James Tobin, Ph.D.             

Parent Guidance 
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Pia Mellody on Self-Esteem 

The Dating and Relationship Group 

In the last meeting of the Dating and Relationship Group, we began to explore the work of Pia Mellody, a nationally-recognized expert on co-dependence and love addiction.  For our next meeting on Saturday, April 19, I would like to present Mellody's perspective on self-esteem.  Throughout her work, Mellody argues that due to conflict and distress in our families of origin, many of us are left with an illusion of self-value that leaves us vulnerable to shame, chaotic emotional states, and dysfunctional relationships.  In a compelling presentation, Mellody discusses various forms of damaged personal worth and how they are manifested in a value-power-abundance framework.  This framework is perhaps one of the most pragmatically useful models of psychological health I have encountered.  If you plan to attend on Saturday, please try to view Mellody's presentation beforehand.


Men on Strike


"Men on Strike": The Work of Helen Smith, Ph.D. 

The Men's Group 

The psychologist Helen Smith has written a provocative book entitled, "Men on Strike: Why Men are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters."  Published in 2013, the book has generated a lot of attention.  Smith argues that men are avoiding what traditionally has been expected of them for a variety of reasons, including a lack of incentive and both direct and indirect anti-male sentiment that has been gradually emerging for decades since the emergence of feminism. Smith essentially claims that men are getting a bad rap and are progressively adapting a "learned helplessness" approach to societal changes turning against them.  In the next meeting of the Men's Group on Saturday, April 19, I will present Smith's major contentions and am certain they will generate a lot of opinions and reactions from those men in attendance. To acquaint yourself with Smith's ideas, please view the following: video 1, video 2, video 3, and video 4.  


If you plan to attend a group on Saturday, April 19, 2014, please RSVP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com.  The Men's Group will meet at 10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon, and the Dating and Relationship Group at 12:00 PM to 1:15 PM.  The fee is $25.00, and there is a limit of 12 people for each group.  Both groups will be held at The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.  

James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 | jt@jamestobinphd.com