LPN April 2017 Newsletter 

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In This Issue 

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By Dee Cascio LPC, LMFT, BCC, (Chesapeake Member)

heart in tree
Do you know how to protect your dearest relationships during a transition at work or in your life? Instead of focusing on circumstances or on what your partner isn't doing right, focus on how to protect your relationship and keep the connection between the two of you strong.


Keys To Protect A Relationship During Transition And Strengthen Your Bond With Each Other
  • Communicate openly and honestly about your thoughts, needs, feelings, hopes, and dreams

  • Be transparent in your relationship, giving your partner a chance to know how you feel so you can grow together and not apart

  • Listen carefully to your partner without judgment, and let them know what you've heard them say to allow for clarification if necessary

  • Make time once a week (or at least twice a month) for date night and protect that precious time together

  • Set boundaries around your needs as a couple, considering your responsibilities as parents-remembering you are modeling for your children how a healthy couple functions

  • Build a strong support system of family and other healthy couples to enrich your relationship and anchor you when life challenges and transitions occur

  • Reach out for professional help when some of life's transitions become too overwhelming.
Hope For Your Relationship

I have worked with many couples during my career who were stressed and without hope for the future of their relationship. Through dialogue and creating a safe environment, many found their way back to each other to create an even stronger relationship than they had before.

Start In Your Current Circumstances

The keys to strengthen your bond with your partner aren't just for times of transition. Start using them in your current circumstances. Practice them before change happens in your life or at work and then you will be ready to protect your dearest relationships during transitions.

Dee Cascio is a Life and Work Transitions author, speaker, and coach as well as a professional counselor. Her work with couples spans three different decades yet the keys to protecting relationships during times of change and transition remain the same. Read more about Dee at her website, Transition Strategies for Life and Work .


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May 12

tree of life
Presenter: William Gardiner, D.Min

There are so many issues under the umbrella of climate change that choosing an area of focus is difficult.

Bill Gardiner, a long-time climate change activist and leader of many short and long-term, action-based coalitions helps us frame our own concerns and channel them into a variety of areas given our time, resources and personality.

He will also profile individuals and organizations that are bringing about change.

Time:
12 p.m  - 1 p.m. EST
11 a.m. - 12 p.m. CST
10 a.m. - 11 a.m. MST
  9 a.m. - 10 a.m. PST

If you have not done so already, you can click here to register.
   
Call details will be sent once you register.
  
October 13

Ruth Faas and Sue Cross discuss "New Rituals and Practices Around Death and Dying." 

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LPN to Present at Optimal Aging Conference

National Chapter member Sheila Tasman (Kentucky) has offered to serve as host to LPN members who have questions about the Optimal Aging Conference held in Louisville, Kentucky from June 11 - 13. Sheila can be reached at [email protected]. LPN will present three programs on Legacy (Barb Shaiman), LPN and ALPA (Joyce Cohen). LPN will also host an exhibit table and post an ad in the conference program. LPN's mission at this event is to launch a Louisville, KY chapter.


Redstring Update

Twenty-five members have now been trained and onboarded to the new platform. LPN has held a national Board meeting, a Chesapeake Board meeting, and a Chapter Affairs meeting by video conferencing through the community platform.

Members have also enjoyed video chatting with each other.

If you haven't been trained yet, Bruce Frankel will hold a few more sessions in the next few weeks. If you've been trained on the platform and feel comfortable enough training others, please contact Bruce and he can provide names of members who still need training.

Bruce can be contacted at [email protected].

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Upcoming Issues

 


Summer: Isolation

Social isolation is a growing and highly destructive condition for the aging population. As a condition, social isolation is associated with depression, immune disorders, heart disease, strokes and cancer. Researchers now say that it has an effect comparable to smoking 15 or more cigarettes a day. And while isolation occurs at all ages, its prevalence for people as they age may be widely underreported because isolation is often perceived to be part of the aging process.

The causes for the increased incidence of isolation are manifold: the loss of social support systems caused by the decline of community groups, churches/synagogues, and broad friendship groups all contribute. The premium placed in society - or in a generation like the Boomer Generation - on independence may also contribute to isolation's growth as a social phenomenon. So, too, the increasing dependence on digital instead of actual relationships may be contributing to social isolation even as we imagine ourselves more connected. One step toward confronting the rise of isolation is encouraging nurses, doctors and social workers to ask about it.

LPN-Q is interested in articles on isolation - its nature, its consequences, its remedies. In addition to practical and professional methods of addressing it, LPN-Q is seeking art, poetry, fiction, essays or video that expresses or deals with isolation.

Article deadline: May 15
Publication: Mid-June

Fall: Sexuality
Sexuality is a life force. And as professionals and in our own lives, issues of sexuality, including sex, are often present. Though our sexuality evolves and changes over the lifecycle, it remains a vital part of who we are throughout our lives.

For this issue, we are seeking articles that explore the many aspects of sexuality - which encompasses us as humans, including our emotional, physical, psychosocial, cultural, political and spiritual nature.

As has been noted elsewhere, the words "sex" (what happens below the waste and between the legs) and "sexuality" are often - and unfortunately - used interchangeably. Sexuality, however, is the total expression of who we are as human beings. Much of how we interact with the world, including our compassion, creativity, social interactions, and vitality, are expressions of our sexuality. It exists independent of whether or not we have a partner or are sexually active or are in our most advanced years. But our culture - even in our professional milieu - avoids confronting frank discussion of sexuality.

Articles for this issue might address: sexuality and aging, intimacy, relationships, health, spirituality, self-esteem, sexual identity, creativity, institutional responses, our culture, etc.

LPN-Q
looks forward to a robust response from its members to this issue.

For more information or to serve as an issue editor, please contact

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Active Aging Information and Assistance Handbook

By Cullen T. Hayashida , PhD, National LPN Member and Eldercare Programs Advisor for St. Francis Healthcare System of Hawaii

While most county offices on aging have created Senior Information and Assistance Handbooks, they have generally focused on the needs of the frail and disabled older adults. What one finds in them are listings of nursing homes, assisted living facilities, assisted transportation, adult day centers and the like. The focus has been on sick care services which are all necessary and useful to many.

However, those who are entering into their retirement years or who still are active, do not find those handbooks of much use yet. During this transition into retirement, the active older adult is seeking information and assistance to address how best to use the rest of their lives.

It is for that reason that, St. Francis Healthcare System of Hawaii will making available its Hana Hou Active Aging Handbook for an active, healthy and purposeful life by July 2017.

"Hana Hou" is the Hawaiian word for encore. There will be at least 15 categories of services and support in education, employment, finance, housing assistance, life skills, intergenerational opportunities, consumer protection, recreation, volunteer opportunities, wellness fairs and even senior discounts!

We are hoping this will be part of the infrastructural improvements to marshal the services of our fastest growing natural resource. In many ways, it is parallel to the work that Hans Kr Gudmundssson of Iceland has been working on. For more information, contact Cullen Hayashida at [email protected].
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Kay Bransford (Chesapeake) had her blog, " Dealing with Dementia" named a Best Blog for 2017 by Healthline, a consumer health information website with 65 million monthly visitors.

The review shared that her blog "chronicles the journey of a dementia caregiver. The author gives advice on how to navigate the early stages of the disease, when to stop driving, and how to get financial support. Come here for actionable advice on how to deal with real issues the dementia community faces."

Healthline carefully selected blogs that actively work to educate, inspire, and empower their readers with frequent updates and high quality information.This was the second year in a row Kay's blog received the "Best Blog" honor by Healthline.

Earlier in April, Medical News Today cited "Dealing with Dementia" one of the five best blogs that focuses on Alzheimer's disease for its work to showcase the most recent research, provide a day-in-the-life account of living with the disease, and share perspectives from caregivers.

Barbara Meltzer (Southern California, Former National LPN Board Member) was elected Chair of the West Hollywood Human Services Commission. Barbara is very involved with the city's aging in place initiative, which is based upon the World Health Organization's " 8 Domains of Livability."




Luanne Mullin (NorCal) will present her next workshop, "From Working Full Time To Living Full Time - Exploring What's Next," on June 3 at Fort Mason Center in San Francisco. She will discuss transitions and Change, identifying personal motivators/values that give meaning to your life, re-energizing innate talents and skills that may have been buried or put aside for years, and setting goals and taking action, once your career is no longer the center of your life. Read more here or contact Luanne at [email protected] for more information.

Welcome New Members!
 
Kathryn Campbell (Chesapeake, VA) worked for 37 years in financial, supply chain and ethics related leadership roles at ExxonMobil corporation. She has an extensive background leading large diverse teams with global representation. Currently, she works with clients planning for retirement or making a career change to explore opportunities for the next chapter in their lives.

   
Melissa Mayer (New England) is a Senior Real Estate Specialist and Realtor. She counsels clients through major financial and lifestyle transitions involved in relocating, refinancing, and selling their family home.

Joanne Tuck (New England) is a professor in the humanities and social sciences department at Wentworth Institute of Technology in Boston, Mass. She has taught courses on the Holocaust, American Social Movements, and Sociology. She currently teaches at Lifelong Learners: An Independent Collaborative.

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Chesapeake (CLPN)

What Really Matters: Coaching as a Valuable Positive Aging Tool

By Carma Ryan, CLPN Communications Team

An expert panel of seasoned coaches from our CLPN community showcased valuable coaching ideas, concepts and skills with several rounds of exercises and discussions, along with handouts to support members in their work with positive aging.

Eileen Caroscio, moderator and panelist, provided an overview of the coaching profession. Clients are seen as creative, whole and resourceful where coaching helps the client with their self-discovery and their own generation of solutions and strategies. Eileen presented LPN's Pie of Life as a tool to aid in planning for optimal aging. She emphasized how coaching tools can initiate a dialogue, yet the full coaching process is guided by the profession's foundational competencies and ethical standards.

Dee Cascio spoke on retirement and life options and provided a group exercise on the feelings that surface when trying out new ways of doing something familiar. Parallel feelings often emerge when leaving full employment. Change can be easier to recognize, since it is visible, external and tangible, whereas transition is invisible, internal and intangible. A dynamic discussion followed Dee's signature exercise on replacing benefits from employment to building bridges to a new lifestyle.

Shela Turpin-Forster engaged the group with an exercise and discussion on creative aging and "flow." Knowing how, when and in what setting we experience "flow" can assist in planning for flow as we age. Shela's exercise illuminated the parts of those experiences that we love. Coaching provides the support and accountability to help clients move towards more enjoyment in light of aging and changing life experiences.

Kevin Flood provided an enlightening discussion on mindsets and how coaching brings awareness to unconscious biases that may hinder a person in their approach to life and aging. Coaching helps clients gain insight into their behaviors that can come more from habit than intent. With the help of a coach, new mindsets can be developed that better serve the client. Attendees discovered their unconscious biases with a tool he developed.

New England

Quarterly Meeting Recap

By Trish Perry, New England Board

"Close your eyes for a moment and imagine walking around your living space," architect and aging-in-place expert Deborah Pierce instructed at the start of her presentation, "Home Choices for Aging," at the March 31 New England chapter meeting.

"Wander through the rooms," she continued. "See them. Feel them. Find a spot that feels most like home. Notice what it is that creates that feeling."

Each of us has a relationship to things and spaces that are essential to us, she suggested and reinforced throughout her presentation. And if we explore our housing choices, their styles and qualities emerge-comfort, accessibility, safety, manageability, affordability, proximity to nature, culture, people, social and health services-along with their significance.

The more we know about what matters to us, the better we can assess the increasing number of choices available in the market, said the author of The Accessible Home: Designing for All Ages and Abilities.

Deb Pierce discussed home choices at New England's Chapter Meeting
Deborah's work weaves together two professional threads: designing renovations of historic public buildings and public access upgrades for libraries and courthouses and her interest in residential housing. She now combines the two by designing and remodeling homes to meet the needs of older adults and those of all ages with differing abilities.

Gone are the days when home choices for aging were limited to grab bars and assistive devices. Options now include everything from lower sinks and rollout kitchen cabinets, to pitching shower floors (so water runs to drains at the back of the shower allowing for no-barrier entrances) to using high-contrast wall colors and fixtures for those with limited eyesight, or using flashing lights instead of buzzers for those with limited hearing.

In addition to a quickly-evolving product market, design choices for aging now requires knowing about "visitability" ordinances that require new single-family housing designed so that it can be lived in or visited by people whatever their abilities. (A house is "visitable" when it meets three requirements: has at-least one no-step entrance; doors and hallways wide enough to allow navigation with a wheelchair or walker; a bathroom on the first floor that's big enough to get into a wheelchair and close the door.)

Deborah also introduced us to a range of stylish designs and accessory apartments, and discussed co-housing, Loft living, 55+ communities, independent living facilities, assisted living, continuous care retirement communities, and nursing homes. Innovative possibilities are beginning to pop up all over the country. But making decisions about housing for aging take time, allowing for exploration of self and the wide range of possibilities.

Northern California (NorCal)

Quarterly Meeting Recap

By Elizabeth Bell, NorCal LPN Chapter

In 2014 several members of the NorCal Chapter expressed interest in delving more deeply into the spirituality component of the life planning circle both for themselves and with their clients. Members of the group are geographically scattered, so the group began a monthly phone call-the "Conscious Aging Connect Call"-and have been meeting monthly on that call over the past three years.

The group met on April 15, 2017 for their first daylong retreat. We acknowledged the changes we experience as we age and the changes occurring in our world. The overarching inquiry was: What Does it Mean to be a Conscious Elder in the World Today.

Using the infinity symbol, we explored the interaction and flow of subtle involvement/being/moving inward and direct involvement/doing/moving outward. Throughout the process, the emphasis was on the importance of allowing self care, reflection, and wisdom to inform our outer expressions of doing.

The purpose of the day was to deepen our inner connection with ourselves and our connection with each other. Each of us explored and honored our unique way of being in service in the world at this time of our lives. We also began a conversation regarding ways to more broadly integrate this work/focus throughout LPN.
 
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LPN Member Events 

Revolutionize your Retirement

Date: April 25

Time: 12 p.m. EST

Carolyn Walter, Ph.D., Professor Emerita, Widener University, discusses "The Retirement/Reinvention Years: Grief, Loss and Transformation."

Register at www.revolutionizeretirement.com.

For more information contact Dori Mintzer.

National Chapter Meeting

Date: April 27

Time: 4 - 5 p.m. EST

Topic: Lori Bitter discusses "The Grandparent Economy: How Boomers are re-shaping this life stage and why multigenerational lifestyles are here to stay."

Call in #: 1.712.432.1212

Passcode: 377.571.296#

National chapter calls usually occur the last Thursday of every month. The chapter program is open to all LPN members.

For more information contact Joyce Cohen    

Boomers & Beyond SIG

Date: May 2

Time: 12 p.m. EST

Topic: Celebrate the 10th anniversary of the SIG and join a discussion about how notions about aging have shifted in the past 10 years. What have been your favorite SIG discussions? What topics would you like to discuss?

Call in number: 425-440-5100, pin 555036#.

For more information contact Dori Mintzer.

LPN Webinar

Date: May 12, 2017

Time: 12 p.m. EST

Topic: William Gardiner discusses "Realities of Climate Change."
See more details above.

From Aging to Sage-ing Interfaith Retreat

Date: May 19 - 21

LPN member, Sheila Tasman co-hosts and discusses how to connect with your inner wisdom, spiritually nourish yourself and more.

For more information email Sheila .

Revolutionize your Retirement

Date: May 23

Time: 12 p.m. EST

John C. Robinson, psychologist, minister, mystic, author and speaker discusses "The Psychology, Spirituality and Mysticism of Conscious Aging."

Register at www.revolutionizeretirement.com.

For more information contact Dori Mintzer.

National Chapter Meeting

Date: May 25

Time: 4 - 5 p.m. EST

Topic: Nancy Chernett (National, Pennsylvania), a gerontologist and public health professional, discusses "Family Caregiving: The What's So and Where We Need to Go"

Call in #: 1.712.432.1212

Passcode: 377.571.296#

National chapter calls usually occur the last Thursday of every month. The chapter program is open to all LPN members.

For more information contact Joyce Cohen  

From Working Full Time To Living Full Time
(San Francisco)

Date: June 3

Time: 4 - 5 p.m. EST

Topic: Luanne Mullin (NorCal) discusses transitions and change, identifying personal motivators/values, re-energizing innate talents and skills, and setting goals and taking action.

See more here or email Luanne at [email protected].

LPN Webinar

Date: Oct. 13, 2017

Time: 12 p.m. EST

Topic: Ruth Faas and Sue Cross discuss New Rituals and Practices Around Dying and Death.

Other Events

Elders Climate Action Day  

Date: April 27 - 28, 2017

Location: Washington, DC

Topic: Elders Climate Action is organizing Elders Climate Action Day in Washington, DC at the end of April, and then Elders Climate Action Days in communities around the country in June. And we are building toward our goal of a million elders speaking out on climate change by the year 2020.

Click here
for more information and to find out how your voice can shape the event.

Optimal Aging Conference 

Date: June 11 - 13

Location: Louisville, KY

Topic: The Institute for Sustainable Health and Optimal Aging is excited to announce its second Optimal Aging Conference! This conference brings together academics, health care and social service professionals, and older adults across a variety of disciplines who are united by a belief that aging is an opportunity, not a disease.

This year's theme "Approaching Aging as a Life-Long Journey" reflects the importance of addressing aging a normal part of living. There is no specific event or time at which we "age" - rather, this theme calls us to view aging as an opportunity to flourish in every stage of life.

Click here for more information.
 
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LPN LOGO JULY 2011
  The Life Planning Network is a community of life planning professionals dedicated to promoting positive aging and to shaping the future of aging through dialogue, information and expertise.

www.lifeplanningnetwork.org