Most of us had the experience in childhood of being told that truth was not welcome and we lived with the contradiction of being told 'thou shalt not lie' and the experiencing most of the adults around us doing just that - telling lies and being inauthentic. This caused an inner conflict in which the thing we were told was bad was in fact required if we were to keep the peace and not ruffle feathers.

This conditioning taught us that to be authentic and honest could lead to love being withdrawn and to rejection. Therefore, what we learnt was that to be open and honest leads to be being wounded. This in turn has led many of us to believe that if we express incomplete truths or even hide the truth of our feelings that we will in some way be able to control others. When we do not live in truth we are either being controlled or are attempting to control others..........contd. HERE