Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado
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UPCOMING EVENTS: 
 Don't forget to check the Events Calendar on conflictresolutionmonth.org 
for further details!

Use the Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado calendar all year long - post your events related to problem solving activities to our calendar for all months, not just October!
 
September 23rd, 12:00-2:00 PM:  Campus Climates & Changing Intergroup Relations

September 25th, All Day, Everywhere:  Concert Across America

September 25th, 11:00 AM:  Burden of Peace Movie Series

September 25th-28th, All Day: Colorado Restorative Justice Conference
 
September 27th, 11:30 AM-1:00 PM: Summit County Coalition Meeting
 
September 28th-October 1st, All Day:


October 5th-November 2nd, 8:30 AM-4:30 PM:  Restorative Justice Principles Workshop Series

October 10th-14th, 8:30 AM-4:30 PM: 40 Hour Basic Mediator Training

October 11th, 8:30 AM-9 AM: Morning Line Interview
 

October 12th-14th, 8:30  AM-4:30 PM: Conflict Coaching Three Day Training

October 13th-15th, All Day:  Trauma & Trust Conference



October 20th, 5:30 PM-7:30 PM: Association of American Women in Community College
   

October 22nd, 8:30 AM-12:00 PM:  Calming Down the Conflict Parenting Seminar

October 22nd, 8:00 AM-5:00 PM:  Peace Jam Rocky Mountain SLAM

 
October 24th, 12:00-2:00 PM:  Peacebuilding in the 21st Century

October 24th, 3:00 PM-5:00 PM: Restorative Justice @ Colorado Bar
 
October 25th, 6:30-8:00 PM:  Thinking Out of the Box Improv Experience


November 11th, 6:30 PM-10:00 PM: PeaceJam 20th Anniversary
2016 BOOK SELECTION
Each Year, Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado selects a book that enhances problem solving skills and/or inspires dialogue. This year's selection is Forgiving Others, Forgiving Ourselves by  Myra Warren Isenhart &  Michael Spangle.

Check out the book and download the reader's guide by clicking the image below! 


 JOIN A TEAM!
There are so many ways to get involved in Conflict Resolution Month. One of the best ways is to become a Synergizer and join a Team!

Check out the details of each team here.  If you don't see a team that's right for you, feel free to attend the monthly Synergizer meeting and suggest something new!

To join a team, contact 

DONATE TO CONFLICT RESOLUTION MONTH!
  All donations to Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado are processed through our fiscal sponsor, The Conflict Center.  Please be sure to make a note in the online donation form that indicates that your donation is for  Conflict Resolution Month!
 
 
You may also send a check directly to the Conflict Center with Conflict Resolution Month in the memo line. 
NEWSLETTER
September , 2016

CR MONTH ARRIVING!
Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado is arriving! Here is our chance to move mountains...to change the behavior choices of people who live in and near those beautiful mountains.
 
Are we making every effort to leverage our opportunities to promote the use of alternative dispute resolution, effective communication skills, and constructive problem solving strategies? What best serves Colorado's individuals and communities?
 
One way of appreciating our campaign is to know that we have no statewide professional organization for this expansive group. We include practitioners in effective communications, relationship strategies, mediation, collaboration, restorative justice, courts, arbitration, negotiation, community organizing, building understanding, etc. All approaches to nonviolent resolution and deeper understandings are included in Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado.
 
You can use the campaign as a springboard to engage the public in conversations about how we want to approach conflicts in Colorado. Opportunities and activities created by many hosts are on our calendar at  http://conflictresolutionmonth.org/conflict-resolution-month-events/ 

Attend these events and encourage others to see the value of changing the norm of our state. We can approach conflicts with confidence when we know the skills and resources available to us.
 
Thank you for the thousands of volunteer hours!  Congratulations to everyone engaged in Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado!

- Mary Zinn, Jes Ward, & Jordan Courtner
STATEWIDE OUTREACH UPDATE
August was a busy month for connecting with old and new friends across Colorado. On the 4th, Cary Leher stopped in Alamosa to deliver Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado materials to Salai Taylor, Library Manager at the beautiful Alamosa Public Library.  Since our first visit with her in 2012, Salai has been an enthusiastic endorser of Conflict Resolution Month, devoting a large display area in the Library to the topic of Conflict Resolution every October. Just a few blocks away, Alice Price was waiting with another warm welcome. Many Synergizers know Alice as the founder of the Center for Restorative Programs in the San Luis Valley. Her outreach covers a vast six-county area: Alamosa, Conejos, Costilla, Mineral, Rio Grande, and Saguache. Alice also serves as a Family Court Facilitator, both Domestic and JV, for the 12th Judicial District.
 
On August 11th, Cary traveled up to Frisco for the monthly meeting of the Summit County Conflict Resolution Coalition. 12 members of their dynamic group were in attendance, and they were pleased to receive this year's Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado packets as well as complimentary copies of this year's book selection. It was a first in Statewide Outreach history to have the co-author of the book, Myra Isenhart, PhD, right there at the meeting as Chair! The Summit County team is already well along in their planning of a variety of terrific events and programs for this October.
 
At the end of the month, Mary Zinn and Cary returned to Colorado Springs to facilitate a lunch meeting for El Paso County conflict resolution collaborators. Hosted by the Better Business Bureau at their offices, this gathering was a chance for a wide variety of practitioners to learn more about Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado. Over yummy box lunches catered by Jimmy John's, the program opened with our PowerPoint presentation and then proceeded through the materials in our marketing packets. There was plenty of time for the folks in attendance to brainstorm and share thoughts  for working together on events this October. Our special thanks to Monica Lichtenberger and Jan Rodgers of Phoenix Strategies, and to Catherine McNaughton of the BBB, for all their help in planning this meaningful gathering.
 
With Cary heading back to Florida soon, we are already making plans for next summer's road trips. We have an invitation to visit Crested Butte's Peace Museum Colorado, and we hope to add Salida and Buena Vista to our itinerary, as well. Thanks to everyone for making 2016 such a success!


Front Row (Left to Right): 
Tina Horton, Juvenile Court Facilitator, 4th Judicial District
Christopher Heidrick, Better Business Bureau of Southern CO
Mary Zinn, Synergizer, Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado

Back Row (Left to Right):
Jan Rodgers, Phoenix Strategies
Crystal Karr, CASA of the Pikes Peak Region
Deb Hamilton, Law Librarian, Pikes Peak Library District
Tracy Arthur, Arthur Mediation Services 
Catherine McNaughton, Better Business Bureau of Southern Colorado
Cary Elizabeth Leher, Statewide Outreach Coordinator, Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado
Tom Strand, Colorado Springs City Councilmember
Whitney Bradford, Sparkmindset
Eileen Donnelly, 11th Annual Conflict Resolution Conference Committee 
Monica Lichtenberger, Phoenix Strategies, Inc. 
IMPROV EXPERIENCE
Thinking Out-of-the -Box Improv Experience
 
Tuesday, October 25, 2016 -- 6:30 PM to 8 PM
The Conflict Center, 4140 Tejon St. Denver 80211

Sign up right away for an enlightening and fun-filled Improv evening! 
Explore the insights of positive responses and building stories together.
 
Improvisational theater is the art of playing games to invent new ideas at the drop of a hat, without using a script. You don't have to be an actor to be good at improv! In improv there are no mistakes, which means everyone has a chance to feel successful.
 
So why should you try improv? Well, there are plenty of reasons, but here are a few that
might entice you:
  • Improv improves listening skills and, if we're being honest, many of us tend to talk more than we listen;
  • Improv relieves stress through laughter, and we could all use more of that!
  • Improv sparks creativity, and gets you thinking outside the box.
  • Improv creates community, and for most of us, community is a key to our success;
  • Improv sharpens our memory function, which is still critical, despite the existence of Siri!
The main rule of improv is simply to say "YES", and go with the flow. It's time to get more connected with others and with yourself. Experience the exhilaration of spontaneous responding.
 
Limited to 20 participants, so you must reserve your spot! RSVP: mzinn@zinnmediation.com . We look forward to seeing you on October 25!!
 
Hosted by Mary Zinn and Lucy Floyd, the Improv Maven, http://www.improv-maven.com/
WOMEN, PEACE & GLOBAL GOALS
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NAVIGATING TO SUCCESS
Navigating to Success:  A Special Read Aloud Opportunity
October 21, 2016

"A book is a gift you can open again and again." -Garrison Keillor

Clayton Partnership, a school in Mapleton School District, will celebrate our 2nd Annual Read Aloud recognizing Colorado Conflict Resolution Month.  This enchanting opportunity is fondly called "Navigating to Success!" This special read aloud is designed to support young minds in resolving conflicts productively and building relationships for the future!  A generous Donor's Choose grant provides  quality literature for guest readers to share with classes about conflict resolution in 21 different classrooms, Kindergarten through 8th grade. After the literature is read by these motivational synergizers and an engaging discussion is fostered, our special read aloud visitors will "gift" the book to the classroom in order to foster an opportunity that will create a lifelong memory for all involved!

Mapleton Schools are passionate about learning. Our schools, which are small-by-design, allow students to discover their abilities, embrace their talents and explore their passions. Staff recognize and validate students' unique individual differences and encourage students to be responsible learners in the classroom, school and community. Clayton Partnership believes that by focusing on building communication skills, nurturing leadership opportunities in our students and collaboratively working to resolve problems productively, students can change our world and our future!
HOSTING CONVERSATION IS FOR EVERYONE
Blog Post by Amy Quinn

Once of the best places to build relationships regardless of past conflicts or misunderstood "agendas" is around the table, perhaps over a meal or coffee.  At the table we uncover a shared humanity.  At the most basic level, relishing delicious food together creates connection. Offering and receiving hospitality is a starting point for enjoying and growing relationships.
 
Every person can create and engage in thoughtful conversation around the table.  When glancing around a friend's back yard last weekend, filled with 24 guests for a "Summer Send Off " party, I was amazed: each guest was fully participating in dialog with someone else. No one was quiet!  Guests seemed to glide easily around the patio, welcoming others into conversation or approaching them with a handshake. Laughter wafted up into the branches of a large tree.  Not wanting to interrupt the remarkable din, the host pushed off the "dinner hour," unworried about food becoming cold!  Perfect- why interrupt?  Most guests did not know one another, yet somehow, the conversation flowed.
 
In our increasingly disconnected world connecting with co-workers, fellow volunteers, board members, acquaintances, neighbors, and even friends and family can be challenging.   Yet, witnessing last weekend's ease gives me confidence that barriers are superficial if the right "hosting" is in place.  Conversation occurs if there's thoughtful hospitality.
 
Every person can create and engage in thoughtful conversation by using tips learned from hospitality.  Here are mine:
 
Preparation:  "A hospitable conversationalist means preparing thoroughly and thoughtfully for your guest." [1]  Plan all logistics ahead. This might include confirming a menu, providing office supplies and required technology for the meeting room, assuring cleanliness and appeal of a venue, setting up tables and chairs etc...  Make sure the space is ready and food preparations, if offering a meal, are as complete as possible.
 
Time: Most of us live full, demanding lives.  Beyond everyday small talk, we struggle finding moments to connect with others.  Build in time for "off topic" discussion, space to be present with others, without any agenda. 
 
The Attendee List: Consider who is attending.  If hosting a social or networking gathering, mix up the invite list.  Reflect on who might enjoy whom.  What role have they played in your work or personal life?  Why are they being included?
What do participants share in common?  What do they like to do? 
 
Seating: If possible, arrange who sits next to whom.  This applies to a meeting as much as a social gathering. The seating arrangements should be purposeful and make it easier for guests (and employees) to immediately connect with someone.
 
Greeting: Greet each person with enthusiasm.  A kind reception creates comfort, setting the stage for easeful interactions.
 
Introductions: Introduce, introduce, introduce and provide a reason for why particular guests should meet.  Or, after the introduction, insert a topic to help start conversation.  As far as introductions...keep it traditional and uncomplicated. The Emily Post Institute suggests we: 
(1)   " Look at the person (we) are speaking to first, then turn to the other person as (we) complete the introduction...
(2)   Even in informal situations or with contemporaries, it's helpful to use first and last names: 'Judy, this is Tom Jacobs. Tom, this is Judy Samson...'
(3)   When introducing someone to a small group, it's practical to name the group members first, primarily to get their attention: "Sara, Kathy, Dan, I'd like to introduce Curtis Tyler. Curtis, I'd like you to meet Sara Rocher, Kathy Henley, and Dan Quinn." [2]
 
Welcome Comments: Express your intention for the gathering and or meeting, showing gratitude for the chance to bring people together.  Make guests feel valued.  As a way to nudge guests toward conversation, introduce a theme into your welcome remarks.   For example, last weekend's host shared a quote about the end of summer and we, in turn, with other guests, reflected on our experiences during this time of year.
 
Some Favorite Questions: Have a pocketful of favorite questions. Question from the "End of Summer" gathering included: "Tell me about a happy summer memory; What season do you enjoy the most and why; What's your favorite activity during the summer".
 
Wear Another Shoe: Remember to put yourself in someone else's shoes when in conversation.  To fully experience what another person is sharing, listen, empathize and keep your mind quiet. 
 
When gathering around any table, for conversation over a meal, or not, remember to exhale and relax.  Imagine how warm hospitality welcomes our full selves to the table.  Let go off distracting cell phones, negative political discourse and the frenetic pace.  Instead enjoy the chance to participate in joyful interactions.  Use tips from hospitality and your own inherent hospitable spirit to create and engage in conversation.
 
Every person has the ability to authentically connect through conversation around any table!  Come back to the table for memorable conversation- today!
 
  For coaching on how to create a communal table or to offer A Table In Time for your organization, please contact Amy Quinn, Founder: atableintime@gmail.com and http://www.atableintime.com


[1] "Acumen Presents: Krista Tippet on the Art of Conversation"; Udemy; Lecture #13
 
[2]"Tips for Making a Great Introduction"; http://emilypost.com/advice/making-introductions/
MEETING REMINDER
Next Meeting:  
Wednesday, October 5th, 2016, 11:30 AM - 1:00 PM
At The Conflict Center
4140 Tejon St., Denver, CO 80211
 
The Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado Synergizers are a group of individuals who come together each month to build the infrastructure that supports the October activities and to generate awareness. Meetings are open to anyone who has the passion and energy to commit to making Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado a success!


Synergizer meetings take place at 11:30am on the FIRST WEDNESDAY of every month, February through November, at The Conflict Center.  Please bring your own lunch and beverage.
The mission of Conflict Resolution Month in Colorado
is to inspire the use of constructive problem solving in Colorado.