Greetings!
Well,
it has been just over one year of being full-time in ministry
trying to be an effective missionary to marriages. Much has been
accomplished in this past year. We have completed the Enriched
Christian Marriage DVD set. My first book, Relationships for
Life, will be out in about 2 months. We were able to conduct
27 relationship retreats for churches and ministries as well as
begin to teach our business curriculum titled: Enriched Work
Teams. We completed monthly marriage intensives in Jacksonville
(HOPE Weekends) and have seen most of those marriages succeed. We
have also completed couples retreats at Fort Wilderness in
Wisconsin's North Woods as well as developed our newest couples
retreat titled: "The 'U' In US." We had 22 couples attend this new
retreat. In addition to the above, I presented at the annual
Smartmarriages conference on our HOPE Weekend model. Lastly, my
relationship skills program has been adopted by the Florida Baptist
Convention and the University of Florida's Shands Vista's
P.O.W.E.R. program as their program of choice in working with their
constituents.
I
thank all of you who have prayed, supported financially, allowed us
to come to your organization, and allowed us to minister to you and
yours.
We
continue to provide premarital education and classes in the
Jacksonville, FL area to local churches that invite us. All of
this because of your belief in what we do. There are many others
doing the work of saving and enriching marriages and we are
grateful for your support of our ministry.
This
month we highlight upcoming events as well as express some of our
needs that we hope you will pray about and help us with. As a new
ministry working with little financial support, we look to you to
help us as we develop our non-profit ministry.
Thank
you and many blessings upon you and yours.
Richard
Marks, PhD "Rick"
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The
Joy of Marriage by Rabbi Sidney Greenberg |
"The joy of marriage is, to begin with, the joy of
not being alone. It is the joy of companionship and
intimacy and having a person and place to come to. It
is the joy of structure and order, of comfort, security and
stability. It is the joy of having someone to help
with the burdens and drudgery of daily life. It is
the joy of making a home and creating a family. It is
the joy of being a parent and raising children.
It is the joy of defining your relationship with
respect to others and society at large. It is the joy
of loving someone so much that you want to celebrate that love and
commitment publicly. It is the joy of taking a risk,
making a leap of faith, going all the way. It is the
joy of believing in someone and something above and beyond
yourself. It is the joy of building something lasting
and substantial.
It is the joy of having a best friend who is also
your lover, and a lover who is also your best friend.
It is the joy of sleeping with someone who warms your heart as well
as your bed. It is the joy of making love without
awkwardness, self-consciousness or shame. It is the
joy of developing a private vocabulary and doing some of your best
talking without words.
It is the joy of having someone real to hold when
you wake up sweating during a dark night of the soul.
It is the joy of having someone who truly cares, someone who will
stand by you when you get sick, or falter, or fail.
It is the joy of having someone you believe, and who believes in
you, tell you at times that you are the best, and at other times,
that you can be much better.
It is the joy of outgrowing your adolescent
self-absorption and getting on with life. It is the
joy of being faithful and honoring a vow. It is the
joy of ennobling yourself through discipline and
sacrifice. It is the joy of having a common history
and mutual memories and the sense of having traveled far
together. It is the joy of being a separate
individual and yet also part of a whole. It is the
joy of fighting and making up, of going apart and coming together
again. It is the joy of learning to yield and to
compromise, to care and to love. And finally, it is
the joy of giving..."
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What's
Your Type of Marriage Covenant? |
The Mosaic Covenant is a conditional covenant made
between God and the nation of Israel at Mount Sinai (Exodus 19-24).
At the time of the covenant, God reminded the people of their
obligation to be obedient to His law (Exodus 19:5), and the people
agreed to the covenant when they said, "All that the Lord has
spoken we will do!" (Exodus 19:8). This covenant would serve to set
the nation of Israel apart from all other nations as God's chosen
people and was as equally binding as the unconditional covenant
that God made with Abraham because it is also a blood covenant. The
Mosaic Covenant is a significant covenant in both God's redemptive
history and in the history of the nation of Israel through whom God
would sovereignly chose to bless the world with both His written
Word and the Living Word, Jesus Christ.
The Mosaic Covenant was centered around God's giving His divine law
to Moses on Mount Sinai. In understanding the different covenants
in the Bible and their relationship with one another, it is
important to understand that the Mosaic Covenant differs
significantly from the Abrahamic Covenant and later biblical
covenants because it is conditional in that the blessings that God
promises are directly related to Israel's obedience to the Mosaic
Law. If Israel is obedient, then God will bless them, but if they
disobey, then God will punish them. The blessings and curses that
are associated with this conditional covenant are found in detail
in Deuteronomy 28. The other covenants found in the Bible are
unilateral covenants of promise, in which God binds Himself to do
what He promised, regardless of what the recipients of the promises
might do. On the other hand the Mosaic Covenant is a bilateral
agreement, which specifies the obligations of both parties to the
covenant. The Abrahamic covenant is focused on God
keeping his promise regardless of the other party's
obligations. What promise: The promise
that God would send a savior as payment for the sins.
The Mosaic Law was temporary. The Abrahamic covenant
is eternal.
Abrahamic Marriage or Mosaic
Marriage?
Marriage is a divine relationship established in
Creation and mirrors the image of God in the Trinity.
The marriage covenant today will either model the Abrahamic or
Mosaic type.
Many marriages today are Mosaic in
practice. I will love you and treat you well as long
as my needs are met. As long as I get something out
of this relationship for me, I will give to you. Love
and actions of love are conditional. Many times the
conditions are not known to us consciously and many times they
are. We treat each other in love as long as our needs
are being met, then turn on each other in anger and resentment when
our needs are not met. We have a philosophy that "I
have a right to be happy." The Old Covenant was not
banished when Christ came even though it was over.
Rather, the Old Covenant Law reminds us of our sin and our need to
get out of ourselves and into Christ. This is meant
to keep us living in humility. Humility makes a
marriage grow and thrive.
Marriage was and is the Abrahamic
covenant. It is based on a promise that God made to
Abraham, whether Abraham kept his side of the agreement or
not. In fact, God knew that Abraham would
not. The Abrahamic covenant keeps its
vow. Likewise, Jesus affirms that marriage is a
covenant whereby one dies for the other.
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Enriched
Christian Marriage 4 DVD Set |
Want to experience Dr. Rick
and Louella's Enriched Christian Marriage program that is being
used to save marriages in the Marriage for Life's HOPE Weekend
Intensives? You can now! Purchase the ECM 4-DVD set and learn the
principles and skills for bonding, emotional regulation,
communication, confiding, and problem solving. Use for yourself,
as a class, or give to a couple who needs help.
Our Price: $ 89.95
Order
online at www.marriageforlife.org today and we will ship
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Do
You Have A "Consumer" Marriage? |
IS YOUR MARRIAGE BECOMING A CONSUMER
MARRIAGE?
How much consumer thinking has slipped into your
marriage? Answer the questions below. (Thanks to
Bill Doherty, PhD)
1. I (often, sometimes, rarely) compare my spouse
unfavorably to others.
2. In relation to our problems, I (often,
sometimes, rarely) dwell on my spouse's deficiencies; not my own.
3. I (often, sometimes, rarely) concentrate on
how my spouse is not meeting my needs rather than how I am not meeting my spouse's
needs.
4. I (often, sometimes, rarely) keep score; I add
up when I do good things or when I think my spouse does something
bad.
5. I (often, sometimes, rarely) think that my
spouse is getting a better deal in this marriage than I am.
6. I (often, sometimes, rarely) wonder if I
should have held out for someone better when I chose a mate.
7. I often focus on my spouse's defects rather
than on his or her strengths.
8. When we have hard times, I (often, sometimes,
rarely) ask myself whether the effort I am putting into this marriage is worth
it.
If most of your answers are "rarely"
congratulations. You do not treat marriage like a car
that you can trade in when it ages and develops a touch of
rust. If most of your answers are "sometimes," ask
yourself if things that you want are disguising themselves as
things that you absolutely need. Try discussing your
spouse's needs and wants. If three or more of your
answers are "often," consumerism has severely infected your view of
marriage.
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Upcoming
Events |
We have had a wonderful time
conducting marriage coaching and Hope Weekends for crisis
marriages. We have also conducted relationship retreats and
seminars for couples, singles, and businesses.
Here is what we have coming up.
SEP 10-12 The U In US Couples Retreat at Fort Wilderness in
Wisconsin
SEP 17-18 Enriched Christian Marriage seminar at Westside
Baptist Church, Gainesville, FL
OCT 15-17 HOPE Weekend, Jacksonville, FL
OCT 22-24 Enriched Christian Marriage couples retreat, Fort
Wilderness in McNaughton, Wisconsin www.fortwilderness.com
NOV 5-6 Marriage Mentor training for Florida Baptist
Convention at Westside Baptist Church, Gainesville, FL
NOV 12-13 Marriage seminar at Trinity Baptist Church,
Jacksonville, FL
NOV 19-21 HOPE Weekend, Jacksonville, FL
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Help
us make a difference for others. We appreciate any gift you can
make for our efforts. Go to www.marriageforlife.org and make a donation
online today. We need your help.
Sincerely,

Richard and Louella Marks
Marriage for Life, Inc. |
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Couples
Retreat:
March
25-27 2011
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Marriage
for Life is hosting its first ever couples retreat at Epworth By
The Sea on beautiful St. Simons Island, Georgia. This Friday
through Sunday couples retreat includes lodging, meals, and all
training materials as we learn, laugh, and love.
You will
experience healthy relationship skills, principles for a deeper
sense of USness, gain greater insight into yourself and your
spouse, as well as have time to experience the beauty of St. Simons
Island, Georgia. Come and be a part. Register early as space is
limited.
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Our
Sponsors: Fort Wilderness |

www.fortwilderness.com |
Avoiding
Jerks for Marriage DVD |
Avoid
Marrying A Jerk seminar now available on DVD!
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The
2.5 hour seminar by Dr. Rick on the traits of Jerks(ettes) is
available for purchase. This DVD of Dr. Marks teaching his
informative and humorous lecture on the interpersonal and
intrapersonal traits of Jerks(ettes) is sought after in the
Jacksonville area. Get yours today. Contact our office at
904-724-8683 or email us at info@marriageforlife.org and request yours
today.
Cost: $25.00
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HELP
US TODAY! |
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By giving to our ministry today you will help us in the following
areas:
1.
New office space: We have been given the ability to rent a 1400
sq. foot space at a greatly reduced price. This will allow us to
bring our services under one roof and expand our outreach. We need
to raise $$ to renovate this space and properly furnish it. We
will be able to move the office out of our home. Estimated cost:
$3000.00
2.
Continue our outreach to marriages and families and to assist
organizations and churches in doing more effective work in
strengthening marriages and families through mentor
training.
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