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Mindful Parenting Group
We have been meeting regularly for the past six months to deepen our understanding of parenting with more awareness, clarity, and ease. We have read about, sat in silence, and listened to one another to practice mindfulness. It has been very beautiful to say the least. I continue to be inspired by the stories and honesty we share together as we sometimes fumble into this act of parenting.
We all realize we have a deep commitment and love of parenting, this is why we come together to take time out of our daily schedule to practice together. In our last meet we shared some exercises for mindful parenting by two amazing parents and mindfulness experts. May you use them this summer as you have more time to enjoy (and practice!) with your children. We will continue to meet through the summer at our house. Please join us; we would love to have you! For more info about the mindful parenting group please e-mail Sarah and Jagadisha or call 745-7255
Some Excercises for Mindful Parenting, by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn
1. Try to imagine the world from your child's point of view, purposefully letting go of your own. Do this every day for at least of few moments to remind you of who this child is and what he or she faces in the world.
2. Practice seeing your children as perfect just the way they are. See if you can stay mindful of their sovereignty from moment to moment, and work on accepting them as they are when it is hardest for you to do so.
3. Be mindful of your expectations of your children and consider whether they are truly in your child's best interest. Also, be aware of how you communicate those expectations and how they affect your children.
4. Practice altruism, putting the needs of your children above the needs of your own whenever possible. Then see if there isn't some common ground, where your true needs can also be met. You may be surprised at how much overlap is possible, especially if you are patient and strive for balance.
5. Try embodying silent presence. This will grow out of both formal and informal mindfulness practice over time if you attend to how you carry yourself and what you project in body, mind, and speech. Listen carefully.
6. Apologize to your children when you have betrayed a trust in even a little way. Apologies are healing. An apology demonstrates that you have thought about a situation and have come to see it more from your child's point of view. But be mindful of saying sorry too often making regret a habit.
7. There are times when we need to be clear and strong and unequivocal with children. Let this come as much as possible out of awareness and discernment, rather that out of fear, self-righteousness, or the desire to control. Mindful parenting does not mean being rigid, domineering, or controlling.
8. The greatest gift you can give your child is your self. This means that part of your work as a parent is to keep growing in self - knowledge and awareness. This ongoing work can be furthered by making a time for quiet contemplation in whatever ways feel comfortable to us. We only have right now. Let us use it to its best advantage.