community). This group will offer opportunities for support and personal growth and particular attention to specific issues related to being male and gay. Run by: Michael Upton, M.D., Michael Sheppard.

Proud and Sober AA--Burlington

7-8pm. Turning Point Center, corner of Bank and Center Streets, on the 2nd floor, Burlington. Weekly LGBTQ-specific AA group. Please call (802) 861-3150 for more information.

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