Group Meetings on August 5, 2017

The Dating and Relationship Group:  Moments of Relational Contact: The Psychology of Inflexion  

It is difficult to discover anything new about ourselves alone -- we need the input, feedback, and observations of others to see and understand ourselves more clearly.  In fact, many persons walk around in the world with significant blindspots precisely because they have denied or warded off what was offered to them by others.
In a time of cell phones, texting, and increasing superficiality in our social experience, it becomes even more important that we learn how to encourage and utilize the personal insights we may achieve through our relationships with others.  

The moments of contact between our long-held notions about ourselves and the unique perceptions a significant other can bring is what I call an "inflexion point" and, in my view, is really the vehicle for most pathways toward positive change.  I have realized in my clinical practice with clients over the years that a large portion of the work we do involves promoting a client's ability to cultivate inflexion points in their relational experiences, both with me and then, by extension, all others who play an important role in their lives.
In the next meeting of the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, August 5, 2017 (12:00 to 1:15 PM),  I will present my thoughts on inflexion points and how one can position him- or herself in interpersonal encounters that encourage new discoveries and support positive change. 

The Men's Group:   What Men Want from Women

Heterosexual men often struggle in their romantic relationships with women because they do not know exactly what they want or need from a woman. And painful breakup after painful breakup, men often tell me they now know what they do NOT want in their next relationship. 

Indeed each man is different and has a unique set of priorities re: what he is looking for in a significant relationship with a woman.  But in my clinical work with men, I have been surprised at the extent to which many men have never really deeply thought about or prioritized their personal needs when it comes to a long-term committed relationship with a woman. 

In the next meeting of the Men's Group on Saturday, August 5, 2017 (10:45 AM to 12:00 PM), we will explore the male psychology involved in the selection of potential romantic partners and the degree to which a man's personal and relational needs are actually "conscious" and fully engaged in all phases of a relationship with a woman. 
**To register for the August 5th meetings of the Men's Group (10:45 AM to 12:00 PM) and/or the Dating and Relationship Group (12:00 to 1:15 PM):  If you would like to attend one or both of these groups on August 5, 2017, please RSVP ASAP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or There is a limit of 14 attendees for each group and registrants will be accommodated on a first-come/first-serve basis.  The fee is $25.00 and the location is The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.  Please note that these groups are educational in purpose, not therapeutic, and do not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.**

James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 |