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Relationships Matters
by Pastor Patrick Carmichael
 Last week under the heading of "Marriage Matters" I wrote to ask you all to be praying daily for our church's marriage conference. I wanted to follow up this week by saying THANK YOU SO MUCH for faithfully praying! Not only did all the technical details work out (like live streaming, internet, tv, food, child care, etc.) but practical, biblical principles were taught and explained in such an amazing way that some couples at the conference who have been married for decades and been to dozens of marriage conferences said that this was the BEST marriage conference they had ever been to! I've only been to 4, but easily this was the best I've been to! And here's why: it was a conference about practical, biblical, principles dealing with RELATIONSHIPS, not merely MARRIAGES. It was truly 4 sessions of biblical counseling that apply to EVERYONE, regardless of whether or not you are married. And oh how applicable, practical, and biblical these counseling sessions were! After  Friday night ended, after watching two of the four sessions, I told the group that I really wish we had had everyone in our church be a part of this conference. Though it was absolutely advertised as a marriage conference, and though there were specific applications made about marriage, it really was just a relationship conference and how to glorify God in your relationships.
              
The first session dealt with your expectations in relationships. We expect things to go better than they do because we forget:
  1. Our relationships exist in a broken world with sin, pressures, and fallenness
  2. You are a sinner in relationship with another sinner
  3. We have a Redeemer Who is powerful, faithful, and willing to work in relationships. 
The second session dealt with why we fight, argue, and have conflict in relationships, and the biblical answer is very simple and yet incredibly profound: we fight for OUR kingdom not for God's Kingdom. We live to see our little kingdom of self be praised and worshiped, and every law that we make regarding our little kingdom be kept intentionally and perfectly by others. Think about how many times you've been angry, frustrated, or mad at someone this past week. Were any of those times you were angry moments of being angry because the other person had broken God's Law and was unrepentant OR because they broken your laws of your kingdom of self and you got angry? Oh that my kingdom of self would be completely destroyed and God's Kingdom be all that I live for! 

The third session dealt with how to build trust in relationships. Trust is the soil in which good relationships grow. And you'd be surprised at what you are doing with words, actions, and attitudes, to break someone's trust in you and in your friendship. 

The fourth session dealt with living out a regular lifestyle of confession and forgiveness. This session gave practical biblical help for what a Gospel-centered, grace-driven relationship looks like. We so often think of grace as overlooking wrongdoing, but that is not biblical. Grace exposes the wrong with kindness and humility. Grace greets sin with kindness not judgment. You cannot confess what you haven't grieved, and you can't grieved what you haven't seen, and you can't repent of that which you haven't confessed. Therefore, we need relationships in our lives to help us SEE SIN so that we can grieve, confess, and repent.
              
So, the conference was a conference on biblical counseling for relationships. It was AMAZING. I tried every which way to show these in our small groups, but unfortunately, the license we purchased for our conference does not allow for it. But the good news is that you can still watch it on your own by purchasing an individual license. The license is $25 and allows you unlimited rewatching until the end of March. (For those of you who are single, grab a friend and split the cost of the individual license since it covers 1-2 viewers!) Lord-willing this conference will eventually come out on DVD and we can do it in small groups as a church, but until then, these individual licenses would be the best way to watch it. Since it was an actual conference at a church back east, each session contains announcements, worship through song, etc., THEN the actual teaching time. We as a group just fast forwarded to the teaching time which is usually about halfway through each session. So, I wanted to give you the link below so that if you have about 4 hours to give before the end of March (each teaching time is between 45 minutes to 1 hour, and there are 4 teaching times) you could grab the license and start watching right away. Many of the couples who went to the conference are already rewatching the sessions to cement these truths into their lives and their relationships.
              
My prayer for our church is that we would be a church filled with smooth, unified, Christ-centered relationships. Our kingdoms of self always stand in the way of that goal. But Jesus is powerful to destroy our selfishness and pride, faithful to continue the work He has begun in us, and willing every day through His Spirit to sanctify us, burn away sin, and make us look more like Him! The question is: are WE willing to do what it takes to let that work of grace powerfully change us from the inside out?
 
Praying for humble, selfless, brokenness in all of us as we pursue Christlikeness in our relationships, because RELATIONSHIPS MATTER!
 

Family Bible Hour
Women's Bible Study
All ladies are welcome! This is a great time to enjoy relationships with other women and focus our attention on the Lord as well. We just started a new series, reading Women of the Word AND we'll be going through 2 Peter to put into practice what we learn! 

We meet the 2nd and 4th Mondays of each month, January-May at 7:00 p.m. at Carrie Carmichael's in North Hills. Questions? Contact Carrie Carmichael at 818.599.7441. 

Men's Bible Study
The Men's Bible Study meets the  3rd Tuesday of each month, 6:00 - 9:00 p.m at the Caulkins' in Northridge Bring $5 for dinner. And bring a friend!   We're looking at how to teach others how to study the Bible. 

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March 30                Good Friday

April 1                      Resurrection Sunday

May 6                       All Church Picnic

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