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June 6

Topic: Transforming Your Life

Guest: Judy Schreiber-Mosher, LCSW

 

June 13

Topic: The Power of Yes

Guest: Beverly Molander

 

June 20

Topic: Ending Suffering

Guest: Nate Hinerman Ph.D.

 

June 27

Topic: Making Sense of Parent Loss

Guest: Jesse E. Roberts

 

 


Book Review

 

In this new approach to understanding the impact of grief, Susan A. Berger goes beyond the commonly held theories of stages of grief with a new typology for self-awareness and personal growth. She offers practical advice for healing from a major loss in this presentation of five basic ways, or types, of grieving. These five types describe how different people respond to a major loss. The types are: 
   *  Nomads, who have not yet resolved their grief and don't often understand how their loss has affected their lives 
   *  Memorialists, who are committed to preserving the memory of their loved ones by creating concrete memorials and rituals to honor them 
   *  Normalizers, who are committed to re-creating a sense of family and community 
   *  Activists, who focus on helping other people who are dealing with the same disease or issues that caused their loved one's death 
   *  Seekers, who adopt religious, philosophical, or spiritual beliefs to create meaning in their lives  

 

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Handling the Loss of a Child


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Scott Horsley and his Dad
 
 
June

"He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it." ~ Clarence Budington Kelland

Happy Father's Day to all our dads out there, whether your child lives in this world or in your heart.

This month, take the opportunity to watch "Grief Relief," with Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi. The show airs in New York City on Sunday nights, Cable Channel 56.

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Heather Horsley Johnson

 


Grief Relief Television

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Grief Relief Television 

June, 2013

Families and Suicide

Spirituality and Loss

Spouse Loss

 

Father's Day After the Death of a Brother
By Brenda Marshall

  

"You know that story, Finding Nemo?" my 4-year-old nephew asked.  "That's a story with a happy ending because he gets to find his daddy."   It was six days since my brother, my nephew's father, had died and oh, how my heart broke hearing this simple observation.

This will be our 5th Father's Day without my brother.  On the first one, we planted a tree in his memory.  My nephew, then 5, held up the card he'd made for his dad, said a few words and then hung it on a branch.  It gently fluttered in the wind as we snacked on refreshments and swapped stories about Brent.

The next year, my sister-in-law celebrated quietly with the kids, taking them on a little adventure. The third one was unique.  We entered the children in a triathlon - specifically because the race fell on Father's Day.  They drew tattoos on their arms with markers - hearts with "Daddy" in the center.  Our families watched and cheered and a day of sadness was filled with joy.  I loved watching the smiles on their faces as they crossed the finish line and collected their medals.

Father's Day is hard.  As a bereaved sibling, I grieve for my own father, who misses his son so much.  I visit my father, knowing I can't fill the gap but wishing I could.
I grieve for my niece and nephew who make the obligatory cards at school, and never get to present them.  I grieve for my sister-in-law, who wants so desperately for the children to live their lives as "normally" as possible after such a great loss.  And I grieve for my brother, who doesn't get to celebrate and revel in the joy of being a father. It is an odd place, this role as "grief observer."

Father's Day is not my day to be sad and yet, it brings all this to the fore for me.  As a sibling, I'm on the sidelines, supporting as best I can.  I attend dance recitals, baseball games, soccer, and concerts - always hoping that in some small way, my presence as "Daddy's sister" offers a tiny connection to their dad.
But on Father's Day, I feel especially lacking - and powerless.   No, it's not my day to feel sad, but I do.  And although this year will be another quiet one - there are no races to watch and cheer at - I will think lovingly of my brother and reflect on all the nice ones we enjoyed together.