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I saw a boy get destroyed today and no one noticed. At a friend's Christmas party, families streamed in and a familiar scene took shape. Uncles, aunts and grandparents began to echo the dangerous lie that good children have good grades and good behavior. "Look how smart he is, dear. He made the honor roll again! Here's a little extra gift for you." "She's such a well-behaved and polite girl. I can see why you are so popular in school." As the children were paraded around, Jacob sat in the corner by himself quietly building with his Legos, listening to all of this.   

  

He struggles with behavior in school--it's hard for him to sit still, memorize information and get good grades. He works five times harder than the rest of the kids, but struggles. Know what he feels like? A bad kid. A stupid kid. No wonder he shuts down and has no confidence. No wonder he says, "I'm stupid" and verbalizes open frustration. No wonder he's oppositional. He has trouble sleeping, doesn't like many different foods, is very sensitive. And sometimes he's just a difficult kid...because he's so misunderstood.

Not one single person at that party praised Jacob for his amazing imagination, ability to see in three dimensions and create/build/draw/invent. All they said is that he pushes people's buttons. But they missed the fact that he's good at pushing buttons because he gets people, he understands what makes people tick, he's an old soul...and one day he's going to help a lot of people because he has a huge heart. But Jacob doesn't fit the mold so he suffers something worse than bullying everyday.

Know what Jacob hears every day of his life? "You are different. And your different isn't good. You, in fact, are difficult. Why can't you be like your siblings and relatives? Until you can learn to fit in and be like the others, your opinion isn't as valuable and our affection will be withheld. The fact is you embarrass us, Jacob. Too bad you get diminished, destroyed and shoved aside because we are too weak as adults to focus on what's really important, and instead value outward appearances. Just shape up and we'll accept you, too."

I am going to speak bluntly here. I hadn't planned to write this today and it's not a nice Christmas message, but it's critical we hear this. Because this scene will be repeated in millions of homes this coming week. It's not always aunts and uncles and grandparents who do this. In some homes, a father tears his kids down. Because that's what his father did to him. We as men need to grow up and stop taking out this anger on innocent kids. In some homes, the Mom is relentlessly negative and harps on the kids because her Mom was like that. She better get control of her anxiety or it will literally destroy relationships and the child's confidence.

If your child needs to hear that they have a great future ahead of them, that their difference is a GOOD thing, then let them listen to the CDs we created. It will change your children and how YOU view your kids. We give you specific, step-by-step words and actions that help your kids be successful, stop the yelling and defiance. Make 2012 radically different--you can change your family tree and break these generational patterns for good. But it doesn't happen without specific help. Everything is on clearance and we work with everyone's budget so call or reply to this email. Click here for the CD Clearance sale.  We would highly recommend: Straight Talk for Kids, Courageous Parenting DVD, and Calm Couples Marriage CD set. 

 

Take the Calm Challenge to start the New Year with a 40-day plan to overcome your anxiety, perfectionism or yelling with new habits. We'll help you learn to be assertive, control yourself and be that calm, confident person you've wanted to be. Be bold and take action so your kids don't suffer in silence.

   


Keep enjoying your kids. Happy Hanukkah and Merry Christmas!
Kirk   

 

 

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Women, do any of these statements describe you?

- I don't feel like I have an identity anymore apart from my role as a mother and/or wife.
- I look in the mirror and don't even recognize who I am anymore. I am not this anxious, yelling person my kids hear everyday.
- I am so turned inside out I don't even know what my gifts, talents and passions are anymore.
- I feel utterly lost.
- When I was young, I had a dream and vision for my life. But my parents didn't approve so I did what I thought would make THEM happy.
- I am angry at myself for being so weak and allowing this to happen to me.
- The sad thing is I don't know what I'd do with a few minutes of free time if I wasn't managing everyone and everything. This is my identity now.
- I don't like to ask my husband for help with the kids, house or anything because he works so hard.
- I apologize when I ask someone for help because I feel like I am an imposition.
- I realize now after reading this that I have little self-respect or confidence. This is disturbing to me.
- I am a "caretaker" for everyone in my life. I end up doing everything for everyone. I'm always helping others. Even my "friends" never really ask about me-they are always taking from me.
- I wish you knew the younger me. I was fun and confidence, I was bold and filled with all kinds of dreams and idealism. Now I just feel dead inside. Actually, I feel numb.
- I would rather at least feel used and needed than be alone with my thoughts. I don't even know what I want.
- I am scared because I have no clue how to climb out of this.


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