Our Slant 
Forward Into The Light ~ November 2016

   
Wednesday, November 16 Dinner Meeting 
Summer Thyme's Bakery & Deli, 213 Colfax Ave., Grass Valley
 
Menu:
Acorn Squash stuffed with wild rice and cranberries with pecans/
Tossed green salad/Pear upside down cake 
 
   
Social/Networking 5:30 p.m.; Dinner 6 p.m. $21 per person -- Bring a Friend!  
  
Deadline for reservations: Sunday, November 13

November 16 Meeting:
Helping Our Returning Veterans

Each year on November 11, we salute our veterans for their service to our country. But how often do we think about what it's like to transition back to civilian life, possibly experiencing some sort of psychological military-related trauma?

Dr. Page Brown, PsyD and co-founder of Welcome Home Vets, will share information and insights about the symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, Traumatic Brain Injury and more--and how the phenomenon of combat stress affects veterans (both male and female), their families, and the wider community.

Dr. Brown is a clinical and forensic psychologist who specializes in treating military-related trauma. She counsels for the Veterans Administration and for
Welcome Home Vets.

Welcome Home Vets' mission is to provide no-cost psychological services, education, referral and advocacy for veterans, and active duty military members and their families whose needs are not met by existing services.

She will also play us a short DVD featuring an Iraqi war veteran with his family upon his return home with PTSD.  
 


Deadline for reservations:
Sunday, November 13

Newcomers and guests are
always welcome!
 
Co-Presidents' Messages 
Thanksgiving Memories, New Traditions
From Judith McCarrick, Co-President
As a very young child, I loved having Thanksgiving dinner at my grandparents' home. My grandmother did all the cooking, which included preparing a large turkey, making dressing, cranberry sauce, sweet potatoes, mashed potatoes, green beans, hot rolls, and pumpkin pie. Traditional, right?
  
My mother and my aunt set the table and cleared the dishes after dinner and dessert. During dinner, my grandfather would frequently hand an empty dish to my grandmother and ask her to fill it up. At the end of the meal, he'd lean back in his chair and say, "Good dinner, Mother." Then my grandmother and her daughters would do the dishes and put everything away.
  
As I grew older and was also included in some of the chores, I began to ask questions. What did the men do? Answer: Not one thing, with the
exception of bringing extra chairs to the table. When I complained about their lack of participation, my grandfather, my father and my uncles just chuckled, and when I asked why my grandfather called his wife "Mother," they laughed out loud as if I'd told a particularly funny joke.
  
It all seemed very odd to me, but no one else ever questioned our Thanksgiving "traditions" and I discovered that the same lopsided picture was played out in the homes of almost everyone I knew. It was, after all, the 1950s, and women were extolled as goddesses of the home, and, in particular, of the kitchen. Thanksgiving dinner (and Christmas dinner, too, if we're being honest) was a holiday for men and a workday for women.
  
As an adult, I changed all that. In my home, Thanksgiving dinners are always more inclusive. Everyone--male and female--contributes to the cooking, setting and clearing the table, and washing the dishes. No one talks about gender roles, and the only family members who call me "Mother" are my children.
  
I would love to re-create Thanksgiving for my grandmother, paying her the respect she deserved. Though she never said a word, I imagine she was exhausted by the end of the evening.
  
In my re-creation, I'd seat her at the head of the table and let the rest of the family...all the family...treat her like the special, loving woman she was. And I'd ask the men in the family to join the women in the kitchen for preparation and clean-up time.
  
I would make Thanksgiving the day we blew the lid off the 1950s.
 
~JudithMcCarrick
Co-President
 


 

 


 
 


 

From Lynn Wenzel, Co-President
During this time of year, when the rain turns the tree trunks black against blazing oranges and yellows, and pumpkins appear on neighborhood porches, my thoughts turn to remembrances of times past.

It seems only yesterday when Thanksgiving was a huge bash at my parents' house. Of course, all the women spent the entire day in the kitchen, cooking, washing dishes, and setting the table, while the men watched football. We women, as we chatted in the kitchen, often made snarky comments about how useless they were.


We didn't wait for them to make our cocktails. We sipped as we stirred, faces flushed, laughter hearty. It did not escape my notice that the females did all the work. As a baby feminist of about 15, I marched one Thanksgiving into my great aunt and uncle's den declaring that it was about time the guys made themselves useful.

At which point my father told me to get back where I belonged and to stop bossing people around. Wow, have things changed. Now my son and his family host Thanksgiving, he does a lot of the cooking, and we all pitch in on side dishes and cleaning up. I set the table with the help of the grandchildren. So, yes, things have changed for the better, at least for the women.

But, oh, how I miss all those lovely people--my jocund grandmother; my glamorous Aunt Lela; my exquisitely delicate mom; my father the Colonel; Uncle Bert, the ornithologist; and Poppy, who loved poetry AND football in equal measure. They are all gone now and here I am, the matriarch, presiding over a Thanksgiving table filled with family they never met.

The parts have changed, but the play remains the same--another year passes as the ghosts of the beloveds linger around our table. The leitmotiv is, as it has always been, love.

Happy Thanksgiving to you all!
 
~Lynn Wenzel
Co-President

NOTE:
Our December meeting will be held on Wednesday, December 14.
 
As is our tradition, we'll be holding an auction to benefit our Scholarship Program, so plan to bring an item that others can bid on.
 
We'll also be collecting Christmas gifts for our Adopt-A-Family members--a single mom and three young children. 
 
  Look for details in a separate email soon.
In Case You Missed It...
Money's Influence On Our Democracy

At our October meeting Lorraine Reich, of MovetoAmend.org, spoke about the need to end money's undue influence on our Democracy. She specifically discussed Proposition 59, which seeks to pass a 28th Amendment to overturn the Citizens United Act.

As you may recall, in Citizens United, the Supreme Court granted corporations equal protection under the First Amendment, effectively rendering money the same as speech.

Lorraine explained that in a legal sense, money is property, and "speech" constitutes words, not money--therefore, under our Constitution, money is not a form of protected free speech under the First Amendment.

She pointed out that the Freedom of Speech Act is meant for individuals, not corporations. Yet, the Supreme Court has been giving corporations rights over those of individuals over the last 100 years, allowing them to have protection under the First, Fourteenth and Fifth Amendments, among others.

For more information, visit
https://movetoamend.org/about-us

November is National Native American Heritage Month

In honor of this occasion, we pay homage to Wilma Mankiller, the first female Chief of the Cherokee Nation, who declared, "The secret of our success is that we never, never give up."
 
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BPW-NC Executive Committee
Co-Presidents
Lynn Wenzel 477-0746
Judy McCarrick 478-0677
Vice President
Shirley Zeff 273-3010
Treasurer
Lorell Maldoon 477-8401
Secretary
Gail Parle 272-2141

Committee Contacts
Membership
Shirley Zeff 273-3010
Program
Open
Scholarships
Lindy Horwitz 477-1988
Advocacy
Elaine Sierra 274-0738
BPW Foundation Liaison
Angie Lux 272-2402

Mentoring
   
Lynn Wenzel 477-0746
Historian
Gail Parle 272-2141
Newsletter
Beth Volz
831-332-0100
Website & Facebook
W: Phyllis Orzalli 265-5604
FB: Patricia Wolfe 273-0605
 

 
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