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As a follow up to last month's article on things that mentally strong people do, the following are 10 things that mentally strong people won't do under any circumstances:
1. They don't dwell on mistakes
When you fixate on the problems that you're facing, you create and prolong negative emotions and stress, which hinders performance.
2. They don't hang around negative people
Negative people are bad news because they wallow in their problems and fail to focus on solutions. They want people to join their pity party so that they can feel better about themselves.
3. They don't stop believing in themselves
Mentally strong people persevere. They don't give up in the face of failure, and they don't give up because they're tired or uncomfortable.
4. They don't wait for an apology to forgive
Mentally tough people know that life goes a lot smoother once you let go of grudges and forgive even those who never said they were sorry.
5. They don't feel sorry for themselves
Feeling sorry for yourself is, in essence, declaring that you're a helpless victim of circumstance.
6. They don't hold grudges
The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. Holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.
7. They won't let anyone limit their joy
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When mentally strong people feel good about something they do, they won't let anyone's opinions or accomplishments take that away from them.
8. ...and they don't limit the joy of others
Mentally strong people don't pass judgment on others because they know that everyone has something to offer, and they don't need to take other people down a notch in order to feel good about themselves.
9. They don't get lazy
People who exercise twice a week for 10 weeks feel more socially, intellectually, and athletically competent. They also rate their body image and self esteem higher. Best of all, physical changes in the body are responsible for an uptick in confidence, which is key to mental toughness.
10. They don't get negative
Keep your eyes on the news for any length of time, and you'll see that it's just one endless cycle of war, violent attacks, fragile economies, failing companies, and environmental disasters. It's easy to think the world is headed downhill fast. And who knows? Maybe it is. But mentally strong people don't worry about that because they don't get caught up in things they can't control.
Travis Bradberry, Contributor - forbes.com