Notes from Ms. Dahnke

Parenting Tips from the Master

In case you are a bit confused by the title, this master parent is not me. We have been given the perfect role model for parenting. God, as our Heavenly Father, has given us, His children, the ability to make decisions about our lives. He has given Godly parents to many of us to direct and guide us in learning what is morally and ethically right and wrong. Then, He has allowed us to be placed in different situations that test our ability to try out the skills that we have been taught. Is He there to guide us? Most certainly! Do we make mistakes? We sure do. Does He try to make decisions for us? Absolutely not! Is He there for us when the decision we have made ends up being the wrong one and we fail miserably? Always! He allows us to make decisions for ourselves and then uses those decisions for His glory, even if they are not what He would have chosen for us. He has a way of re-directing us so that we eventually turn it back to Him. He never lets us fall without being there to help us back up. This is the parenting example He has given us.

Parenting has never been easy, whether you are the parent, the aunt, the uncle, or the grandparents. Every now and then, I hear stories about the things that my siblings and I used to do and I wonder how any of us survived. Things were different back then. During the summer, parents rarely saw their children because they would meet up with the neighborhood children and play from early morning to late at night. Lunch would be eaten on the run at someone's house. Children would have to be called, several times, to come in for dinner.

Needless to say, parenting in today's world has changed drastically. Parents rarely see their kids, yet it is not because they are out playing in the woods or the backyard. Nowadays, if there are two parents, both parents work. It seems that some parents try to relive their school memories by getting over-involved with the activities in which their children participate. Some may feel guilty about the time they are unable to spend with their children and try to compensate by being over-involved. For many, however, as our children get older, it is more difficult to see them become independent and less interested in our help. It kind of makes one feel like he/she is not useful or is getting older and who wants to feel that way? Helicopter parenting is a term that is used to refer to parents who hover over their child and every aspect of his or her life. Parents feel they can have more control over the actions of our children if they hover. For some reason, the parents described as helicopter parents do not feel that they have given their children enough skills to make decisions or cope with things that come along. They act as if they have to decide things for their child including school activities, friends, college, vocational goals, and decisions that individuals should make on their own.

Instead of making decisions for our children, we need to be reminded that they are individuals made by God. He has given them the ability to make decisions, whether good or bad. We love our children but not even a fraction as much as God loves them. We need to trust that we have raised our children to the best of our ability. We need to believe that by God's grace they will make it through this state of life where they will be tested and will, more often than not, be the "tester". We need to allow our children to make those mistakes that will eventually help them become the men and women that God has created them to be. We need to let them discover their own strengths and weaknesses as we guide them to become adults who will eventually raise our grandchildren. Is it really helping our children to not allow them to experience failure and disappointment? There is no question that we hurt when our children hurt but we are also not going to be around for them all the time when life deals them hardships. They need to learn the coping skills that will allow them to get through these times with help from God and those friends He has placed in our lives.

God has equipped us with parenting tools that have come from our own experiences, trials, and disappointments in life. He has blessed us with parents who have taught us how to parent, regardless of whether or not we think they did a good job. He has blessed us with His Word, which gives us practical advice. We need to allow our children the same opportunities and then pray that our Heavenly Father will protect them and continue to love them more than we do. Be there to guide your children to make the right decisions. Let your flight pattern continue in the same air zone, but allow your children to land by themselves. There will be times of smooth sailing and rough landings but they will belong to your children who have been guided and gifted by your Heavenly Father.
BCA and CCC will be closed Fri., Apr. 14. in observance of Good Friday.

Daddy-Daughter Dance - Sat., Apr. 8 
Moms, if you want an inside seat to this annual gala, please come on over to school and help with set-up, serving, and clean-up tomorrow. We could still use some help. There is so much excitement buzzing around here for our Love You to the Moon and Back dance and we are excited for the evening that will be filled with pictures, music, dancing and food. The event will be from 6:30-8:30 in the cafeteria that will be transformed into a magical, starlit adventure. No reservations are needed. See you there!

Easter SCRIP Gift Cards
If your thoughts are set on Easter baskets and how to fill them, consider signing up for SCRIP or buying a few SCRIP cards from your favorite stores (Walmart, JcPenney, Target, Kohl's, Belk, etc.) that will not only make your shopping easier, it will help out your tuition bill. Order forms and sign-ups can be found outside of the office. 
Everyone is welcome to join us for our Maundy Thursday Chapel Service on Thurs., Apr. 13 at 8:30 a.m. at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church. Pastor Josh Woodrow will be leading this service. There will be no chapel service on Wed., Apr. 12.  Our 4th quarter chapel offerings will go to Bridge Community Church.

Palm Sunday Reminder 
A reminder that this coming Sunday, April 9, is Palm Sunday, the day when Jesus rode into Jerusalem. "Hosanna! Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord!" (John 12:13).

Let us approach Holy Week in the same manner as we approach the throne of grace - with confidence! Let the remembrance of the Last Supper, the mourning of Good Friday, and the celebration of Easter morning remind you that Jesus was the High Priest - and - the sacrifice required for your forgiveness. Do not be afraid because Jesus knows your weakness. Do not be overwhelmed because the sacrifice of Jesus is sufficient.
We would like to wish a very Happy Birthday to the following students:
4/8 - Will Hitchcock (6th)
4/9 - Charlie Blair (PK3)
4/12 - Elizabeth Jones (Infants)
4/13 - Leland Dettloff (Infants)
A Great Turn-Out for Muffins with Mom! 
Thank You! 
A huge thank you to those ladies who helped prepare refreshments for Muffins with Moms this morning including Christy Rogers, Sheila Stephens and Kathleen Pacenti. A huge thank you, also, to Travis Rogers, Pastor Josh Woodrow and Kirk Pacenti who helped serve so the moms could be moms. We could not have done it without them but we also wish to thank all the moms, grandmas, aunts, relatives and friends who came and represented for our students. What a blessing to see everyone this morning!

Math-a-Thon News
Thank you for a total of $1,706.13 for St. Jude Children's Research Hospital collected this year from our recent Math-a-Thon. Thank you to everyone who participated. Congratulations to Dixie Booth (7th grade) for collecting $1,377.00. Second place, Tinley Card (5th grade) collected $220.13. Third place, Steven Patrick (1st grade) collected $50.00. BCA has collected almost $20,000.00 in past years which helps ensure that no family ever pays St. Jude for anything. Thank you again for your donations.  Also, a big thank you to Mrs. Mary Lawrence for volunteering to handle this special event.

Upcoming Events

Daddy & Daughter Dance  - Sat., Apr. 8
"Love You to the Moon And Back" Daddy/Daughter Dance for all BCA and CCC enrolled girls of all ages will be Sat., Apr. 8 from 6:30 - 8:30 p.m. in the BCA cafeteria. Please join us in your Sunday best for a memorable night under the stars with music, dancing, desserts and photos.

Living History Museum at BCA - Fri., Apr. 21
All students in kindergarten through 8th grade will participate in the Living History Museum on Fri., Apr. 21 in the BCA gym. 

The following classes will each represent a special category:
  • Kindergarten & 1st grade students - pop icons
  • 2nd grade - famous authors/book characters
  • 3rd grade - famous inventors
  • 4th & 5th grades - biographical figures
  • 6th grade - historical figures in world history
  • 7th & 8th students - historical figures in American history
Students in K - 3rd grades will present from 9 - 10 a.m. 
4th - 8th grades will present from 10 - 11 a.m. 
Everyone is invited to attend this very impressive history museum.

Blue Jean $ Day - Apr. 28
Fri., Apr. 28 will be our next Blue Jean $$ Day! Please bring in at least $1 to wear blue jeans with a dress code top or BCA T-shirt. Proceeds will go to Bridge City. 
Summer Camp News from Mrs. Angela Meyer
K - 8th Summer Camp registration forms are available HERE or in the front lobby. Contact Mrs. Angela at 423.619.5181 for more information.
Mon., Apr. 10 - Hamburger, Chips, Cucumbers, Pears
Tues., Apr. 11 - Chicken Alfredo, Noodles, Broccoli, Orange
Wed., Apr. 12 - Pancakes, Sausage, Oatmeal, Warm Apples
Thurs., Apr. 13 - Frito Pie, Corn, Fruit Cocktail
Fri., Apr. 14 - BCA/CCC Closed for Good Friday

Sat., April 8 - Father-Daughter Dance for BCA enrolled girls of all ages - 6:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

April 13 - Maundy Thursday Chapel service 

April 14 - School/child care closed in observance of Good Friday 

April 19 - Progress Reports distributed

April 21 - Living History Museum project display - K - 8th

April 21 - School-wide Dance - 7 - 9 p.m.

April 27 - Open House for Prospective Families - (4 - 7 p.m.)

April 28 - Blue Jean $ Day 

May 3 - 5 - 4th grade trip to River Ridge

May 11 - Spring Sports Award Night - 6 p.m. in cafeteria - Basketball and Track awards

May 12 - 8th grade banquet at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church

May 17 - 19 - 7th and 8th grade trip to Washington D.C.

May 23 - PK4 Graduation - 9 a.m. in BCA gym

May 24 - 8th grade graduation - 7 p.m. at Good Shepherd Lutheran Church 

May 25 - School-wide cook-out and fun day!

May 26 - Last day of school - dismissal at 11:30 for K - 8th (open until 6 p.m. for all child care) 

May 29 - BCA child care closed for Memorial Day

May 30 - Summer camp begins for all ages (through Aug. 11)