Jamie Moran, LCSW, CGP
Psychotherapy Groups For Men, Group Training & Education 

 

November/December ENewsletter 

Dear Colleagues,

 

Greetings and holiday cheer to you all!  I am looking forward to what opportunities the new year may bring and wish for all of you peace and joy. In this edition of the newsletter I will be focusing on couples work and will expand on my upcoming practice offerings. Thanks for your time and attention in reading.

 

Warm Regards,

Jamie Moran

 

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Tools in Couples Therapy 

My work with couples reflects curiosity about their interaction/communication style, its impact and meaning in the relationship.  There are three prominent communication approaches I have found to be particularly helpful with couples that I'd like to share with you in the event they might be beneficial to your practice. I often encourage clients to reflect on these frameworks and complete "homework," thus garnering new experiences with one another and strengthening their relationships.  What follows is a brief summary of these key aspects, a mere sampling of the theories that I hope may provoke your further exploration into these themes.

 

David Richo has written extensively on topics related to personal growth and relationships. In his book, How to be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Relationships,1 Richo articulates five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life: 

1. Attention to the present moment: observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships. 

2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.

3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.

4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.

5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

 

John Gottman is a renown researcher and professor emeritus who has studied 10,000 couples in an effort to synthesize key relationship dynamics. Gottman identified four particular interactions research shows to be indicative of a relationship not surviving. He labeled these behaviors The Four Horsemen which include:

 

1. Stonewalling

2. Defensiveness

3. Criticism

4. Contempt

 

These qualities are detailed in the Four Horseman chapter of his book, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work,2 whereby Gottman helps couples identify patterns that have had negative impacts on the relationship.

 

And finally, Sue Johnson, developer of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), offers A.R.E.,3 a tool to better understand and assess emotional responsiveness in couples. A.R.E. is comprised of the following three elements:

 

Accessibility - Being emotionally open and available to your partner. Attention to both emotional and depth of connection.

Responsiveness - Ability to respond with connection, comfort, reassurance and closeness and willingness to work through and resolve conflicts.

Engagement - Comfortable being close and trusting, ability to confide, assured of the connection and sincere care and attention.

  

 

1. Richo, David. How to be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Relationships. Boston:  
 Shambhala Publishers, 2002. 
2. Gottman, John M. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Crown Publishing, 2000.
3. Johnson, Sue. Hold me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. New York: Hachette Book Group, 2008.    

 

 

Group Trainings/Education

In the New Year I'll be offering more group trainings and seminars. The workshops in my series "Everything You Want To Know About Groups But Are Afraid To Ask" will expand in length with fewer offerings throughout the year, beginning in March. Stay tuned for specific titles and dates listed in the next newsletter.

 

Group Consultation for Group Leaders 

I'm pleased to be moving ahead with a Group Consultation offering. This will be an opportunity for leaders of various types of groups to come together for process, feedback, help and support in their work.  The group will be offered in Menlo Park on Monday or Thursday mornings, twice monthly.  Further details to come in January.

 

 

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  Group Schedule

MENLO PARK

Monday 6:15-7:45pm  Gay & Bisexual Men's Psychotherapy Group | OPENINGS

Monday 8:00-9:30pm  Men's Psychotherapy Group | OPENINGS

  

SAN FRANCISCO | Gay Men's Psychotherapy Groups
*All Hayes Valley unless stated otherwise
Tuesday 5:50-7:20pm FULL
Tuesday 7:30-9:00pm FULL
Wednesday 5:45-7:15pm FULL
Wednesday 7:30-9:00pm OPENINGS
Thursday 6:30-8:00pm FULL*
*Co-facilitated with 
Greg Millard, Ph.D., in the Financial District

 

Participation in groups involves an interview and screening process. Please contact Jamie Moran at jammoran@aol.com or 415.552.9408.

 

 

Jamie Moran, LCSW, CGP

Psychotherapy and Consultation

Licensed Clinical Social Worker #14447

Certified Group Psychotherapist #42559

Continuing Education Provider, #5346

 

425 Gough Street, San Francisco, CA 94102  (415) 552-9408

661 Live Oak Avenue, Menlo Park, CA 94025  (650) 598-8877

www.jamiemoran.com | jammoran@aol.com

 

 




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