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"This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they're a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably. He may be clearing you out for some new delight. The dark thought, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing and invite them in. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond." RUMI
As I reflect on my life and read this quote by RUMI, I find myself 'welcoming' and 'entertaining' all of the mixed emotions, challenges, and even suffering more today than I used to and in doing so I am experiencing more inner peace and less toxicity and chaos.
Ironic as it may seem, I remember going through the rawness of my grief after the loss of my husband and purposely listening to pieces of music that took me toward that pain, yes, make me cry harder, wail louder, and hurt deeper. Friends and family couldn't understand and tried to deter me from that experience. One relative even uttered the words, "If you didn't listen to that song, you wouldn't feel so badly". The thing of it is I was
'feeling that badly' but it was stuck inside of me. I was simply letting it out, 'clearing me out'.
Friends and family may deter you from 'welcoming' and 'entertaining' the unexpected visitor simply because
can't fix you and they feel helpless. It may be their own uncomfortableness that they cannot bear.
Honor the 'unexpected' visitor at the door laughing and invite them in. Go toward them.
"He may be clearing you out for some new delight."
I wish you all joy and peace in your hearts and much love and happiness in your souls.
Love and JOY,
Joy Restoration Coaching Happiness
By The Power of Positivity
Throughout life, we fall in and out of love with ourselves...a lot. Every time we have a negative thought about ourselves, we temporarily lose sight of our true loving nature. Even the ascended "spiritual masters" have had moments where they don't like themselves; the duality of love and hate, light and dark, you and I. It's a very persistent illusion that we all struggle to see past at times. In reality, we all come from Love, whatever and wherever that place may exist.
Because you originated from a place abound with love, that means it resides within you, as well. So, how can we uncover our true nature if we have been out of touch with it for so long?
Start with these six simple exercises daily if you want to experience greater self-love.
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Life Advice From a 4 Year Old
Hugging therapy is definitely a powerful way of healing. Research shows that hugging (and also laughter) is extremely effective at healing sickness, disease, loneliness, depression, anxiety and stress.
Research shows a proper deep hug, where the hearts are pressing together, can benefit you in these 10 ways:
1. The nurturing touch of a hug builds trust and a sense of safety. This helps with open and honest communication.
2. Hugs can instantly boost oxytocin levels, which heal feelings of loneliness, isolation, and anger.
3. Holding a hug for an extended time lifts one's serotonin levels, elevating mood and creating
4. Hugs strengthen the immune system. The gentle pressure on the sternum and the emotional charge this creates activates the
Solar Plexus Chakra
. This stimulates the thymus gland, which regulates and balances the body's production of white blood cells, which keep you healthy and disease free.
5. Hugging boosts
. From the time we're born our family's touch shows us that we're loved and special. The associations of self-worth and tactile sensations from our early years are still imbedded in our nervous system as adults. The cuddles we received from our Mom and Dad while growing up remain imprinted at a cellular level, and hugs remind us at a somatic level of that. Hugs, therefore, connect us to our ability to self love.
6. Hugging relaxes muscles. Hugs release tension in the body. Hugs can take away pain; they soothe aches by increasing circulation into the soft tissues.
Tip of the Month
Anchoring For Presence - One Key to Happiness
|How to Silence Voices in Your Head - Eckhart Tolle
Did you know that 40% of your happiness is what you choose?
The 7-Step Happiness by Choice© program gives you the tools and skills needed in order to make healthier choices even in the midst of drama, chaos, and toxicity.
- Willingness - Are you ready for Happiness
- Forgiveness and Reconciliation
- Focus - Positive or Negative?
- Brain Sweep - Rewire Your Brain
- Expand Comfort Zones
- Establish a Healthy Lifestyle
- Implement VOG - (values, objectives, goals)
For details and registration information click here
Happiness by Choice©
The Science of Empathy
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And Why Some People Have it Less than Others
"Corporate empathy is not an oxymoron," concluded an article in the Harvard Business Review on January 8. "It is a hard skill that should be required from the board-room to the shop floor."
Indeed, fellow-feeling has come to be seen as a means to a better bottom line. An empathetic customer service representative creates customer loyalty, while an empathetic manager creates engagement and employee loyalty-deeply necessary in a world where 70% of workers say they are not enthusiastic about their jobs, reports Forbes.
Companies offering "empathy training" have popped up everywhere, often leveraging the old adage that to empathize with someone, you must first "walk a mile in his shoes." In other words, if you are a manager who has overcome one of life's many challenges, you are naturally well-placed to empathize with employees facing similar struggles, and help them find a way through.
But people who have suffered are often the least compassionate. ...
Great Books To Read
What you are plugged into and what you choose to engage in can play a big role in maintaining happiness and success. Here are some great reads to feed your soul.
Curling up in your favorite recliner or swinging outside in the hammock getting lost in a good book is a great way to feed your happiness.
The Four Agreements - A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by: Don Miguel Ruiz
The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.
Vision: Your Pathway to Victory by: Gordon D'Angelo
Everything starts with a vision. Whether you are an entrepreneur, a top business executive, or just getting started,
Vision: Your Pathway to Victory will show you how unparalleled success is right around the corner. This book is an inspirational guide that takes you beyond the norm, and illuminates you to the highest level. You are inches from greatness, and this book gives you the tools to jump that hurdle. You can harness through boundless energy, and create the most amazing results in your life and business. Gordon D'Angelo reveals strategic visionary planning, his unique sought-after program that uplifts you from your typical thinking and gives you freedom to access unlimited resources.
Recipe of the Month
I just had to share TWO fabulous recipes this month.
Cucumber Tomato Avocado Salad
1 1/2 teaspoons lime zest (from about 1 lime)
1/4 cup fresh lime juice (from about 3 limes)
1 tablespoon sugar
Freshly ground pepper
3 cups seeded and finely chopped watermelon
1 cucumber, peeled, seeded and diced
1 mango, peeled and diced
1 jalapeno pepper, seeded and minced
1 small red onion, finely chopped
8 fresh basil leaves, finely chopped
1/2 teaspoon garlic salt
Tortilla or pita chips, for serving
Stir together the lime zest, lime juice, sugar and 3/4 teaspoon pepper in a bowl. Add the watermelon, cucumber, mango, jalapeno, onion and basil and toss gently. Chill the salsa until ready to serve.
Add the garlic salt just before serving. Serve with chips.
Photograph by Anna Williams. Recipe courtesy of Trisha Yearwood for Food Network Magazine.
1 lb Roma tomatoes
1 English cucumber
1/2 medium red onion, sliced
2 avocados, diced
2 Tbsp extra virgin olive oil or sunflower oil
Juice of 1 medium lemon (about 2 Tbsp)
1/4 cup (1/2 bunch) cilantro, chopped*
1 tsp sea salt or 3/4 tsp table salt
1/8 tsp black pepper
*Note: if you aren't keen on cilantro, fresh dill is a good substitute
1. Place chopped tomatoes, sliced cucumber, sliced red onion, diced avocado, and chopped cilantro into a large salad bowl.
2. Drizzle with 2 Tbsp olive oil and 2 Tbsp lemon juice. Toss gently to combine. Just before serving toss with 1 tsp sea salt and 1/8 tsp black pepper.
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