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How to Break Through Old Limitations
Insight from Martha
As many of you know, my system of coaching consists of several conceptual "tools" that can quickly cut through the chatter of people's socialization and connect them with their essential self. Recently, I have modified one of the tools, turning it from a paring knife into a sort of Swiss Army affair with additional flanges. Because this exercise has helped me get through the month, I want to share it with you.
Right now, in your imagination, call up a persistent problem that you have been unable to solve for yourself. Maybe you never get the rewards you feel you deserve, or you can't get rid of the clutter in your home, or your health just keeps failing you. Maybe you can't stop kidnapping zoo animals and hiding them in your bathtub. Whatever this problem is, the persistency with which it occurs and your inability to make it go away show that it is hiding in a mental blind spot. You are the common factor in all these situations, and the likelihood that they are happening to you by sheer random bad luck is vanishingly small. I know you don't know what you are doing to cause this problem, but I'm willing to piss you off by saying that you are doing something.
(By the way, we were all educated in a system where the "right" and "wrong" answers were determined by the system's definitions. In that sort of environment, you can argue your way from a C- to a B+ by making excuses, pointing out how much stress you are under, or showing the teacher where the test was wrong. Don't even try that here. If your life isn't working, you can be sure that there is a cause and effect reality at play. For example, if you tried a thousand times to make fire by bashing two rocks together, it would not be your teacher's judgment that would show you failure. You could not argue the rocks into creating fire for you or into feeling sorry for all the stress they are putting upon you. Your life gives you solid, empirical evidence that what you are doing does not work.)
Now comes the tricky part: Holding your problem in your mind, relax all your muscles and breathe deeply and without effort. Instead of thinking about your problem, feel the energy of the problematic situation as a sensation that affects your entire body. You may notice strong emotions arising without quite knowing what they mean. Just keep breathing, and if you are tempted to become analytical, repeat in your mind words like "let go," "relax," and "be still." Keep feeling. Somewhere in this welter of emotion, you will connect with a sensation of yearning. Oddly, you may not feel this as your own yearning; rather, it is the problematic situation itself that is yearning to change. Where you may think you want a certain person to love you, truly and romantically, the situation may be yearning for you to stand up for yourself. Where you may believe it is up to you to organize those papers in your office, the situation may be begging you to bring in another person whose filing skills are better than yours. Where you may think you should take charge of your teenagers, the situation may be yearning for you to relax and laugh with your children, to accept them without reservation and to trust them to keep themselves safe.
It may take five or six minutes before you get even a flicker of this sensation. We are so used to working these problems in our minds that letting go to see what wants to happen can at first be a baffling experience. Let the emotional power of your wish for a better life motivate you to persist in this exercise until you can feel what your life is begging for.
You will then be faced with some interesting choices, because the situation will not be yearning for what you already know how to do. It may not even ask you to do something that you think is logical or "right." Feel free to go back to your old methods of dealing with this issue. The next time it kicks you in your teeth--and it will--this exercise will be waiting for you to reorient your approach. When you take the leap of faith to do what your wilder instincts recommend, you will break through old limitations and find that the problems evaporate.
~ Martha
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Upcoming Live Events ~ and a Contest!
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See Martha at O You! in Atlanta, GA
On October 15, 2011, Martha and O, The Oprah Magazine will take over the Georgia World Congress Center in Atlanta for a day dedicated to you and living your best life! Every year, this full-day event brings O readers from around the world together for a truly memorable day of learning, inspiration and fun!
Click here to read Martha's interview with O - and find out what she says about living fully, falling in love with Africa and the memoir that got her into big trouble.
 Martha, IKEA and O, The Oprah Magazine have joined forces to bring you two exciting programs: Free Life Improvement Store Seminars Each interactive Life Improvement Seminar will be hosted by a Martha Beck Certified Master Coach who will teach you how to live your best life by surrounding yourself with things you love. You'll learn what your house says about you and how changing things in your home - both big and small - can change your state of mind. Click here for dates and store locations. The Life Improvement Sabbatical Contest Do you have a dream to help others and the world? The winner of the Sabbatical Contest wins a chance to spend a year (and $100,000) improving the lives of others. They also get to meet and develop an action plan with Martha while relaxing at a resort in Phoenix, AZ. Imagine the dreams you could bring to life if you had a little help! |
How to Just Say No! (Kicking the Yes Man Habit) With Master Coach Sheila Whittington 
Your tongue is curled at the roof of your mouth to make the "N" sound and your lips are already in the "O" position, yet somehow, the word YES tumbles out. AGAIN! Join Martha Beck Master Coach Sheila Whittington as she teaches you how to form the word NO in your head and then effortlessly roll it off your tongue and out of your mouth when you really mean it. Date: Tuesday, October 18th Time: 5pm PT / 6pm MT / 7pm CT / 8pm ET Single-session telecourse, 60 minutes. Registration: $29 Click here for details. How to Overcome Your Inner Approval Addict With Master Coach Amy Pearson 
You've got a social function coming up. You're freaking out because you don' t have the "right" dress. You know you're going to be worrying about everything you say and will more than likely spend the entire drive home going over what you could've done differently to make a better impression next time. If any of this sounds familiar you are more than likely addicted to approval! Join Amy Pearson, a recovering approval junkie, for this fun, informative and interactive class! Date: Wednesday, November 9 Time: 5pm PT / 6pm MT / 7pm CT / 8pm ET Single-session telecourse, 60 minutes.
Registration: $29 Click here for details. Can't make the class but still want the content? Starting in the middle of the course? No worries! All course participants receive a downloadable MP3 recording of each class. | |
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Martha's Bookshelf
 The statement "truth is stranger than fiction" is more true of current neuroscience than it is of soap operas. Fabulous new books seem to come out on a monthly basis, and more and more things are being discovered about the strange little blob of cells in our heads that are capable of changing the world and traveling to the moon. Incognito: The Secret Lives of the Brain by David Eagleman is one of those books.
There's more information in this book than I can summarize briefly, so I'll just hit a couple of points I found especially intriguing. The most dramatic finding in my mind is the discovery of how little we actually perceive about the events happening around us.
Click here to read the entire article on Martha's blog.
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January Life Coach Training
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Are you feeling called to become a Martha Beck Coach?
This is your last chance to take the training at the current rate!
We've added new instructors and classes to the training, which means we'll be increasing the price next time around. Grab this opportunity now and you'll get structure, inspiration, lots of practical knowledge to get you started, and a deep personal clarity that will give you confidence and energy to make your coaching dream a reality.
F*R*E*E Information Call Wednesday, November 30th!
To learn more about this life-altering program, join Martha and Life Coach Training Coordinator Abigail Steidley for a f*r*e*e* informational
call on Wednesday, Nov 30th at 4:00 pm PT / 7:00 pm ET.
Register for the call by clicking here and providing your name and e-mail address in the box. If you can't make the call live,
no worries. There will be a recording!
Want to hear more now?
Click on Abigail's picture above to be taken to the information page. Scroll down and click on the "On MBI Coach Training" video.
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Coach Offerings
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 Fearless About Finances with Terry DeMeo
Money lizard gotcha? Avoid paying your bills? Afraid to ask for money for your services? Learn to create a healthy relationship with money in this six week class filled with powerful exercises, tools, and group coaching. "This course is life changing, and I mean life changing." ~ former participant. Starts October 19th - More details here.
The Shift: Your Story OR Your Life?
Are you sick of your own story? What's holding you up? Break Free with Certified Martha Beck Life Coaches Keisha Gallegos and Mary Welty-Dapkus and liberate your life. Mondays starting October 17th at
7pm PST. Click here for details.
Why Do I Keep Kissing Frogs?
Join Ellen Hartson, LISW, Certified Martha Beck Relationship Coach for her free Teleseminar on October 11th at 8pm eastern to find out how to quit kissing frogs and find the love of your life! The call will be recorded!
Sign up here.
Moxie Academy
Moxie Academy is for the woman who is yearning to live a bold, juicy, authentic life, but needs support in taking the leaps to get there. Moxie maven Joy Tanksley has created a powerful coaching program that's intimate, individual, deeply transformative, and seriously fun. Click here for details.
 Death and the Divine
Embrace the gifts of death and dying as you hear stories of what happens when we leave our bodies and continue on the journey. Join Master Coach Martha Atkins on October 20th for this 75 minute class. $39.
CEUs for LPC/LMSW. To sign up or get more information, click here.
All New Energy Spa!
Are you feeling tired, weary or overwhelmed by the fast pace of your life? Need an oasis? Join Advanced Energy Master Melani Marx at The Energy Spa for a month of energy spa treatments. Have one or have them all. Guaranteed to help you come back into your own natural balance and center. Join from anywhere now.
Find Your True Voice Working with Horses
Get ready to find your true voice when it comes to relationships! Horses are exceptional at teaching human beings to develop healthy, balanced and loving connections with others. Master Coach and horse whisperer, Koelle Simpson is teaming up with relationship coaches Flora Schule & Victor Cuadra to offer a 3-Day workshop November 11th - 13th.
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Thank You!
Thank you, as always, for sharing space with us in your inbox. There is a lot of buzz out there about Martha's new book, Finding Your Way in a Wild New World: Reclaiming Your True Nature. Pre-order your copy now and watch for more details about this and her new website coming in November!
Happy "fall-is-in-the-air" everyone!
Jennifer Voss
Newsletter Editor
Jennifer@MarthaBeck.com
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