It is difficult to discover anything new about ourselves alone -- we need the input, feedback, and observations of others to see and understand ourselves more clearly. In fact, many persons walk around in the world with significant blindspots precisely because they have denied or warded off what was offered to them by others.
In a time of cell phones, texting, and increasing superficiality in our social experience, it becomes even more important that we learn how to encourage and utilize the personal insights we may achieve through our relationships with others.
The moments of contact between our long-held notions about ourselves and the unique perceptions a significant other can bring is what I call an "inflexion point" and, in my view, is really the vehicle for most pathways toward positive change. I have realized in my clinical practice with clients over the years that a large portion of the work we do involves promoting a client's ability to cultivate inflexion points in their relational experiences, both with me and then, by extension, all others who play an important role in their lives.
In the next meeting of the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, August 5, 2017 (12:00 to 1:15 PM),
I will present my thoughts on inflexion points and how one can position him- or herself in interpersonal encounters that encourage new discoveries and support positive change.
The Men's Group:
What Men Want from Women