DAILY MEDITATION

An Honest Being-With
March 15
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Being with a friend in great pain is not easy. It makes us uncomfortable. We do not know what to do or what to say, and we worry about how to respond to what we hear. Our temptation is to say things that come more out of our own fear than out of our care for the person in pain. Sometimes we say things like "Well, you're doing a lot better than yesterday," or "You will soon be your old self again," or "I'm sure you will get over this." But often we know that what we're saying is not true, and our friends know it too.

We do not have to play games with each other. We can simply say: "I am your friend, I am happy to be with you." We can say that in words or with touch or with loving silence. Sometimes it is good to say: "You don't have to talk. Just close your eyes. I am here with you, thinking of you, praying for you, loving you."
Henri Nouwen
For further reflection...

Then Jonathan knew that his father intended to kill David.  Jonathan got up from the table in fierce anger; on that second day of the month he did not eat, because he was grieved at his father's shameful treatment of David.  In the morning, Jonathan went out to the field for his meeting with David.  He had a small boy with him, and he said to the boy, "Run and find the arrows I shoot."  As the boy ran, he shot an arrow beyond him.  After the boy had gone, David got up from the south side of the stone and bowed down before Jonathan three times, with his face to the ground.  Then they kissed each other and wept together -- but David wept the most. - I Samuel 20: 33-35, 41 (NIV)
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Text excerpts taken from Bread for the Journey, by Henri J.M. Nouwen, ©1997 HarperSanFrancisco. All Scripture from The Jerusalem Bible ©1966, 1967, and 1968 Darton, Longman & Todd and Doubleday & Co. Inc. Scripture chosen by L. Yeskoo.
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