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Question of the Week:
 
A friend and I have been going back and forth in regards to dating. She is in no rush to get married, but feels pressured to "get out there" lest she miss out on her soulmate. I say what will be will be, and if it is meant to happen then it will. Can one's soulmate be "stolen" if they don't act in haste?
 
Answer:
 
It is most certainly possible to miss out on your soulmate. 
 
The Talmud discusses certain times of the year when Jewish law does not allow weddings to take place. One of them is during a festival, like Pesach, as we do not want to mix celebrations together. However the Talmud says that while you can't perform a wedding during a festival, you can make shidduch - a match between prospective mates with a view to get married. The reasoning the Talmud gives is that while a wedding can wait until after the festival, if you delay making a match someone else may beat you to your soulmate. 
 
But how can one person take a soulmate destined for someone else? 
 
Through raising your soul to a higher level. 
 
If you work on yourself, improve your character and refine yourself to a new spiritual plane, then your soulmate changes. A new improved soul gets a new improved soulmate.
 
And who will be that new improved soulmate? Someone whose original soulmate has either fallen to a lower spiritual level and doesn't deserve them anymore, or is dithering around, wondering if they are ready to get married...
 
This teaches us an amazing principle in soulmate searching. The two things that can cause you to lose your soulmate are spiritual decline, or lack of real effort. And the two things that will most help you find your soulmate are self-improvement, and determined effort.
 
Sit around and nothing will happen. But as long as you are out there, and as long as you are working on yourself, you will find him.
 
Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss
 
Sources: 
Talmud Moed Katan 18b, Arizal Shaar Hagilgulim Hakdoma 8

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A Family in Crisis PLEASE HELP
 
It has come to our attention that a certain family in our community is in urgent medical and financial crisis. Due to the magnitude of their needs, their situation warrants a wider community response.
 
The parents of this family were working fulltime until the wife was struck with serious medical issues.
 
She suffered a number of strokes and underwent brain surgery, leaving her with physical and cognitive impairment and emotional instability.
She has diabetes and unfortunately had to have one of her legs amputated. She is losing her sight. Her kidney function has also been affected.
She has recently been in and out of hospital for serious wound care.
She has had great difficulties with her prosthesis. As a result she is not mobile. She needs to see a private doctor and have private physiotherapy to facilitate her rehabilitation.
She has carpal tunnel in both hands and needs surgery for them.
All of this is complicated by the fact that they have no private health coverage, as they can not afford it. They do not have the funds for much needed private medical services: doctors, tests, physiotherapists etc. Having quality care for her at this moment is vital due to her complicated medical issues.
 
They have children, some themselves with medical issues, one in particular with a serious condition, which necessitates her to be in hospital for considerable amounts of time. This child does have private health care, but even so there is a significant shortfall in finances.
 
The husband works full time. He is himself not in the best of health. Whenever his wife is in hospital he must be with her as she cannot emotionally manage without him.  In those circumstances, he misses work and does not get paid.
 
There is therefore a serious shortfall between their weekly income and their expenses. They are falling behind in a very big way.
 
A small group has been formed to assist this family including Mrs Hadassa Bension, who has been employed as a rehabilitation carer for the wife, and is helping with medical management and counselling.
 
Because of the family's complex and chronic financial and medical situation, we are appealing to the wider community for help to ensure the situation does not deteriorate any further.
 
We want to help this family in the most dignified, respectful, responsible, organised and transparent manner. To that end, all funds will be directed to Tikva Inc. - a tax-deductible charity organisation run efficiently with meticulous and up to date records by Mrs Devora Markovits and her board. She will pay all this family's bills and expenses directly to ensure that their needs are met.
 
We urge you to help as much as you can by donating to the account below, and thank you so much for your assistance in this very worthy and urgent cause.
 
Please make your tax deductible donation to:
Name:  Tikva Inc.     
BSB: 032051    
Account No: 849297
 
Wishing you blessing and success,

Rabbi Eli Cohen            Rabbi Michoel Chriqui     Rabbi Michoel Gourarie
Rabbi Reuvein Klein     Rabbi Paul Lewin           Rabbi Aron Moss
Rabbi Avrohom Perlow Rabbi Levi Wolff             Rabbi Shua Solomon
 

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Friday, 11 August, 2017 |19 Av 5777
Candle Lighting............................. 5:05pm 
Mincha........................................ 5:15pm
Friday Evening Service...................6:00pm
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Shabbos, 12 August , 2017 | 20 Av 5777
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Shabbos Morning Service ........ 10:00am- 12:20pm 
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