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Are You Being Treated Unfairly?
Assume Nothing.
Mary Lee Gannon
Mary Lee Gannon

Mary Lee Gannon is an executive coach and strategic planning consultant and president of 
StartingOverNow.com.  She knows the plight of executives because she has served as CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets within many complex systems over the last 16 years.  She is
a graduate of the Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference.  Services:  Strategic Planning / Board Development /  Executive Coaching / Healthcare / Management Consulting / Public Relations / Meeting Facilitation / Leadership / Productivity / Life/Career Transition.  

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Mary Lee Ganon is Recognized 

Michelle Wright of WTAE-TV, Mary Lee Gannon and Beth Caldwell of PPW - Women of Integrity Award 

Mary Lee Gannon is awarded the 2012
"Woman of Integrity" award by Pittsburgh
Professional Women on December 1st at Le Mont.  Awardees are women of distinction who have balanced career and civic responsibility, who share their success by mentoring others and
supporting their communities.  Pictured
here with Michelle Wright of WTAE-TV
and Beth Caldwell of PPW.

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Starting Over

Mary Lee's personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother, with four children under seven-years-old, who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance. From there, within a short time, she worked to the level of CEO, directing three hospital foundations over the last 14 years each with assets of up to $26 million.  

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Ever think that you are being treated unfairly? My question is this: Are you REALLY being treated unfairly or is that your assumption? Our perception is ours to own but may not be reality. To focus on it pushes us to perseverate on feeling disempowered instead of opening our minds to how we may be proactive.

 

When Life Doesn't Seem Fair:

 

1. Use only "I" statements and not "he" or "she" statements to describe what is going on. "I am noticing that this person is ignoring me. I wonder what her perception is of me. I wonder what I could have done to make her assume that. I wonder what I can do now to alter that perception." NOT: "He never treats me fairly. He has favorites and they always get all the perks. He is overrated."

 

2. Be "curious" and "compassionate" to the other individual. What is she afraid of that prompts her to act this way? If she fears that I am not respecting her and this makes her look incompetent then maybe I can validate her with a genuine compliment. If he fears that I am not doing my job and that reflects poorly on him then maybe I need to inform him of the measurable accomplishments I have contributed to the team and ask what else I can do to help.

 

3. Envision the other party as a seven-year-old child. What would you do differently if this person who has been treating you unfairly was a child? This person may be thinking like a child if he is behaving badly toward you. What can you do to calm her inner child?

 

Make no assumptions about what others think. Indeed, you may be being treated unfairly, but to focus on what others think renders you powerless. Most likely you will be too focused on feeling personally assaulted which leaves you feeling victimized. You can only control what you think. Concentrate on what pro-active measures you can take to bring peace to the situation for yourself and the other party.

 

Get Mary Lee's advice on how to "Get Unstuck."

 

         

 

Mary Lee gives executive coaching tips in MONEY MAGAZINE.

 

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Mary Lee Gannon is the president of StartingOverNow.com - Transforming People and Organizations with Goals-to-Results. With more than 16 years of experience as a CEO of organizations with up to $26 million in assets, Mary Lee coaches executives and organizations with a Goals-Accountability-Results system. Read testimonials from her clients.  She is a graduate of The Duquesne University Professional Coaching Program and an alumnus of the 2010 Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital Coaching in Medicine & Leadership Conference. Her personal turnaround came as a stay-at-home mother with four children under seven-years-old who endured a divorce that took she and the children from the country club life to public assistance from where she rose to the level of CEO to support her family.  Areas of Specialty: Strategic Planning / Board Development /  Executive Coaching / Healthcare / Public Relations / Meeting Facilitation / Leadership / Productivity / Life/Career Transition.  Her book "Starting Over - 25 Rules for When You've Bottomed Out" is available in bookstores and from online booksellers.  

  

 
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