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Neighborly Etiquette
Wedding Invitations
Then & Now Business Etiquette
Etiquette Bites!
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Etiquette in the News
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Ask Peggy


 

Q: I set up two friends on a date, but they didn't hit it off; now I feel bad that it didn't work out. Should I call and apologize?

 

A: A phone call isn't necessary here. Playing matchmaker has its risks, and the truth is that nobody can predict how well two people will get along. So try not to worry about it. Chances are your friends went into the date with their eyes open, not expecting to find the perfect life partner. If you really want to say something, it's better to just do it in person with a simple "Sorry it didn't work out with [Joanne/Steve]."

 

 

Read more of Peggy's advice each month in Good Housekeeping.     

 

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Read Peter Post's blog "The E Word." It's Peter's ruminations on civility, manners and etiquette.

Recent posts:
A Time To Share And A Time To Keep Your Mouth Shut



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Read Peggy Post's thoughts on today's most nuanced wedding dilemmas in her New York Times column.

Most recently:
 Wedding Q. and A. 
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Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning are monthly guests on The Dinner Party Download a weekly culture and arts show hosted by Rico Gagliano and Brendan Newnam, produced by American Public Media.

You can listen to the whole show, or scroll down to pick and choose segments.

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 Episode 245  
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It was a busy start for The Emily Post Institute this April. We welcomed 15 new trainees into our Emily Post family as they participated in and graduated from our annual
Train the Trainer business and children's programs.

Peter, Anna, Dan, and Cindy led the trainings and spent long (but very enjoyable) days with our trainees, teaching them everything they know about how to teach and present Emily Post etiquette. We are so proud to have these wonderful individuals join us in the effort to teach and encourage good etiquette both at work and at home. A huge thanks also to Virginia Keyser, another member of our home team in Burlington, who worked tirelessly to coordinate materials and logistics for the training.


Emily Post Business Etiquette Train the Trainer 2014 Graduates


Emily Post Children's Etiquette Train the Trainer 2014 Graduates

Peggy has been busy with two book signings this past month at the Naples Yacht Club, and P.E.O. chapters both in Naples, Florida. Peggy shared this photo of her stepson, daughter-in-law, and their son who went to visit Emily's house at Tuxedo Park, N.Y. Emily's father, famed architect Bruce Price, designed and built Tuxedo Park.



It's been a slow start to spring here in the Northeast, but we are ready for the joys of summer: outdoor entertaining, wedding season, and weekends filled with houseguests. We're looking forward to sharing it all with you and hope you'll share what you're up to with us on our Facebook page and Twitter feeds.

Enjoy this month's newsletter, and if there's something you'd like to see in an upcoming newsletter, let us know at: newsletter@emilypost.com.

 

New Project
And We Need Your Help
 
















Dan and Lizzie are working on a new project and they need your help! While we can't announce what it is just yet, we are hoping you'll use their new venture to get your questions answered publicly! Please submit your etiquette questions either on our Facebook page by starting your post with "Dan & Lizzie:" or if you'd like to remain anonymous, email them to newsletter@emilypost.com and use "Dan & Lizzie" for the subject box. We love to answer questions out there in the open so that others who might have the same question can benefit! 

Thank you for your submissions and we'll keep you posted on our project as we get closer to our launch date. 
Neighborly Etiquette
 

Good neighbors don't impose. But what exactly is an imposition? Some people enjoy casual, over-the-fence contact while others want their neighborhood relationships more structured. As you get to know your neighbors and by paying attention to individual lifestyles, customs, and social cues, you'll learn their preferences. While not written in stone, here are some basics to keep things neighborly:

Greet neighbors whenever you see them. A smile, a wave, and a pleasant "hello" are probably the easiest ways to show neighbors that they matter to you. If you don't know a neighbor's name, ask.

Have an occasional chat. There's a lot you can learn through casual conversations: Discover a shared interest or catch up on news.

Call ahead before visiting. Some neighbors happily pop in and out of each other's homes without warning, but not all neighbors do. Call and ask if it's convenient for you to stop by.

Limit visits to a reasonable amount of time. Be attuned to what your neighbors are doing, and leave at the first hint that they're ready for the visit to end.

Say thanks for any favors. Make sure you always say "Thank you," and be willing to return the favor.

Be respectful of privacy. Living in close quarters makes it all too easy to overhear conversations in hallways, on elevators, or around the pool. It can take some effort not to eavesdrop. And never repeat what you accidentally overhear.

Be respectful of property. Always ask for permission before entering anyone else's property. In apartment houses and condominium neighborhoods, do your part to keep common areas clean and report any damage to maintenance.


Want to learn more about Neighborly Etiquette? Check out   Chapter 6 of Emily Post's Etiquette 18th Edition, filled with information about building respectful relationships with neighbors.  

Invitation Overload
The breakdown on wedding invitations: A few simple rules that will help you out. 

Modern Classic Trendsetter Pack

The "rules" for selecting wedding invitations have loosened. Today, it is appropriate for invitations to have color, ribbons, lacy fold-overs and creative wording. The sky's the limit! There are still practical matters to consider, regardless of how bold you want to go with your invitation. Unlike traditionally worded invitations, which use only "the honour of your presence" or "the pleasure of your company" to invite guests, wording often reflects the couple's own personal style. Dates are sometimes more casually worded, titles omitted, and reception invitations may be issued more simply. However, the basic information common to all invitations still applies: who is hosting, the nature of the event, where and when it will take place, and how the guest should respond, if necessary. Make sure to keep the invitation as simple as possible. Here are a few wedding invitation faux pas to avoid while planning:

     
  1. Don't forget to include any appropriate inserts, such as maps, directions or hotel information for out-of-town guests.
  2. Don't include registry or gift information with your invitation. It is in poor taste to insert a list of places where the bride and groom are registered or a checklist of the things they want.
  3. Don't use a standby guest list. When possible, invite your entire guest list at the same time rather than waiting to see how many people accept before sending out a second round of invitations. When the guest list is carefully planned, and when you consider the likelihood that 10-20 percent of invited guests typically send regrets, this approach is much more straightforward than using a standby list.
  4. Don't address invitations with pre-printed labels. Always address wedding invitation envelopes by hand, even when inviting hundreds of guests.

Business Etiquette 

 Then and Now  

  

 

  

 

            

In the 1922 edition of Etiquette, Emily Post wrote "to make a pleasant and friendly impression is not only good manners but equally good business." As today's workplace becomes increasingly more competitive, practicing proper business etiquette can be the difference between getting ahead and getting left behind. Although many of the customs and conventions have evolved with time, business relationships in both 1922 and 2014 still require the same attention to consideration, respect, and honesty.

           

During the 1920's, the workplace was much different than it is now. First and foremost, there were far less distractions. During a typical business day, people relied on face-to-face interactions and calls on the telephone. The Internet did not exist, and there were certainly no handheld devices. Because of the lack of instant communication, it was nearly impossible to cancel appointments at the last minute or to notify an appointment that you'd be late. Punctuality and timeliness were important elements in cultivating business relationships. It was also expected that a businessman  be very  well-groomed, attired in a conservative suit, and, above all, polite.

 

The climate of modern business has changed drastically since the dawn of the digital age. Between cell phones, e-mails, and social networking, there are countless ways to contact someone. These technologies create new forms of networking, therefore requiring new manners regarding their polite and effective use.  

 

Aside from changes in technology, there is also a change in appearance in the modern workplace. Although some businesses still believe in formal dress codes, almost 80% of offices now consider themselves "business casual." The contemporary workplace allows for more individualism and freedom of expression, as long as it does not interfere with work.

           

In the workplace today, men and women are treated as equals. The concept of "the weaker sex" has been eliminated in a business world where women have proved themselves every bit as capable as men. Practicing gender-free chivalry with gestures such as holding doors, shaking hands, or helping a workmate carry something manifests a culture of courtesy in the workplace. In order to maintain successful working relationships, it is necessary to be courteous and respectful. More often than not, the right set of personal skills is a key component to professional success.

   

 

 

Etiquette Bites!
Grooming at Work



Peter Post talks about grooming in the workplace.

Ideas on Pinterest

Emily Post & Etiquette in the News

   


Anna Post   
The Huffington Post - Why Wedding Invitations Come In Two Envelopes

Lizzie Post
ABCnews.com - How To Say No To Being A Bridesmaid
Have and Hold, Pottery Barn Blog - Weddings And Technology

Daniel Post Senning
MySanAntonio.com - Where To Use a Smartphone or Tablet

Peggy Post

CNN Network - Teaching Manners To Kids


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