Hi There,

You know you’re having one of those months when the crow’s feet have turned into vulture’s claws, the weirdo on the bus moves away from you when you sit down and the Big Issue salesmen toss a pound in your direction when they see you coming.

Oh don’t. Me too. A month that would make Stephen King wince and worst of all almost all of it entirely of my own making. Ouch. But you get times like that don’t you? My current blame du jour is the four super moons last year, that those in the know predicted would throw to the surface all unfinished business and fracture all that has been emotionally papered over into deep fractures.

Change, as much as we are digging the vintage vibe and doing the ostrich to things we can't bear, is one of life's inevitabilities.  We’re all having to dig deep these days. Not just profoundly into our pockets but into our psyches too to help mend and make do in uncertain times.  Redundancy, relationship crises, health issues and financial worries are becoming an increasing life burden.

When the future is foggy we struggle to find a rock to cling to. We want black and white answers when 50 shades of grey offers an unexciting and altogether unsexy prospect. So, the buzzword to hold on to is resilience. Simply put it’s the ability to draw into ourselves to find the reserve we need to help us through tough times.

Easy to say but not so straight forward to apply when you feel like jelly and you find yourself on shaky ground. Where’s the core foundation to draw upon?  You must have faith in your own instincts and abilities which will help guide you along the way,z with the goal in mind that things will get better as you take baby steps each day towards it. Coaching is great for this.

Digging deep into hitherto unknown reserves of self is what Japanese author Haruki Murakami writes about in his book on spirituality, philosophy and marathons What I Talk About When I Talk About Running.  Here he explains how he trained himself to be a marathon runner after smoking over 40 cigarettes a day and how he became an award-winning writer after a random thought occurred to him while drinking beer at a baseball game. He honestly reveals what he has to do to achieve these things, as he says, without any great innate gift and what he draws upon to do that. Ordinarily we don’t have to dig that deep for our everyday lives, but it is worth creating systems which you can turn to when you feel the ground shaking and your nerve heading for the Exit with someone else's coat.

Here are a few coaching tips to help consolidate resilience.

Another sure-fire way of developing some psychic superglue is to hire a coach. Book your 30 minute trial telephone session today by emailing me at [email protected]

Take it easy - but take it.

 

Your coach

  

Carole Ann Rice - Life Coach, Author, Columnist

The Real Coaching Co

T: 020 8566 2862

Carole Ann is an award winning journalist, media consultant and high profile coach, with over 15 years' coaching experience with private clients and major organisations such as the London School of Economics and Play England.

She co-wrote Start Your Dream Business and Find Your Dream Job which are available from Amazon.

She is the winner of 'Best Coach' in the Best Business Women's Awards 2017.

She is also MD of the Pure Coaching Academy which is an accredited (IIC&M) 8 week life coach training course where she trains people to become world class coaches. It includes an inclusive coaching manual which is the handbook of any new life coach when starting out.

Read Carole Ann's weekly Happy Monday column in the Daily Express.