James Tobin, Ph.D.             

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The Weakened Masculinity of Modern Man: Revisiting Oedipus (Part II) 

The Men's Group

In our last group meeting, I presented the myth of Oedipus and Freud's narrative of the Oedipus and Electra Complexes, a narrative he used to formulate a theory of the child's incorporation of gender, initial emotional experiences of jealousy, competition, and wish abandonment, and, finally, the identification with the same-sex parent.  We began talking about how various breakdowns in the resolution of the Oedipal Complex may leave the boy fraught with numerous problems regarding ambition, self-esteem, sexual identity, and successful sexual pursuits.  In the next meeting of the Men's Group on Saturday, March 15, 2014, we will continue to discuss Freud's interpretation of Oedipus, its ramifications for male psychological development, and its relevance to the contemporary problems of men.  


Inducing and Being Induced: How to Recognize Dysfunctional Relationship Dynamics 

The Dating and Relationship Group 

As a species, we are socialized from birth to compromise various aspects of one's true identity in order to appeal to the primary caregiver.  Although we learn how to play roles in relationships early in development, role-playing continues into adulthood and even across the lifespan.  Every human interaction may be conceptualized from the vantage point of roles, as roles organize emotional experience, the hierarchy of power between individuals and groups, and the execution of tasks.  Human relationships, therefore, revolve around inhibitions and resistances to authentic intimacy given that roles provide an architecture of interpersonal experience and fend off psychological fears and anxieties about closeness.  


      In no other aspect of human life is this most apparent than in romantic relationships.  We unconsciously coerce or "induce" others to act in accordance with our role preference, and in turn we are coerced or induced to act in accordance with the role preferences of others.  These induced roles quickly set into motion a sequence of interactions that constricts a person's relational freedom, thus straight-jacketing the person into a role that, over time, becomes quite rigid and constraining.  

Understanding these induction processes, as well as the unconscious longings that generate them, are perhaps the most important keys to having fulfilling, surprising, and viable relationships.  In our next meeting on Saturday, March 15, 2014, I will discuss these induction processes, explain why they are so prevalent, and help participants learn how they may be avoided and/or dissolved.  

If you plan to attend on Saturday, March 15, 2014, please RSVP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com.  The Men's Group will meet at 10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon, and the Dating and Relationship Group at 12:00 PM to 1:15 PM.  The fee is $25.00, and there is a limit of 12 people for each group.  Both groups will be held at The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.  
James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 | jt@jamestobinphd.com