Transformation  Ministries
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  New 6 Week
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"Agape Road"
by Bob Mumford  

This is a wonderful journey of discovering the Love of the Father and what things in our life that can block us from walking in intimate relationship with Abba Father. One hour classes will start in June and be conducted on Wed.mornings at 10am at the TM office. Cost is only $65 and will be facilitated by Joe Beckham. For more information call Joe at 205-337-2870 or
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We provide the following services to families or individuals in our community with no fees or costs to the families: 

1. Biblical Counseling for families  or individuals dealing with:       
    -   Inner Healing for the
        Wounded Heart
    -   Marriage 
    -   Substance Abuse
    -   After-Care Training 
    -   Interventions 
    -   Parent "Coaching"
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2. Support Groups for parents, spouses or individuals affected by substance abuse.


3. Resource assistance for anyone looking for detox, drug rehab or aftercare.

4. Transformation and recovery mentoring for men and women looking for help.

5. Coming Soon: The "Healing House" which is a place and ministry where people from all faiths and locations can come to receive physical, mental, emotional and spiritual healing. TM School of Ministry is training and equipping an army of prayer warriors to host and minister at the Healing House.  For more information about the Healing House Ministry and how you can be a part of that, call Rock Hobbs at 205-470-3830.

Please pray for the continued blessings of the Lord on this work for the Kingdom. If you'd like to help, you can donate on line at: www.trministries.org, we can take monthly donations via credit cards or mail in support to: Transformation Ministries,
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Control-Rebellion-Rejection Stronghold

How this stronghold locks family relationships in a constant environment of turmoil..... 
 
Recently through my studies with Restoring the Foundations Ministry, the Lord has revealed to me a major demonic stronghold that is attacking our family relationships both with our children and in our marriages. It is called the Control-Rebellion-Rejection (C-R-R) stronghold and I wanted to briefly talk about how it operates in our  homes. It is a sly "devil" in that it operates under the banner of helping the other person or many times "quietly responding" to another persons attempts to control.

There are two main assumptions: First, that we try to control things to maintain power or to avoid pain. And pain can be a wide range of things from fear of something bad happening to fear of not getting needs met but usually is generated by some form of fear and we don't want to feel that pain;  Second, that when one person begins to control the other person in any point of time in a relationship, the other person will react to that attempt to be  controlled.  This reaction will be either Rebellion or Rejection. And that reaction can either be in an Active or Passive outward expression. So let me draw a little picture and the "bubbles" we jump into when the C-R-R stronghold is operating. 
 
So here's how it works. Something happens in any point of time in a relationship between two people lets say a Mother and her son. Mom is afraid of decisions the son has been making so she jumps into the "Control Bubble".  She begins to scheme, reason, argue her point or manipulate the son in a discussion over those decisions. Her motives may be power ("I'm in control here") or they could be fear of pain("I  don't want you to get arrested or hurt"). Either way the control begins.

The son then instantly jumps into one of the two bubbles above, Rebellion or Rejection. And he can either outwardly express his rebellion or rejection or he could passively respond and then act out deceptively in private. One son may argue or resist your control but ultimately respond correctly or incorrectly.... but at least you knew where he was. The other son may say, "Oh, yes ma'am" and then later just quietly do what he wanted to do anyway. 

So here's the stronghold: once the son reacts to mom the controller, he then jumps out of his bubble into the bubble of Control in order to recover power or stop the pain and in that instant becomes the Controller. When that occurs the original Controller, Mom,  does what? She reacts and ends up jumping into one of the other two bubbles, Rebellion or Rejection. Most of the time, especially if their is not a supporting Father in the picture, the bubble jumped into is almost always Rejection. The mom feels hurt, disrespected, unloved and may even get angry initially but usually ends up withdrawing and isolating from the conflict.

The reason this stronghold is so deadly in family relationships is that we can be in all three bubbles at the same time and the shifting of reactions and hurt goes on in a death spiral until there is an emotional or mental breakdown  OR until we learn how to let God break us free.

Well, God's solution is simple. We need to give up the need to Control. Whether the parent, spouse or child, the Control bubble is the only place where the C-R-R stronghold can really be broken.  We teach about this in our School of Ministry classes and we see healing in families and marriages because God's promise in          2 Peter 1:3,4: where God promises us that "...His divine nature has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge of him who called us by his glory and goodness...that we can escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires..." In this case the evil desire is the need to control....

As parents what we need to learn from Abba Father, is the ability to transition from "parenting our child's performance" to "fathering or mothering their hearts."  When we walk in His divine nature, and learn to trust God with our children we are able to die to self in terms of having to be right or in control and begin to operate in the relationship with Agape love. Now don't get me wrong. We still can be concerned and engaged parents or spouses but we don't have to live in anxiety over dealing with our children or spouse.
Breaking the stronghold of C-R-R in families can result in a totally new and peaceful environment.

If you'd like to learn about C-R-R and how God wants us to break free from this stronghold, give me a call or set up an appointment to come talk with me. You can also sign up this fall for our next semester of classes.

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Parents/Spouses Beware!

Kratom...
"a dangerous substitute for opiates"

I am posting this article on Kratom again because I have been dealing with so many families recently that have been dealing with this "legal" form of substance abuse. Although banned in it's country of origin,Thailand, it is still sold over the counter legally here in Birmingham. But parents don't be fooled, this is a "pain reliever" that has many dangerous side affects.
The information below is provided as an information source about a very problematic and relatively new "herb/drug". It is legal and is sold as an herbal pain reliever. Often prepared as a liquid tea. Imported from Indonesia. It attaches to the same receptors in the brain as a substitute for opiates and  is suggested by proponents for use to help come off opiates.  It does not show up on current drug tests however. Newer products are on the shelves here in Alabama packaged in what looks like a common "5 hour energy" drink.  But parents beware, it is addictive and according to some sources very deadly. Check out the video below:

                                
                                                







                                                                                
 
Isaiah 50:10-11