"Greetings from New York City where spring is quickly becoming summer. Over this past month I had the privilege of working with an incredibly talented filmmaker, Adam Watstein, and writer McCarton Ackerman. Adam shot and edited a series of videos I hosted for About.com dealing with relationship issues and McCarton wrote thoughtfully and compassionately about addiction issues for The Fix.com. I also had my first peer review journal article published in the Journal of Wealth Management on Treating Wealthy Patients and their families and continue to work with Dr. Oz on helping women heal from relationship conflicts. At the end of the month I'll be presenting my journal article at the West Coast Symposium of Addictive Disorders conference in Palm Springs. So if you're in the area, give a shout! Warmly, Dr. P. |
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 One of the most devastating things that can happen to a woman is to be cheated on or left for a younger woman. It's insulting, it's humiliating, and it's infuriating. In my clinical and personal experience, the women who've faced this situation feel they'll never get over their pain - but they do. And if they consciously  process their betrayal, they come through it stronger, more confident and happier women. Unfortunately, you can't go from anger to acceptance overnight. There's a lot of ground you'll need to cover in between. Give yourself the time and space to trudge it. And while you're trudging your road to a higher destiny, use the following five steps to enhance your journey. In them, you can stay on a healing path instead of falling into an emotional trap of self-pity and self-destruction. Continue Reading... |
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 In dealing with verbal abuse in a relationship with your spouse, it's important that you keep in m ind the following: first of all, don't feel like it's your fault. That's the purpose of verbal abuse - it's to make you feel less than and to feel like you're at fault.
Secondly, make sure that you have clear boundaries and communicate them to your partner. Third, make sure you have an escape plan, make sure that you have a way to get out of the relationship if the verbal abuse gets dangerous or if you feel unsafe.
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 Cutting yourself to quell emotional pain isn't all that different from drinking or drugging, though the scars are more apparent. The question is: How dangerous is it?
For the past decade, cutting has been working its way slowly into popular imagination and in lurid headlines... Although few studies have been published on the subject, it's estimated that one in every 200 American girls between the ages of 13 and 19 cut themselves regularly, while as many as four percent of adults in the US engage in similar self-harm.
Usually associated with trauma, cutting doesn't start at any set age but, culturally speaking, tends to be associated with the pain of adolescence.
It's also as addictive as a narcotic. Continue Reading
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A Guide for Competent Psychotherapeutic Care
(Source: The Journal of Wealth Management)
 Wealthy patients and their families often struggle to find culturally competent and sensitive psychotherapeutic treatment. Therapists bring their own issues around money into the psychotherapeutic relationship. These issues include a resistance to discussing money, resentment of people of wealth, and objectification of their patients. Competent care requires therapists to have their own process and tools to deal with these issues. Money is a highly charged and complex energetic. Like fire, money's energetic has both productive and destructive qualities; and like fire, money's energetic must be mindfully used and properly contained. One of the places money's energetic is often improperly utilized is in the psychotherapeutic relationship. In this article, Dr. Paul Hokemeyer addresses the three most common issues that affect therapists' ability to work with people of wealth and provides practical tools to assist therapists in working through these issues. Continue to Article Abstract
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 Please Join us for the 3rd Annual West Coast Symposium on Addictive Disorders!! May 31 - June 3rd. With 75 challenging session and over 90 esteemed faculty, the WCSAD is the event to attend! In 2011, WCSAD hosted more than 560 participants from 4  countries and 37 states. This premier addiction conference is dedicated to continuing education and networking, combining workshops and seminars on timely industry topics with an unmatched show-case of the industry's products, services and facilities in our exhibit hall. Continue to Faculty List |
 Dr. Paul Hokemeyer is a licensed Marriage and Family therapist who lives and works in Manhattan and is also the Senior Clinical Advisor to Ocean Drive at Caron Renaissance. Dr. Hokemeyer is a sought after media personality who regularly contributes to Good Morning America, The Today Show, CNN's Prime News, Fox News, Oprah Radio and others.
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In This Issue
Left For a Younger Woman
How to Respond to a Spouse's Verbal Abuse
Cutting: A Painful Addiction
Treating Wealthy Patients and Their Families ____________
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