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"Love and Parasites: More on the Recruitment Paradigm"   

Romantic love is parasitic.  Unconsciously, we seek out partners who can serve as "hosts" we then use to inhabit our previous relationship traumas.  And the host, once recruited, chosen, and "injected" into, houses and nurtures our injured past.  As the parasites grow inside our lover/host, he/she is altered and becomes the perpetrator who victimizes and does not love. 


In the next meetings of the Men's Group and the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, September 20, 2014, I will present this story of "recruitment," elaborating further on what I discussed in the initial segment of this series on September 6 (available for your review in this hyperlink). And I will outline the silver lining in all of this -- yes, there is hope that love can win over infection (to take this metaphor as far as it can go!).  Each of us must be aware of how we serve as our partner's host, and how, simultaneously, we seek a host into whom we inject our parasitic material.  On Saturday, I will comment extensively on how to recognize this recruitment process and the nature of the parasitic material you are receiving.  I will also address the other side of the equation, i.e., how to understand the parasites already growing within you from previous relational experiences and the particular style of your recruitment and injection strategy.    


If you plan to attend the Men's Group or the Dating and Relationship Group on Saturday, September 20, 2014, please RSVP to Dr. Tobin at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com.  Due to the interest this series is generating and the crowding of the room last time from an overflow of attendees, I will have to limit the number of attendees strictly to a count of 14 in each of the two groups -- so please RSVP as soon as possible and the first 14 respondents for each group will be admitted.  The Men's Group will meet at 10:45 AM to 12:00 PM noon, and the Dating and Relationship Group at 12:00 PM to 1:15 PM.  The fee is $25.00.  Both groups will be held at The Water Garden Business Center, 23421 South Pointe Drive, Suite 130, Laguna Hills, CA, 92653.  


James Tobin, Ph.D., PSY 22074 | 949-338-4388 | jt@jamestobinphd.com
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