Most of you don't know that when I was much younger and in my workplace, I worked at an outlining unit with 60 men and 2 women.  There were about 60 of us located at a small airport. Most of the guys were pilots, or AIO officers, who assisted the pilots and I was a "secretary."

 

One of the things I would constantly do for them would be answer questions about women. The guys that were married and the guys that were single, always had these questions about the opposite sex so I guess you could call me a type of "Black Dr. Ruth.

 

At this point in my life I really wasn't interested in another title for me or my business, however, I recently had another Speaker on my radio show and we talked about "bucket lists." 

 

She asked me what makes me smile everyday and I told her my mate and my children; Then she asked me what did I used to do that I enjoyed but is no longer doing now and I thought about how meditation made me so alert and smart in the past, but I no longer was doing it on a regular basis so I started back; Then she asked me what is still on my bucket list?

 

At the time I could not think of anything else that I wanted to conquer in this lifetime because I was totally happy.  At 61, I was very happy and thought that I had done everything that I really wanted to do with my life, however, I thought about when I released the book "Love After 50: Love Questions from DearCathy.com After Hours" in 2015, I thought seriously for a minute about becoming a "Matchmaker".

 

However, that was 2 years ago and I still had a lot of topics I wanted to touch on before driving deep into relationship topics, even though I had released this wonderful, timely book for my audience and was constantly answering questions on relationships through my DearCathy.com platform. 

 

But now at this point in my life, I have made room for something else, something new, especially after releasing -- hopefully -- my last painful book, "The Military Dirty Little Secrets: My Tour of Duty."

 

The military book helped me find closure in what was considered a very painful time in my life.  After building a black women's movement in 2017 - -  "The Essential Women's Movement for African American Women" and teaching my audience how to grow their own foods with our organic food movement "Virtual Organic Garden Clubs" and now launching a business movement in January 2018, MobileLearningClubs.com, our 3rd movement within a year -- and releasing other great information into the universe, I just felt I could handle another title and topic.

 

I also thought about this topic after educating my audience with a series of articles on cancer in late 2017 and how men lose their libido,  especially before the age of 40 from prostate cancer, so I knew I had to get to men before age 40.

 

I knew the Matchmaker service would cater to singles and couples in their 40s. Then I said...okay if I could combine all the information that I am putting out there with a new Matchmatcher service, not only could I help my audience KEEP THEIR LIBIDOS (aka "sexual drive"), but I would actually be doing the SAME WORK that I already do...enough said that was all the reasoning I needed. I knew I had to do this!

 

The only dilemma I see is if I plan on helping my clients and customers who are 40 years old, most will want younger women at least in 30s, so I will still allow those 30 and up (and even younger) to join our club.

 

I initially wrote the book, "Love After 50: Love Questions from DearCathy.com After Hours"  because so many older women, 50 and older, were constantly crying and complaining because they said they could not find a mate.

Happiness is an inside job and don't let anyone tell you it's not. Some women buy all these beautiful things around them, then they have to cry themselves to sleep at night because they are all alone and just unhappy.

Some spend hours on the phone gossiping, criticizing and complaining about their lives or watching hours and hours of television, instead of turning their homes into LEARNING CENTERS or LEARNING CLUBS, where they can empower themselves and their families and build a new life.

 

I was single for years but I was totally happy and what many would probably call "married to my business." You need to put all that sexual energy into something else -- a hobby, a business or travel. 

Did you know if I did not get with my mate in Austin, TX, a beautiful man that I have known for over 25 years, I seriously considered moving overseas to Paris or Italy, and just writing books and reading excerpts at local book signings and enjoying the people around me there?

When we are born, there is  no set path  for anyone...and where you end up is sometimes 

meant to be  so for many ladies, don't limit yourself -- instead look for mates in other races and other places -- and even other countries. 

 

I have spoken to tons of disgruntled single women, who have homes. They spend every dime they have on these big, lonely, empty homes and can't do anything else but pay the mortgage, keep the lights on, and buy toxic GMO processed foods. 

Instead, they need to sell these homes and downsize and get out there and eat good, clean, organic foods, drink good water, take good supplements, exercise and get plenty of rest -- and most of all --  HAVE FUN!!!  

Be courageous enough to step out on your faith and build the type of life that you can truly love.  And most of all never forget that no one can complete you -- BUT YOU!!!

Good luck!!!

Book Trailer 1 - Love After 50