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 November, 2012

Quote of the month


"In the long run, we shape our 

lives, and we 

shape ourselves. The process 

never ends until we die. 

And the choices 

we make are ultimately our responsibility." 


by Eleanor 



My Services
Pre-Marital Counseling
Certified Prepare/Enrich Program Facilitator
Marital Counseling
Infidelity Issues
Self-Esteem Support
Problem-Solving Support
Renew Marital Excitement
Family counseling

Divorce Support
Collaborative Law Communications Facilitator
Redefining Life Purpose
Grief/Loss Support

Family Counseling


I welcome the opportunity to help you work through current issues and to look at your future with a sense of hope and purpose.


Masters Degree - Applied Psychology from Seton Hall University


Post-Masters Degree-Marriage and Family Therapy from Seton Hall University


Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist


Private Practice 

since 2008


NJ work experience totaling 5 years


Married 24 years


Mother of 2 teenage daughters 


Lived in Indiana, 

New Jersey and Texas


Passionate about 

what I do




We are faced with making a multitude of choices every day.  What we do with that privilege (and it is a privilege) is up to us.  How we show others around us that we are confident in our decisions is up to us as well.  Think about the article below and use its content to either confirm that you are a good decision maker and are confident in the daily choices you make or that you need further development in this area.


I have a request.  A local magazine called Southlake Style is running a "Best of the Best for 2012" Contest and I have entered the contest.  I give you the opportunity to make a choice in commenting on my newsletters and how they may have helped you in life.  If you are pleased with what you read each month and could take a few moments to support my efforts, please go to www.Southlakestyle.com, click on the Best Of the Best logo, click on Business Directory and search for my name, click my name, log in through your Facebook account or other multimedia symbol listed and simply leave a comment. It will list your first name only and the comment you type as public information.  It would be greatly appreciated.


I hope that all of my readers in the northeast are safe and warm as they recover from Hurricane Sandy and her aftermath. 


Enjoy the information below and as always, please pass it on to anyone you believe may benefit from its content.



Maryellen Dabal, MA, LMFT

Southlake Counseling & Neurofeedback Center

420 North Carroll Ave Suite 140

Southlake, TX 76092




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From The Positive Perspective.......


When you make a choice, whether it is about what clothing to buy, what to have for dinner or whether or not to get married, all these choices impact your life.  For how long that decision will impact your life and the multitude of choices to consider in that decision can influence how long you spend making that decision.


All of us at the age of 18 and older have a very important choice to make in early November.  Yes, everyone has their views and their opinions but I want to impress upon you the privilege it is to be able to be a part of the voting process.  I am honored to live in a country where I am able to participate in the process of choosing its leader, as not all countries work that way.  No matter which candidate you support, please choose to vote on Election Day.


When decisions are relatively small and you have determined that the choice will not have a large impact on your life 5 days from now or 5 years from now then you probably do not need to spend a great deal of time making that decision.  Examples of these choices could be, whether to park in this aisle of the parking lot or that aisle; whether or not to meet your friends for dinner this evening or which brand of rice to purchase at the grocery store.  Ask yourself if you can make these types of choices quickly.  If you can, than the amount of time spent deciding is most likely appropriate to its impact on your life.


When decisions are larger and the choice will still impact your life significantly 5 days from now and/or 5 years from now, put aside the extra time to consider the pros and cons of each choice.  I encourage you to put the list in writing if you can.  Seeing the options visually can give you a tremendous advantage in making that decision. For example, if you are deciding whether or not to relocate your family or get a new job, brainstorm all the options and keep them in a place where you can refer to them often so as to add items to the list when you think of them.  Once you feel the list is pretty well complete, sit down and discuss those options with any other parties involved in the decision.  This is a time to educate each other on what you feel is important in making that choice. I encourage you to allow all parties to be heard, especially those whose lives are impacted by the choice as well.  Taking the extra time to make the decision can be the difference between making a mistake and making the right choice.


Once you have made the choices, whether large or small, it is important to own that decision for what it is and be able to take any consequences that come with it.  If your friends are upset that you did not join them for dinner, it's nice to be wanted but you did what you thought was best with the information you had at the time.  If the economy goes downhill after you have made an investment decision, understand that you made the best choice with the information you had, learn from the experience and possibly take more time with the next decision. 


So how did you do?  If you feel you make generally good choices in your life, congratulations.  If you feel you need more work in being confident in your power to make good choices, give me a call.  Remember that it helps if you look at this topic From The Positive Perspective.......


I welcome feedback regarding the newsletter or questions about my practice.  I can be reached at maryellen@dabalmft.com.  I cannot, however, give advice through email. For more information on my practice please visit my website: www.dabalmft.com

I wish you well...