#AreTheyOverTheirEx?

A huge part of #ConsciousCoupling is "being here now" which means being 50% of the relationship, putting effort in, and focusing on your partner. However, sometimes it seems one person in the relationship is still hung up on their ex. Occasionally this is true, and sometimes it's not. We're here to help you determine whether or not your have something to worry about.

The first and most obvious sign is if they talk about their ex way too much. If it seems that every other story and memory they share with you or your friends has to do with their ex they might still have feelings for them. On the opposite end of the spectrum your partner never mentioning their ex could be a sign as well. Maybe they do it because you've already fought about it but if that isn't the case it could mean that they feel guilty for still having feelings for them and doesn't want to risk letting you find out.

Another sign is via social media; constant contact through Facebook, Twitter, e-mail, and the like with an ex could mean that they miss speaking to them. If they are doing this and are still completely invested in your relationship and you don't feel neglected at all, it's likely that it isn't threatening. But if it becomes that way then you should deal with it and have them cut the cord. If they say they can't that's a red flag. Again, a big part of #ConsciousCoupling is being able to talk about whatever is bothering you with your partner and not feeling judged or embarrassed. If you have a gut feeling that your partner isn't over their ex, talk to them. More often than not having a gut feeling about something indicates that there is something that needs to be dealt with.

The last big sign has to do with the bedroom. If you and your partner are having trouble having sex it could be an indication that someone is more focused on someone else and not the other person in the room. Additionally, if your partner says an ex's name during sex they're probably thinking about them at a time where the focus should be on you. 

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