The holiday season is upon us once more, but many people are not ready to celebrate. They may be grieving the loss of a loved one, or struggling with a broken heart, or in a situation of having to start all over one more time. Whatever the reason, life has become gray and lacking in passion. The holidays loom ahead for us as a big challenge.
This is a time to be gentle with ourselves; to listen to our thoughts and feelings and not abandon ourselves in a whirlwind of activities, trying harder and harder when the heart has been shut down. It is a time to slow down our outer activities and give ourselves time and space to recoup, to shift our perspective from the head to the heart.
The heart is not something that can be blasted open. It has to be nurtured with warmth, the way the sun nurtures a flower to coax it open. The warmth we need comes from love that we find inside. Of course, other people can help, but we need to find our own connection to the heart to sustain us. Divine love is the only thing that is real in the world and we all have access to it. By focusing on loving ourselves we are awakening to our higher self.
I remember a time when I questioned this. What does self-love even look like? How do I go about loving myself? Where do I start? I learned that it is a process that we begin not knowing where it will lead. Time spent alone in nature, journaling, in prayer and meditation, and observing the ego with a desire to not let it control my life were some things that worked for me. It is a journey, not a destination.
Time spent loving ourselves helps us to regain that warrior spirit that allows us to bounce back. With self-love, we begin trusting ourselves again. We are able to once more open up and allow others in. Honoring ourselves with forgiveness, compassion, courage, and time, will bring us back around to feeling alive again, and will rekindle that passion for life.