As a counselor at MTA that works with children ages 4 on up, I am often presented with a concerned parent asking the question about what is normal child sexual curiosity. Here is the answer I give them that comes directly from the experts at the New Orleans Children's Advocacy Center.
What Child Sexual Behaviors Are Not Normal?
When trying to decide if a sexual behavior is normal, it's important for parents to be aware of and think about several things.
Concerning and/or abusive behavior can include sexual activity between children that is kept secret, occurs between children with a sizable age difference and/or children with unequal power or developmental levels.
Parents should consider whether the child's behavior appears to be compulsive, if the child seems to be obsessed with it, and/or if the child is not able or does not respond to the parents' redirection.
Normal child sexual behaviors are often accompanied with giggling and amusement.
Concerning and/or abusive sexual behaviors can be accompanied with physical force, threats, intimidation, rewards, promises, gifts and/or coercion.
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New Orleans Children's Advocacy Center
Sherrie Hutson, MAMFC Counselor Intern