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 Loving Who You Are

 January, 2013

Quote of the month


"I didn't belong 

as a kid, and that always bothered 

me. If only I'd known that one 

day my differentness 

would be an asset, then my early 

life would have 

been much easier."

by Bette Midler, actress.

My Services
Pre-Marital Counseling
Certified Prepare/Enrich Program Facilitator
Marital Counseling
Infidelity Issues
Self-Esteem Support
Problem-Solving Support
Renew Marital Excitement
Family counseling

Divorce Support
Collaborative Law Communications Facilitator
Redefining Life Purpose
Grief/Loss Support

Family Counseling


I welcome the opportunity to help you work through current issues and to look at your future with a sense of hope and purpose.


Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


NJ work experience totaling 5 years


Married 24 years


Mother of 2 teenage daughters 


Lived in Indiana, 

New Jersey and Texas


Passionate about 

what I do




We all have something unique about us.  Are you aware of what is unique about you?  Discovering what is special about ourselves allows us to be able to share that gift with others.  Do you know what it takes to be the best YOU? Now that the holiday season and all its splendor is winding down, take a moment to recognize what is special about you, how you can share that with others and love yourself for who you are.


Keeping that in mind, I have co-authored a book that will have its early release on January 15th. This book is a collaboration of 15 authors who share their story of triumph over challenges in their life and how they have taken those challenges and overcome them to be able to help others to do the same.  I invite you to stay tuned to other announcements in the coming weeks.  In the meantime, think about how you can reflect on who you are, discovering the best parts of yourself and deciding ways to share those talents with others.


Enjoy the information below and as always, please pass it on to anyone you believe may benefit from its content.



Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT

Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center

420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140

Southlake, TX 76092




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From The Positive Perspective.......


We are all very good at pointing out what is not good about ourselves.  Some of us believe we are too short or too tall or have the wrong hair color or have the wrong skills to be successful in life.  Do you ever take the time to really look inside yourself and acknowledge what is good?  I have heard many people say to me in session that if they acknowledge good things about themselves they feel they are being boastful, conceited or self-absorbed.  Well, there is a fine line there.  If we go around all day telling others how good we are and looking for a response, then, yes, that is being boastful.  But is there a happy medium between ignoring what is good about you and being boastful about it?  Absolutely.  Let's explore that.


Take a moment to think about some comments you have heard about yourself lately.  Others might tend to say that you have a great smile or that you are very giving in nature.  Some might comment on how organized you were through the holidays or how beautifully you wrapped your presents this year.  Do you believe them? Can you simply say "Thank You" to the comment or do you discount what they say?  Happiness needs to come from inside our souls and we need to truly believe that we are all good in some way.  By recognizing the good in us, we take control of our emotions and of our life and we don't leave it in the hands of someone else.  While it is wonderful to be influenced by others from time to time, we need to be in control of our own destiny.  We can do that by looking in the mirror and telling ourselves that we love and accept who we see in that mirror unconditionally. Try it.


By finding the good in us without saying the "but", we can enhance confidence in ourselves and believe that deep down we are a good person.  For example, "I cooked a wonderful holiday dinner for my family", not "I cooked a wonderful holiday dinner for my family but the turkey was a little dry."  Just say the positives and leave it at that.  It takes practice but I know you can do it. The more we say it, the more we will believe it. Take the good things that you find about yourself and find a way to share them with others without expecting anything in return.  Share just because.......


May you all have a wonderful start to 2013 and may you be able to find the best YOU.


Loving yourself for who you are allows you to look in the mirror, smile and say, "I will love you and accept you From The Positive Perspective."











I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com.  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...