There is an old adage that states, "People plan and the Angels laugh." Another saying asserts, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans."
There is wisdom in both of these expressions, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't take the time to reflect on what you would like to have happen in your life and develop thoughts as to how to go about realizing your wishes.
However, in doing so, I would suggest you reach out to your Higher Self/Soul to help you determine why it is you chose to incarnate at this point and time. What is the lesson or lessons you need to learn? Why did you choose your parentage? Was it for nurture or to face and overcome conflict or tragedy?
In answering these questions, you may begin to unravel your potential fate or intended destiny, as well as figure out whether they might be the same or different.
But, whatever the answers you may or may not come up with, it is most important to, eventually, turn away from the wall and start doing.
If you think you have a handle on your future, be open to the variations or possible changes to your plan.
If you feel you have no clue as to why you're here or what your future may be, then trust the Universe to move you in the right direction.
Realize that's possible by understanding "thinking" is just one of the tools at your disposal. Intuition will be your greater aid. And, intuition is only honed by using your senses to comprehend and appreciate your life in this dimension. So, live it, fully!
Know that, by taking the road which brings you joy, you will, ultimately, unravel the secret as to your destiny. And, your success will come in embracing that destiny, so you may be able to join with the Angels in their laughter.