OkEq Weekly eNews June 6th, 2018
MISSION: Oklahomans for Equality (OkEq) seeks equal rights for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer (LGBTQ) individuals and families through advocacy, education, programs, alliances and the operation of the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center.
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The Tulsa Pride Festival is only possible when a community comes together! I want to thank our sponsors, donors and vendors who made this incredible weekend possible. I want to thank the volunteers who showed up, stood out and worked their hearts out to give us a pride experience we can all remember. A special thank you to the staff at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center – Toby Jenkins, Olivia Cotter, Sharon Queen, Alex Wade, Luke Soren Welvaert, Tracy Allen and Denise Polonchak. I could not direct this festival without this amazing group of individuals! To the board and trustees of Oklahomans for Equality, thank you for your continued confidence in me and for allowing me this wonderful opportunity to serve the LGBTQ community.
 
I’m proud to see and be part of the city of Tulsa's initiatives that are making Tulsa resilient, LGBTQ-friendly and welcoming to the immigrant community. Tulsa is a city where anything is possible! Pride Street is a great example of that possibility. I would like to thank Mayor GT Bynum, Nick Doctor of the Mayor’s Office, and Maggie Hoey, executive director of Tulsa Young Professionals, for their full support and for showing what allies can do to make a city welcoming to the LGBTQ community! The city of Tulsa is setting an example for all cities across Oklahoma.
 
And thank you, Williams Photography, for the beautiful photos!
 
– Jose Vega, Pride director
MOREcolor Art Show
Opening Reception: Thursday, June 7,
6:00 p.m.- 9:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

Oklahomans for Equality is pleased to present the 2018 MOREcolor Regional Juried Fine Arts Exhibition & Sale. The MOREcolor Art Show is a long tradition of LGBT Celebration and Pride through the arts. MOREcolor strives to be artist-friendly and to encourage innovative work.

Free and open to the public, cash prizes awarded, surprises and live performances, catered cuisine, and a cash bar.

Show runs June 7th through June 10th.
Out of This World Intergenerational Dance Party
Friday, June 22, 7:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120

We’ll dance through the time and space, sharing friendship and fun!
All ages are welcome. This is an alcohol-free event.
Wear your best space garb for this cosmic experience.
Free Event
Council Oak Men's Chorale Presents: Encor e
June 15 & 16, 8:00 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, Oklahoma 74120
In 1998, 12 men joined together to perform at the World AIDS Day remembrance service. Now, 20 years later, with more than 600 songs sung, the Council Oak Men’s Chorale is still OUT performing, educating and raising awareness. Encore will take you back to some of your favorite songs over the past 20 years.
Proud Politics
Thursday, June 14, 6:30 p.m.
Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
621 E. 4th St., Tulsa, OK 74120

Oklahomans for Equality will be hosting a panel of openly LGBTQ candidates from across Oklahoma to hear what motivates them to seek public office.
 
Moderated by state Sen. Allison Ikley-Freeman, Tulsa’s first openly LGBTQ elected official, who will share her story and successful campaign experience.
 
These proud politicians who are OUT and raising the visibility of LGBTQ Oklahomans will discuss the role that sexual orientation, gender identity and gender expression plays in politics. They will share their experiences and challenges of campaigning in Oklahoma.
 
The state leads the nation in anti-LGBTQ legislation each year, and the Human Rights Campaign does not list one city in Oklahoma that scores more than 50 points on its annual municipal index.
 
The Proud Politics panel discussion is free and open to the public.
EBA Mixer
Wednesday, June 20, 6:00 p.m.
Hosted by Parlour Salon & Spa
1335 E. 11th St., Ste. C, Tulsa, OK 74120
(918) 949-4666







The Equality Business Alliance networking mixers are terrific venues for you to meet prospective clients. Mixers are open to non-members as well as EBA members. Be sure to bring business cards, business information, brochures, etc. Hosting a networking mixer is a great way to showcase your business. You may host at your establishment or use the Equality Center. If you would like to host a mixer: Please send an email to  jose.vega@okeq.org   for more information.
LGBT Women's Network July Happy Hour
Friday, July 2, 5:00 p.m.
1820 Utica Sq, Tulsa, Oklahoma 74114

This month our sponsor is Gayelynn Head with McGraw Realtors! Come mix and mingle with ladies you might not meet otherwise, make new business connections, and grow your personal network. We'll have light appetizers and don't forget to bring business cards to be entered into a drawing for a gift from Dick's and Gayelynn!
Tulsa Project Theatre Season 2017-2018
Tulsa Performing Arts Center - Charles E. Norman Theatre
110 E 2nd St, Tulsa, OK 74103
Tulsa Project Theatre, the city's only theatre company operating under an Actors Equity Association (AEA) contract, will close its seventh season in the Liddy Doenges Theatre with another Oklahoma Premiere of the rock opera "Lizzie," set to run July 13-22, 2018.
On a sweltering summer morning in 1892 in a small new England city, a prominent business man and his wife were brutally axed to death in their home. Their youngest daughter, Lizzie Borden, was the prime suspect, and her trial was a coast-to-coast media sensation. "Lizzie" features four women fronting a six-piece rock band. "Lizzie" is sex, rage, betrayal, blood, murder, and American mythology set to a scorching rock score.

Visit  www.tulsaprojecttheatre.com  for more information
Adoption Information
As many of you are already aware, when our LGBT families go through the adoption process - either one parent in a stepparent adoption or both parents in a traditional placement - a new birth certificate must be issued from the Department of Vital Records. We are pleased to announce that the Oklahoma Department of Vital Records has recently amended its procedures and is now issuing birth certificates with the following designations:
 
MOTHER/FATHER
MOTHER/MOTHER
FATHER/FATHER
PARENT/PARENT
Birth certificates previously were issued only with the "mother/father" designations, regardless of the genders of the parents.  If your child was issued a birth certificate with an incorrect designation of your gender identity, you can get an amended birth certificate. Please contact:
 
Christopher Brecht
918 -382-1400
 
You will not be charged anything for attorney time or preparation, but there is a $50 Department of Vital Records fee to obtain any updated birth certificate.
Provider Bias Survey
Sara Griffey is a clinical counseling intern with Bellevue University. She facilitates OkEq's Coming Out Workshop and the Challenging Beliefs in Non-Traditional Relationships group.
 
This survey has been crafted to better understand provider bias in the LGBTQ+ and nontraditional relationship communities. The information will be used to provide information about ways to better train and educate providers.
 
All responses are confidential. To take the survey, please go here:
Joe & Nancy McDonald Rainbow Library
"Tomorrow WIll be Different"
By: Sarah McBride
Before she became the first transgender person to speak at a national political convention in 2016 at the age of twenty-six, Sarah McBride struggled with the decision to come out—not just to her family but to the students of American University, where she was serving as student body president. She’d known she was a girl from her earliest memories, but it wasn’t until the Facebook post announcing her truth went viral that she realized just how much impact her story could have on the country.

Four years later, McBride was one of the nation’s most prominent transgender activists, walking the halls of the White House, advocating inclusive legislation, and addressing the country in the midst of a heated presidential election. She had also found her first love and future husband, Andy, a trans man and fellow activist, who complemented her in every way . . . until cancer tragically intervened.

Informative, heartbreaking, and profoundly empowering,  Tomorrow Will Be Different  is McBride’s story of love and loss and a powerful entry point into the LGBTQ community’s battle for equal rights and what it means to be openly transgender. From issues like bathroom access to health care to gender in America, McBride weaves the important political and cultural milestones into a personal journey that will open hearts and change minds.

As McBride urges: “We must never be a country that says there’s only one way to love, only one way to look, and only one way to live.”

The fight for equality and freedom has only just begun.

Find this selection and more by visiting the Nancy and Joe McDonald Rainbow Library.
Equality Center Pride Store
Bowl everyone over with these striking bowling pins.




Be sure to "Like" the  OkEq Pride Store Facebook  page to keep up with the new items and new sale items
Counseling Services 
Dr Kurt Choate
Dr. Kurt Choate
Saturdays
By appointment
Individual, youth, adolescent and
couples counseling is available on a
Sliding fee scale based on income.
Appointments are required
Contact
Dr. Kurt Choate, LPC at
918.449.6574
 
Stephanie Miller
Stephanie is a counseling intern at Northeastern State University. She is passionate about working with diverse families and clients, now expanding to the LGBTQ+ community and allies. Stephanie has experience with families, children and adolescents. She believes in helping the client identify and achieve their goals through a holistic approach.
 
Contact Stephanie at 
  tatom@nsuok.edu  to make an appointment. All sessions are free and will be held at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center between 4:30 and 6:30 p.m. on Wednesdays or 12:30 and 4:30 p.m. on Saturdays.
Alyssa Pasquini 
is a mental health counseling intern at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. She is passionate about assisting clients who are a part of the LGBTQQIA+ community who experience a range of concerns including issues surrounding gender identity, sexual/affectional orientation, and mood or anxiety concerns. Appointments with Alyssa can be made by calling the 
OSU Tulsa Counseling Center 
Amanda Rogers 
is a mental health counseling intern at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. She welcomes the opportunity to work with persons with concerns related to gender identity, sexual or affectional orientation, relationship issues, mood/anxiety concerns and trauma. She is passionate about social justice and working with the LGBTQQIA+ community. Appointments can be scheduled with Amanda by calling the 
OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center at  918-594-8568 .
Temple Hull 
is a mental health counseling intern at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. She has experience counseling transgender, bisexual, lesbian, gay and asexual persons, and looks forward to working with all individuals represented in the bright colors of the rainbow flag. Appointments with Temple can be made by calling the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center at  918-594-8568 .
Merrill Reiter, M.S ., 
is in the Counseling Psychology Doctoral Program at Oklahoma State University. She is a mental health counselor at OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. Merrill is passionate about social justice, advocacy and counseling. She enjoys working with people of all identities and strives to make her sessions a safe place for all clients. She has experience working with LGBTQ+ people and welcomes the opportunity to work with persons with concerns related to sexual or affectional orientation, gender identity, mood/anxiety, depression, self-injury, death/grief, and those experiencing major changes or transitions in life. Appointments with Merrill can be made by calling the 
OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center 
at (918) 594-8568 
Kathy Kavanaugh 
is a doctoral counseling psychology intern at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. She is dedicated to working with clients of all identities (including all sexual and affectional orientations, gender identities, races, ethnicities, and ages) from a multicultural perspective. Kathy works with clients to address concerns regarding anxiety, mood, sexual and gender identity development, and overall personal enrichment. To schedule an appointment with Kathy, please contact the 
OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center 
at (918) 594-8568. 
Mark Taracuk, MSEd, NCC 
is a doctoral student in counseling psychology at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. He received his master's degree in counseling from Indiana University and is a National Certified Counselor. Mark has past experience working with members of the LGBTQ+ community on a variety of issues including depression, anxiety, relationship issues, spiritual concerns, trauma, intimate partner violence, and concerns related to gender identity. Appointments with Mark can be made by calling the OSU Tulsa Counseling Center 
at (918) 594-8568.
Jennie Martin 
is a Licensed Professional Counselor - Candidate and Counseling Psychology Doctoral Intern at the OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center. She enjoys working with LGBTQQIA+ community members on a wide variety of topics including relationship/family concerns, body image, community advocacy, religiosity/spirituality concerns, trauma, and more. She has experience with family and couples counseling and is passionate about advocating for social justice. Appointments can be scheduled with Jennie by calling the 
OSU-Tulsa Counseling Center 
at 918-594-8568 .
Regularly Scheduled Programming
OkEq Board Meeting
Monthly Meeting 
7:00 p.m. Thursday, June 21

Dennis R. Neill Equality Center
 All Oklahomans for Equality board meetings are open to all OkEq members
May OkEq Art Exhibition
The May Oklahomans for Equality showcase and exhibit of local artists features an exhibit of works by Arthur James Uphold.
The show continues throughout the month  www.okeq.org
Family Ties
Family Ties is an official program of Oklahomans for Equality and is a support network for LGBTQ parents and families in Oklahoma. For more information about Family Ties, email  jose.vega@okeq.org .
Lawyer in the Library
June 13
5:30 p.m. - 6:30 p.m.

Lawyer in the Library is an opportunity to meet with a lawyer about topics such as family law (divorce, paternity, custody and child support), landlord/tenant disputes, estate planning, and bankruptcy. No appointment is necessary.
Free Yoga Class at OkEq
Mondays  
5:45 - 6:45 p.m.   

Enjoy a free class! These 60-minute, free Community Yoga classes are open to everyone of all levels. Each class is mindfully crafted to prepare the body for a peak pose in the arm balance, inversion, backbend or twist family. This class will connect the mind, body, and spirit through movement and breath.
Asexual Meeting
2nd & 4th
Tuesday of every month
7:30 - 9:00 p.m.

It's the A in LGBTQA. Come join us for an affirming, open discussion at this peer-led group for individuals 18 and over who identify as asexual or are interested in discussing asexual issues.

This a place for asexuals to form community. Be a part of the first Tulsa asexual group.
SAGE Tulsa 
Every Tuesday
10:00 am to 1:00 pm

"drop in for coffee" 
Facilitated by
John Madigan
Gender Support Program
Wednesdays
7:00 - 8:30 p.m. 
 
(First time interview required before attending)
Email  
The program is providing support, education and social opportunities for transgender and intersex individuals.
Game Night
Saturdays 
7:00 - 9:00 pm
 
 Join old friends and make new friends as you play some great board and card games at the Center!
All are welcome!
Facilitated by
Saturday Volunteers Richard Haley and
Teresa Reno 
LGBTQ Veterans Support and Entertainment

1st & 3rd Tuesday of each month
Challenging Beliefs in Nontraditional Relationships
1st & 3rd Monday
of each month
6:30 - 7:30 p.m.

This therapeutic discussion group provides a haven for individuals who engage in nontraditional relationship structures, with a focus on internal and social stigmas, personal belief systems, and the struggles surrounding this population. This group is open to individuals who take part in ethically nonmonogamous relationships (polyamory, swinging) and kink relationships. The Oklahoma Poly Network is a proud supporter of this group.
Non-Binary Support Group
3rd Tuesday of each month
 7:00 - 9:00 p.m.
 
A new support group for folks who identify with non-binary genders, including but not limited to, genderqueer, genderfluid, agender, bigender, neutrois, genderflux, and more. This group will be a safe space to discuss our identities, receive support, and build a strong non-binary community in Tulsa. For information contact Vic Wiener at 
SOS Group
Mondays 7:00 pm 

This open Secular Organizations for Sobriety (SOS) Recovery and Sobriety Group meets every Monday at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. For more information, visit  www.SOSTulsa.org
No Shade for Plus
Every Thursday
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.

A new support group to bring together people who have found they are HIV positive and those who have been living with HIV for many years. 
The group will provide support, Education, Social activities and so much more. 
The group will be here at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center to provide a safe place to discuss issues and meet other people who are navigating their lives being PLUS. 
Tulsa Writers, Ink.
1st & 3rd Saturday of each month
1:00 - 3:00 p.m.

An LGBT inclusive group of writers providing support and resources to authors and writers regardless of where they are in their writing career.
Survivors of Incest Anonymous
Every Saturday
12:00 - 2:30 p.m.

SIA strives to empower those who have survived childhood sexual abuse (who are not abusing any child), who want to become survivors and thrivers. For more information, visit  siawso.org
Tulsa Indigenous &First Nation Support Group

1st & 3rd Thursday of each month
Live Free!
Coming Out
Workshop
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
6:30-7:30 p.m. 

Are you planning to come out? Maybe you have just recently come out? Join us for a coming out discussion group meeting in the History Project Room. It's free! This course is designed for individuals coming to terms with their sexuality with presentations on how to come out to family, friends, and co-workers. Question and answer session in a supportive and informed environment. 
Please contact 
ComingOut@OkEq.org  or call 918-743-4297
Southern Pride Drum Group
Every Thursday 
7:30 p.m.

The Southern Pride Drum Group is the only such group of its kind in the world, being the only drum group composed of mainly 2 spirit (GLBT Native) members and their families. They have traveled across the U.S. and Canada singing for powwows, gatherings and Pride events for more than 10 years, with more than 100 years of combined experience singing at the drum. They seek to teach drumming and singing and drum etiquette at the Equality Center in Tulsa and to add to their tight-knit drum family.
Brought to You Bi 
the Letter B 
2nd & 4th Monday
of each month 
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.
 
Bisexual support group at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center. Tell all your friends. The group is open to all bi/pan/queer/fluid+ folks and their allies. Facilitators
Daniel & Haley
Tulsa Area
Prime Timers
2nd Tuesday of every month
7:00 - 9:00 p.m.

A social organization for mature minded Gay and Bisexual men age 21 and over. The purpose is to establish friendship and support through social interaction. Visit
the website  for
more information.
918.592.0088 
Lambda Al-Anon Group
Every Friday
7:00 - 8:00 p.m.

This open Al-Anon group meets at the Dennis R. Neill Equality Center every Friday at 7:00 pm. Contact 918.743.2754 for more information.
  Intimate Partner Violence & Sexual Assault Survivor Support Group
1st Wednesday of each month
5:30 - 7:30 p.m.

This support and educational group is for individuals who have survived domestic violence and are ready to explore their personal healing process and find hope and to discuss their experiences, share ideas, and provide emotional support for one another. 
For more information contact Jim Scholl at 918.631.2722.
Dissertation Study - Sexual Behaviors in MSM
This research study seeks to investigate if one's HIV-status and respective adherence/non- adherence to preexposure prophylaxes (PrEP) or antiretroviral therapy (ART) is linked to a reduction in consistent condom use, and increased risky sexual behaviors, among men who have sex with men (MSM). It also seeks to determine what stage of change MSM are likely to be in by using the transtheoretical model of change. With such information, one of the goals is to see if there might be points when mental health professionals and/or primary care providers could intervene to reduce HIV and sexually transmitted infection transmission rates.

Please direct questions to
Eric Teeters ( ejteeters@gmail.com ),
or Dr. Elana Maurin ( emaurin@argosy.edu ). 

Community Partners
The Equality
Business Alliance fosters a sharing of information, ideas, contacts, products and services, and also strengthens and expands our businesses, careers and community.
Workforce OK
Workforce Oklahoma
Access Point
Open every day
Workforce Oklahoma maintains a resource area at the Equality Center that includes computers, a printer and fax machine, as well as step-by-step instructions on how to register with
Oklahoma JobLink.
H.O.P.E. 
HIV Testing Schedule

Tuesday 4 - 8 pm
Wednesday 4 - 8 pm
Friday 4 - 8 pm
Saturday 4 - 7 pm
 
Testing provided by H.O.P.E. Testing
 
Check  www.okeq.org  for testing dates.
OkEq Staff
Toby Jenkins
CEO / Executive Director
Olivia Cotter
Office Manager
Sharon Queen
Service Coordinator
Veterans, Transgender and 
Indigenous People
Jose Vega
Program Director
Alex Wade
Volunteer & Pride Store Coordinator
Luke Welvaert
Facilities Coordinator
Tracy Allen
Special Projects
Denise Polonchak
Janitorial Services
OkEq Board and Trustees
Executive Committee
Stuart Ashworth, Esq., President
Sharon Bishop-Baldwin, Vice President
Jan Baldwin, Secretary
Paul Allen, Treasurer
Robin VanMeter, At Large

Board of Directors
Christopher Brecht-Smith, Esq.
Rev. Geoffrey Brewster
Sheena Grewal
Darci Hazelwood, D.O.
Marcia Keesee
Ben Matthews
Mike Redman, Esq.
Chris Shoaf
Al Triggs
John Williams
Board of Advisors
Laura Arrowsmith, D.O.
Peter Brennan
Alyssa Bryant, Esq.
Jamie Catlett
Michael Farr
Joann Frizell
Andrew Gordon
Amanda Lowe
Jim Scholl
Mikeal Vaughn
William Vaughn
  Trustees
Shawna Baker, Esq.
Dan Burnstein
Kirk Holt
David Nelson
Kris Wilmes 
Oklahomans for Equality
Hours:  Mon - Sat Noon-9 p.m. | Sun Noon-6 p.m.
621 East Fourth Street, Tulsa, OK 74120