I came across an article in Sojourners Magazine written by Christian Piatt titled 10 Things Christians Should be Saying More Often. I have condensed it here for you.
1. "I'm sorry".
There's plenty of hurt in the world related to Christianity, and even though we may not personally be responsible for it, it's amazing how far an apology will go.
2. "How can I help?"
Sometimes we diagnose problems and come up with the solution without actually talking with the folks we're supposedly helping. Yes, it's more vulnerable to ask a question like "How can I help?' since the answer might require much more of us than we planned on. But that's the risk of doing real servant work.
3. "I don't know."
Some of us have been taught to believe that we always have to have an answer to every question having to do with our faith. But better than pat, rehearsed answers is the humility of admitting we have no idea sometimes.
4. "I could be wrong."
The idolatry of certainty could be one of the most damaging things in any faith tradition - or in any cultural system, for that matter. When we hold too fast to an idea we've created a space where being right is more important than doing right.
5. "What do you think?"
Asking people their thoughts on the Christian faith, the Bible or anything else is a healthy practice for all involved. In fact, I learn more about my faith sometimes from non-Christians. It's always a good idea to talk with people from other backgrounds to lend us some necessary perspective from time to time.
6. "I love you."
It sounds nice to say, "God loves you," but it's a real and important risk to say, "I love you."
7. "Tell me more..."
Showing genuine interest in the lives and stories of others is the foundation of Christ-like community. In the past, Christendom's aim was mainly assimilation, a post-Christendom world requires us to be willing to be changed as much as we seek to affect change. It's no longer about eradicating differences, but rather, it's about cultivating a love that is stronger than those differences.
8. "That just sucks."
Just because we're Christians doesn't mean we have been commissioned with fixing everything. Solutions don't always go as far as empathy.
9. "Let's give it a try."
It's in the nature of institutions to resist change, but we are called to prepare - to make room and clear space in anticipation of something new. Our faith requires a childlike "What's next?" kind of openness, rather than leaning so heavily on the spirit-killing mantra of "But we've always done it this way."
10. Say nothing at all
Filling awkward silences with chatter is common in our culture, but Christians are particularly guilty of falling back on clichés when there's dead air. Sometimes the best gift we can offer is simply to be present, or maybe to listen. We could start by adding intentional silence more often into our own spiritual practices, just to get used to how it feels.