CG Coaching & Consulting
May 515.2
We were given emotions to LIVE life, NOT destroy it 

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In This Issue

Where's Cynthia? 



Wine Women Wealth



Chesapeake Chamber Connect



Powerful Women of VA - Networking Brunch



Va. Beach Chamber Connect  



Wine Women Wealth



EQ For Sales Success



Women's Wellness Retreat


Grief & Loss: Awaken Love Workshop 



Chamber Coffee & Connect


CMON Get Happy lunch and learn


EQ For Couples/Parenting



Inspired Women of Coastal VA



Money 101  

What is Emotional Intelligence?


Greater Understanding

Compassion and Empathy

Stronger Relationships

Open to Criticism

Better Decision Making

Controlled Behavior

Positive Interactions


Want to know more? Attend a FREE Introductory Class open to the public.

EQ for Parenting
EQ for Couples
EQ for Sales Success
EQ for Corporate
Happy Women Mastermind Group

Join us for 90 days of discovery, laughter, enlightenment, and camaraderie.

C'MON Get Happy Lunch and Learn
FREE Admission
3rd Tuesday May 19 11:30a-1p
only cost is that of your meal/beverage.
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Finding Joy in the JOurneY
Healing to Happiness

An evening of resilience, forgiveness and empowerment in learning how to find the joy in the journey. FREE and open to the public.  Only cost is that of your meal.
Gus 'n' George's Spaghetti and Steakhouse, VB.
Stay Tuned for the next scheduled event.
What is Positive Psychology?

Positive Psychology
is the scientific study of the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive. The field is founded on the belief that people want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives, to cultivate what is best within themselves, and to enhance their experiences of love, work, and play.

~Positive Psychology Center - Penn State   

Quote of the Month

Enter every activity without giving mental recognition to the possibility of defeat. Concentrate on your strengths, instead of your weaknesses... on your powers, instead of your problems.

-- Paul J. Meyer


Cynthia Gossman
CG Coaching&Consulting
P.O. Box 62942
Va. Beach, VA 23466

Change.  We are creatures of habit and are usually very uncomfortable with ... change.

However, the only thing that remains the same is change.

I'd like to encourage you to shift your focus.  Shifting focus can increase happiness.  It takes PAP (patience, acceptance and perspective). It takes practice to unlearn the behaviors we have developed and learn new behaviors that are more positive and healthy.  It's NOT impossible.  You can do it. 

I began realizing and practicing the shift with PAP when my late husband passed away.  After allowing myself to grieve and mourn my loss, I then had to take responsibility for my life, my emotions, my thoughts, hopes and dreams.  I chose to shift my focus on his death (the closed door) to focusing on my blessings (the open door) that he was a part of my life for a wonderful 15 years.  I chose to focus on the gifts he blessed me with (open door), like a sense of humor and lightening up.  I had to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

We are all going to experience a lot of change in our lives.  If we can learn to embrace it, not fear it, engage in it, not run away, and connect with it, not fall victim, our happiness and livelihood will thrive.

Please scroll down or click to the left to the "Great Books To Read" section of this newsletter for a couple of recommendations that are great reads for embracing change.  

I wish you all joy and peace in your hearts and much love and happiness in your souls.

Love and JOY,


Joy Restoration Coaching Happiness 


"The beauty of comedies is that they help us cope with tragedy. It takes an ordinarily horrific situation, in this case mental illness and a hate crime, and somehow paints a smile with funny punch lines and irony...   Try watching a funny movie when a walk in the sunshine, a good self help book or talk therapy doesn't help. It's okay if it doesn't come natural. Pay attention to how people respond to you when you smile more or come across with a lighter, brighter disposition. Even if you don't feel like it, work on smiling more and laughing more each day. According to studies, laughter helps to relax the body, boost the immune system, releases natural endorphins, and helps protect the heart."  


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Happiness In The Digital Age


Here's how technology impacts our happiness. Smartphones, social media and the internet are nearly impossible to avoid.  But how do they impact our happiness? Here's what the research has to say.    


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How to Manage Your Anger
by: Deepak Chopra

"Anger is one of the most destructive emotions. It ruins relationships, intimidates co-workers, and creates bad feelings. So it's surprising that it's often an overlooked issue. In some quarters anger is actually considered positive, a tool for getting what you want.

At some point, however, many angry people realize they have to change their tactics. They begin to see how negative anger really is. Weighed against its supposed usefulness, getting mad is unrealistic, impractical, and unhealthy. It's unrealistic because your anger ... "

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Tip of the Month
Snacking can be a huge downfall of a healthy lifestyle. Thankfully, you don't have to go hu ngry between meals. Here are some great ways to keep your metabolism boosted with delicious and healthful choices. Some of these ideas are absolutely to die for and yet healthy as can be! Who knew snacking could be so yummy AND good for you? 

Happiness by Choice?
Did you know?
  • 50% (HALF) of your happiness is genetic 
  • Only 10% is based on your circumstances
  • So that leaves.... 40% of your happiness is based on WHAT YOU DO INTENTIONALLY! 

Life sure can knock you down, spin you around and spit you out.  Develop a good foundation that gives you the tools to cope.      

    1. Willingness and Readiness for Happiness
    2. Forgiveness and Reconciliation
    3. Focus - Positive or Negative?
    4. Brain Sweep - Rewire Your Brain
    5. Expand Comfort Zones
    6. Establish a Healthy Lifestyle
    7. Implement VOG - (values, objectives, goals)  

For details and registration information click here 

  Happiness by Choice?

The Social Skills You Weren't Taught in School
By Eric Ravenscraft

You're taught about history, science, and math when you're growing up. Most of us, however, aren't taught how to identify or deal with our own emotions, or the emotions of others. These skills can be valuable, but you'll never get them in a classroom.

Emotional intelligence is a shorthand that psychological researchers use to describe how well individuals can manage their own emotions and react to the emotions of others. People who exhibit emotional intelligence have the less obvious skills necessary to get ahead in life, such as managing conflict resolution, reading and responding to the needs of others, and keeping their own emotions from overflowing and disrupting their lives. In this guide, we'll look at what emotional intelligence is, and how to develop your own.

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Great Books To Read 
What you are plugged into and what you choose to engage in can play a big role in maintaining happiness and success.  Here are some great reads to feed your soul.

Curling up in your favorite recliner or swinging outside in the hammock getting lost in a good book is a great way to feed your happiness.  


"The Best Year Of Your Life - dream it.plan it." by Debbie Ford

The clarity with which Debbie Ford communicates has inspired, comforted, and fueled me to continue growing and aligning myself with my life purpose. I am forever grateful to her for sharing her compassionate wisdom in the ways she has." ~Alanis Morissette, artist, singer, songwriter and seven-time Grammy Award winner


"The Gift of Change - Spirtual Guidance for a Radically New Life" by Marianne Williamson

"Marianne Williamson's book is incredibly important, as brilliant and fresh as A Return to Love, yet written with the urgency demanded by our times. A truth teller, a seeker, a mother, and a learned woman, her voice is at once strong medicine for our woundedness and little light to see by."

~ Anne Lamott, author of Traveling Mercies  

Recipe of the Month
Chocolate Peanut Butter Ooey Gooey Butter Cake
For the chocolate and peanut butter lovers in your family, this Chocolate Peanut Butter Ooey Gooey Butter Cake if sure to become a family favorite dessert.  WARNING: this is NOT fat-free :)

  • 1 German Chocolate Cake Mix
  • ? cup butter - melted
  • 1 egg
2nd Layer
  • 8 Peanut Butter Cups - large one
  • 3 small Butterfinger Candy Bars
Cream Cheese Layer
  • 1 (8-ounce) package cream cheese, softened
  • 1 cup peanut butter
  • 3 eggs
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • ? cup butter, melted
  • 4 cups confectionery sugar
Chocolate topping
  • ? cup chocolate chips
  • 1 tablespoon vegetable or canola oil
  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees, 325 degrees if using a glass pan.
  2. Combine the cake mix, egg and butter together. Beat until it is combined. Spray a 9 x 12 pan with cooking spray and then put the cake mix layer over the bottom. Pat it down.
  3. Cut the large peanut butter cups into 4 pieces. Roughly chop the Butterfingers. Spread evenly over the cake layer.
  4. Combine the cream cheese, vanilla and peanut butter together until combined. Add the eggs one at a time and mix them in. Add the butter. When this is all combined together add the confectionery sugar. Spread evenly over the candy bar layer.
  5. Bake for about 50 minutes. I used a glass pan and it took just over an hour. The mixture will be puffed up in the center when done. It will jiggly just slightly. Remove from oven and let cool.
  6. Melt the chocolate for 1 minute in the microwave. Add the oil. Stir until combined. Spread over the top of the cream cheese layer.
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