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COPE Newsletter March 2018
The Next Level of Healing is Helping







In this Newsletter
Words from Lilly
Healing Tip
Calendar of Events
Parent Columns
Camp Erin Bowl-a-Thon
COPE Highlights
March Passings
March Birthdays
General Donations


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Words from Lilly
COPE President and Founder
 
D ear COPE Families,

From the time that my daughter passed away from me, l have searched for her, looking for anything to ease my suffering from the pain of separation.

I found us in dreams, COPE, signs, messages, thoughts, and synchronicities.

I struggled to reinvent our relationship so that we could coexist.

I discovered after many years that, rather than feeling the distance of death, I could experience loving her as if she were here. I can carve out time to spend with her: meditating, taking a walk, being at the beach, shopping, watching a movie, dancing, singing, doing things we love...existing with her multi-dimensionally.

Love is the other side of grief and can bridge the gap of separation.

Filling our hearts with love helps to wash away the pain and sadness that engulfs us each time we hear of another child passing and siblings, families, and friends grieving their loss.

Lilly
COPE President and Founder
 
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HEALING TIP
There Is No Right Way to Grieve
By Clinical Director, Michelle Graff    

There is no right or wrong way to grieve. We used to believe that grief was a linear process that happened in stages and that by the first anniversary of a loved one’s death we would go back to our old lives as they were. What we know now is that grief isn’t wrapped in a neat package that begins at the time of death and ends abruptly at the one year mark.
CALENDAR OF EVENTS FOR MARCH
Monday
Mid-IslandY JCC, 7:00pm

Mid-IslandY JCC, 7:00pm

COPE at Cedarmere 7:00pm

East Meadow Library 7:00pm


Thursday
For established parents at Syosset Public
Library, 7:00pm

1, 8, 15, 22, 29 Teen Grief Support Group at Rockville Centre Recreation Center 7:00pm

For established parents at Jericho Public Library, 7:00pm
Tuesday
Merrick Library 1:00pm


Wednesday
7, 14,2 1 Teen Grief Support Grou p in Huntington at 7:00pm

Chai Center in Dix Hills, 7:00pm

COPE at Cedarmere 1:00pm


Friday
DASHA Flagship, The Galleria in NYC
6:15pm

United Methodist Church in Ronkonkoma
7pm
PARENT COLUMN
Forever 13
 by Jane Shaw
“13”…It’s just a number. To some it’s bad luck. But to me it was always a very special number. It was the birth dates of my son, Kevin and my youngest daughter Doreen. After I lost Kevin, I would see 13 appear at the most odd times. I didn’t pay much attention to it initially. However, as time passed I realized it took on a whole new meaning.  

PARENT COLUMN
Collage in Memory of my Daughter Kirsten Ramirez
by Marilyn Roldam
Bowl-a-Thon Camp Erin NYC - April 16th
Date : Monday, April 16th

Location : Frames Bowling Alley, NYC 7pm-9:30pm

 
We invite you to join us on April 16th 2018 at Frames Bowling Lounge in Port Authority Bus Terminal for the 2018 COPE-Camp Erin NYC Bowl-a-Thon.

The Bowl-a-Thon raises money to help cover the costs of sending 60 campers to Camp Erin NYC for a weekend. Please join us in our fundraising efforts to accomplish this goal. Together we raised $35,000 in 2017, let's do even better this year! 


COPE HIGHLIGHTS
REGISTER NOW
COPE Foundation Golf Outing

Date: Monday, May 21
Location: Muttontown Club in East Norwich,
5933 Northern Boulevard, East Norwich, NY

To Celebrate Our Honorees
Jill Martin
Cope Honoree
Today Show Contributor
Knicks Broadcaster
 
Sandra R. Wolkoff, PhD., LCSW-R
COPE Parent & Professional Service Award

Shaun Sharp
COPE Sibling Recognition Award
SAVE THE DATE
The Power of the Pen
A Writing Workshop

Date: Saturday, April 28
Time : 1:00pm-2:30pm
Location: COPE at Cedarmere

Have you experienced the power of the pen? Studies have shown that writing not only promotes mental and emotional clarity, validates our own experiences, but also leads us to a deeper understanding of ourselves and others.

Join us at scenic Cedarmere preserve for an inspirational and healing workshop.

RSVP Required.

In the month of March, we remember the following loved ones
who were taken from us before their time.
March Passings
1
Michael Soussa (, Passing) brother of Scott Soussa
Bryan Enczelewski (2015, Passing) brother of Heather Enczelewski
Ken Schwitz (2012, Passing) brother of Tammy Robbins
Suzanne Fox (2010, Passing) daughter of Carol Fox
Michael Villaume (2012, Passing) brother of Robert Villaume
Hedy Jacobowitz (2005, Passing) daughter of Betty Jacobowitz
Gayle Ferdschneider (9999, Passing) daughter of Roxanne Ferdschneider
Nicole Robin (2008, Passing) daughter of Lisa Robin
Gabrielle Azzarelli (2007, Passing) daughter of Camille Azzarelli
2
Cherilyn Duca (2007, Passing) daughter of Emily & Dennis Duca
Lorenzo Fernandez (2014, Passing) son of Laura Fernandez
Trevor Guttman (2011, Passing) son of Susan Guttman
3
Luke Petro (2015, Passing) brother of Kristina Petro
Daniel Frenkel (2017, Passing) brother of Anastasia Frenkel
4
William Grieco (2012, Passing) son of Chris Grieco
Michael Romero (2013, Passing) son of Maria Romero
Amanda Krieger (2006, Passing) sister of Jessica Kieninger
5
Giavanna Melomo (2004, Passing) daughter of Janine Melomo, daughter of Gregory Melomo
Brad Nussbaum (2010, Passing) son of Avrille & Ralph Nussbaum, brother of Martin Nussbaum
Zachary Weltz (2005, Passing) son of Kerri Weltz
Mark Edwin Fant (2012, Passing) son of Winnie Fant
7
Philip Eliot (2011, Passing) son of Gloria & Paul Eliot
8
David Mannino (2015, Passing) son of Linda Mannino
Cara Anderson (2008, Passing) daughter of Helene Anderson
Rebecca Guerin (2011, Passing) daughter of Rose Guerin
Heath Bogin (2015, Passing) son of Esther Bogin, son of Jerry Bogin
9
Jeffrey Lener (2013, Passing) son of Sherwin Lener, brother of Susan Lener
Elissa Rita Bradley (2012, Passing) daughter of Dolores Bradley
10
Marvin Birnbaum (2014, Passing) brother of Elaine Birnbaum
Andrew Mineo (2009, Passing) son of Jo & Vinnie Mineo
Spencer Weiss (2015, Passing) son of Pam and Robert Weiss
11
Joshua Shome (2008, Passing) son of Larry & Paula Shome
12
Jesse Weinstein (2015, Passing) son of Marci & David Weinstein
Vincent Mascoli (2013, Passing) son of Melissa Mascoli
Jonathan Morris (2014, Passing) brother of Jodi Vosilla
13
David Jones (2016, Passing) son of Laurie Jones
Bryan Coyle (2012, Passing) son of Gail Coyle
Howard Brodsky (2005, Passing) son of Harriet & Phillip Brodsky
15
Robert Colan (2016, Passing) brother of Iris Colan
Brian O'Connor (2017, Passing) father of Stephanie and Nicole O'Connor
16
Uzziah Taylor (2012, Passing) son of Audrey Taylor
Andrew Hertzka (2013, Passing) son of Susan & Robert Hertzka
Cara Danika Tobias (2012, Passing) daughter of Nancy & Eric Tobias
Joseph Miles (2007, Passing) grandson of Audrey Robinson
Bobby Beauregard (2012, Passing) brother of Shannon Beauregard
Connor Donohue (2010, Passing) son of Jane Donohue
17
Michael Long (1995, Passing) son of Ariella Long
Jennifer (Jenny) Kash (2000, Passing) daughter of Ellen Kash
Derlo Woolard (2005, Passing) son of Connie Hardman
19
Danielle Cooper (2010, Passing) ) daughter of Paul & Judith Montelione
20
Chelsea Nicole Olsen (2012, Passing) ) daughter of Janet Olsen, sister of Sarah Olsen
Joey Boncic (2015, Passing) brother of Katarina Boncic
Wilfredo (Wil) Lopez (2011, Passing) brother of Waleska Lopez
21
Nick Mytko (2016, Passing) son of Terri Mytko
Dylan Joseph Graham (2011, Passing) son of Cynthia Graham
Alexis Pilkington (2010, Passing) daughter of Paula Pilkington
23
James Romero (2015, Passing) son of Eileen Romero
Michael Eichenbaum (9999, Passing) son of Linda & Lee Eichenbaum
TJ Kelly (2017, Passing) son of Janice & Tom Kelly
24
Melissa Sue Bakker (2009, Passing) daughter of Donna Bakker
Krista Cotuleo (2016, Passing) sister of Vicky Cotuleo
25
Matthew Stanski (2013, Passing) son of Millie Stanski
26
Shane Cotrono (2011, Passing) son of Charlene George
Chani Cohen (2017, Passing) daughter of Ruthie Cohen
28
Ben Sassoon (2011, Passing) son of Susan Sassoon
30
Jimmy Nappo (2006, Passing) son of Marianne Nappo
31
Ryan Bailey (2012, Passing) son of Bill & Susan Bailey
March Birthdays
1
Nicholas (2005, Birthday) son of Nicole Dinoto
Nicole Robin (1978, Birthday) daughter of Lisa Robin
Lori Schiffer (1977, Birthday) daughter of Helen Goldstein
Jim Smith (1968, Birthday) son of Maureen Smith
2
Steven Siegel (1979, Birthday) son of Marc & Marian Siegel, brother of Allison Siegel
Wayne Walther (1992, Birthday) son of Jennifer & Jesse Walther
3
Robert (Bobby) Gerard Pasqualone (1992, Birthday) son of Carolyn Mekeel
Elisheva Basya ( 2010, Birthday) daughter of Sarah Lerner
6
Amy Eberhart (1970, Birthday) daughter of Gail Blume
Eric Fabris (1960, Birthday) son of Barbara Fabris
Jean Stout (1996, Birthday) daughter of Ellen Stout
7
Richard Pusateri (1965, Birthday) brother of Jennifer Mirabelli, brother of Steven Pusateri
Carrie Leibman (1970, Birthday) daughter of Mel & Sophie Krumholtz
Phillip Barlow (1969, Birthday) son of Lydia Barlow
Mikaela Tick (1989, Birthday) daughter of Jeffrey Tick
Thomas Scanlan (1996, Birthday) son of Susan Stoger
8
Michael Villaume (1978, Birthday) brother of Robert Villaume
Samantha ("Sammi") Mergentime (2006, Birthday) daughter of Melanie & Larry Mergentime
Daniel Weiss (1985, Birthday) son of Hannah Weiss
9
Christopher Colella (1989, Birthday) son of Stephanie & Frank Colella
Brian O'Mara (1989, Birthday) son of Ken & Mary O'Mara
10
Jake Sporn (1992, Birthday) son of Russell Sporn
Ryan Speller (1991, Birthday) son of Deborah Speller
11
Matthew Johnson (1981, Birthday) brother of Kimberly Johnson
Jessica Dellaquila (1965, Birthday) daughter of Melinda Lewis
13
Joshua Kuchmeister (1977, Birthday) son of Gary & Linda Kuchmeister
Robert Egan (1995, Birthday) son of Carla Egan
Peter Fedden (1984, Birthday) brother of Jaimee Lee Fedden
14
David Jones (2004, Birthday) son of Laurie Jones
15
Michael Grosvak (1990, Birthday) son of Donald & Kim Grosvak
Robin Frank (1968, Birthday) daughter of Sheila Frank
Keith Ganzer (1962, Birthday) son of Charlotte Ganzer
Stephanie Suhanovski (2001, Birthday) sister of Jillian Finn
Kaeli Kramer (1990, Birthday) daughter of Linda & Peter Kramer
Alex Colligan (1991, Birthday) son of Cathy Colligan
Serjio Torres (1987, Birthday) brother of Jean Torres
16
Cara Satallante (1989, Birthday) daughter of Frank & Raquel Satallante
Dale Dampf (1975, Birthday) daughter of Paula Dampf
17
Ethan Murphy (2003, Birthday) son of Robin Murphy
Deborah Dolgin (1965, Birthday) daughter of Judy & Josh Gilman
Lonny Ostrofsky (1978, Birthday) son of Marilyn Ostrofsky
19
Dana Kraus (1985, Birthday) sister of Marc & Lexi Sternberg
20
Thomas Urraro (1981, Birthday) son of Linda Amodio
Preston Walsh (1992, Birthday) son of Genevieve Walsh
21
Staci Love (1980, Birthday) sister of Kimberli Erlich
Paul Knopf (1977, Birthday) son of Norma & Michael Knopf
22
Gabriel Hilsenrad (1979, Birthday) son of Phyllis & Frank Silverman Sivillo
24
Cheryl Turoff (1954, Birthday) daughter of Sylvia Rassell
Austin Verville (2004, Birthday) son of Christine & Matthew Verville
Matthew Russo (2005, Birthday) son of Audra & Philip Russo
David Dawson (1987, Birthday) son of Fran Dawson
25
Lauren Conde (1980, Birthday) daughter of Rich Fietz
John Dougherty (1973, Birthday) son of Maryann Kilgannon
Brendan Aykroyd (1986, Birthday) son of Sandi Aykroyd
Lauren Conde (1980, Birthday) daughter of Maria Fietz
Chani Cohen (1981, Birthday) daughter of Ruthie Cohen
26
Jay Levitt (1971, Birthday) son of Barbara Levitt
Mitchell Bauman (1959, Birthday) son of Pearl & Leo Bauman
27
Caroline Swift (1959, Birthday) daughter of Freddie Swift
Nick Mytko (1998, Birthday) son of Terri Mytko
John C. Grega (1962, Birthday) son of Marion Grega
David Michael Guzman (1989, Birthday) son of Sonia Lopez
28
Robbie Levine (1996, Birthday) son of Craig & Jill Levine
Marianne Posalie (1969, Birthday) daughter of Ann Posalie
Adam Sanders (1985, Birthday) son of Laurie Sanders, brother of Brian Sanders
29
Bryan Gorycki (1963, Birthday) son of Carol Parmelee
30
Kurt McAuliffe (1990, Birthday) son of Jeannie McAuliffe
31
Michael Ditchik (1962, Birthday) son of Florence & Bernie Ditchik
GENERAL DONATIONS
We thank our generous supporters for making donations to COPE during the month of February: Please click here to view donations made in honor of loved ones (go to Donations February 2018.)
COPE Foundation
PO Box 1251
Melville, New York 11747
516-832-2673