The Dating and Relationship Group: 
The Scientifically-Proven Ingredients of a Good Romantic Relationship
The work of couples researcher John Gottman, Ph.D. will be featured.  Based at the University of Washington in Seattle and the author of numerous highly-acclaimed books, Gottman has been researching couples for over 30 years.  He has gathered a significant amount of data and identified important trends that distinguish the "masters" from the "disasters" in terms of long-term success in romantic love.    In the next meeting of the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, March 19, 2016, 12:00 to 1:15 PM noon, I will summarize the major findings of Gottman's research.  Specifically, we will discuss how Gottman perceives successful conflict resolution in couples, his notion of the love "bank account," the "four horsemen of the apocalypse," and his model of a "Sound Relationship House."  

The Men's Group: 
Man's (New) Best Friend: "Relational Dialysis" -- How to Do It and Why It's So Effective 
The emotional IQ of men is often criticized.  What's more, perhaps the most common problem among heterosexual couples revolves around complaints that the male partner does not listen well, does not provide emotional support, and is too solution-focused.  While most men desire and enjoy intimacy, a substantial portion of men does not understand how to capitalize on opportunities to support and advance emotional bonding with their partners.   In the next meeting of the Men's Group on Saturday, March 19, 2016, 10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon,  I will continue our discussion of the work of couples researcher John Gottman, Ph.D., specifically his model of the "Sound Relationship House," a scientifically-proven conception of the elements of a viable relationship.  We will then turn our attention to "relational dialysis," a pragmatic model of listening that describes the do's and don'ts of positive relational experience.  

To register for the March 19th meetings of the Men's Group and the Dating and Relationship Group:   If you would like to attend the Men's Group (10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon) and/or the Dating and Relationship Group (12:00 to 1:15 PM) on Saturday, March 19, please RSVP ASAP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or There is a limit of 14 attendees for each group and registrants will be accommodated on a first-come/first-serve basis.  The fee is $25.00 and the location is The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.  Please note that these groups are educational in purpose, not therapeutic.  
James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 | 
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