Patience is a virtue (no, really).
In order to explain the benefit of patience, let's start with the opposite: Impatience.
  It's a feeling we all know well, and it's never a positive emotion. It's also a sign that you're not in the present moment, not staying process-oriented, and your mind is not fully engaged in what you're actually doing.

Consider your morning shower or drive to work. Are you thinking about showering or where you're going? Or are you worrying about bills you need to pay, emails you need to write, or coming up with a witty comeback to something someone said days ago?

It's a good guess that your mind is anywhere but in your car or in the shower. Anticipating circumstances that haven't even happened yet, trying to answer questions that haven't been asked, or telling yourself to deal with things you can't deal with at that moment only scatters your energy, drops you out of the "now" and allows your mind to lead you by the nose to who knows where, and of course, leads to impatience and other negative emotions.

Learn to become aware when your internal dialogue is running wild and dragging you with it. If you're not aware of it, which is probably most of the time, then you're not in control.  

Your imagination takes you from one circumstance to another and your different emotions fire off inside you as you subconsciously react to each problem your mind visits. It's frustrating, and also exhausting.

To free yourself from this endless cycle, you must step back and notice the real you, the Observer who just quietly watches all this drama as it unfolds. As you practice staying in the present, you'll become aware of the difference between the real you and your ego's internal dialogue. Learning to concentrate on the here and now takes practice, but you can certainly get there.

Part 2 of this section will be in the next TPMI email, so keep an eye on your inbox for how to handle it when your mind is running away with you.

But you say, sometimes I need to be in the future like... I have to get my mind together before my meeting!
You DO need to plan before your meeting, but you can sit in a chair, with a pen or your laptop, and focus on that meeting and only that meeting for 20-30 minutes. Then your mind is completely there with you, you are not emotional or stressed about it, and you will get better results than if you try to "multitask" (which if you've been around for a bit, you know isn't really a real thing). You're doing nothing other than exactly what you are doing - you're living in the present moment and you have access to your full consciousness.

No more urgency, anxiety or stress because you are trying to plan the meeting while brushing your teeth, driving to work, and scattering your energy among multiple things at once.
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