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The Communication Genius of Artistotle
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Communication Genius of Aristotle
Conversation Quotation
Jest Words
Words of Inspiration
Little Known Fact About Loren Ekroth
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Resources on Death and Dying
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This Week's Issue:
July 3, 2013

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The Communication Genius of Aristotle

 

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What You'll Find In This Issue:

 

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1. This Week's Article

2. Conversation Quotation

3. Jest Words

4. Words of Inspiration

5. Little Known Fact About Loren Ekroth

6. Happy Independence Day! 

7. Resources on Death and Dying

8. Please post in Social Media 

The Communication Genius of Aristotle


 

Why are Aristotle's ideas about communication "genius"?

 

Here's why, as author C.W. Ceram put it, "Genius is the ability to reduce the complicated to the simple."

 

Aristotle (384-322 BC) reduced the key elements of communication (rhetoric) to three: Ethos, Pathos, and Logos.

 

Because it's possible to go through high school, college, and even graduate school without ever encountering these ideas, I'll explain.

 

1.     Ethos: This has to do with a speaker's credibility and character. People (you) are more attentive to those you trust, and you allow yourself to be influenced by them.

 

2.     Pathos: The emotional connection you make with others. When they feel what you say matters to them, and you care about them, your influence is considerable. Example: When salespeople include stories their clients can identify with, they make more sales.)

 

3.     Logos: Your appeal to others sense of  

     reason. (The term logos is a cousin of the word logic.) Facts and evidence put together so that others know how you arrived at your conclusions. That's logos.

 

Great speakers and conversers employ all three for best effects.

 

Of these three, your ethos is earned over time as others come to see you are credible. However, your credibility can be easily

broken if you are caught lying, or even exaggerating, about a matter.

 

We all know people who don't have credibility. Perhaps they are poorly informed, or perhaps they are manipulative. Or "two-faced" like gossips. We reject or deflect their messages. We tune them out.  Aristotle's counsel: "Be credible by being ethical." 

 

Pathos occurs when you are able to genuinely empathize with a person - or even a large audience. When they feel you care about them, they become open to your message.

 

Some professions (like teaching or counseling) require an ability to employ pathos. 

 

Logos is a skill that can be acquired either by study or by observation, or both. For example, when you listen to a formal debate, you'll hear reason, facts, evidence -logic.

 

Modern communication theory adds one other factor: The receiver (your audience). However, In classical Athens, the only audience that mattered to a speaker was only a small part of the community, the "citizens". Citizens included only men 18 or older. No women (half the population), and no slaves (40% of the population.) Actual citizens were perhaps 15-20% at most. and citizens were rather homogenous, not diverse   

  

Finally, some further background on Aristotle:

 

Aristotle was a student of Plato and the teacher of Alexander the Great.  His writings cover many subjects, including physics, metaphysics, poetry, theater, music, logic, rhetoric, linguistics, politics, government, ethics, biology and zoology. 

 

If you want to explore Aristotle's communication ideas more deeply, get a copy of his work "The Rhetoric."  (The well-worn copy I have was translated by W. Rhys Roberts. Most public libraries would have it.)

 

2. Conversation Quotation

 

"The secret to humor is surprise."

--Aristotle

3. Jest Words    

 

My theory on housework is, if the item doesn't multiply, smell, catch on fire, or block the refrigerator door, let it be. No one cares. Why should you?

 

--Erma Bombeck, 1927-1996


4. Words of Inspiration 

 

It turned out that getting fired by Apple was the best thing that could ever have happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

-- Steve Jobs, Apple CEO (1955 - 2011)

 

 

5.  Little Known Fact About Loren Ekroth

 


 

Loren grew up in the Douglas County, Wisconsin jail.

 

From 1943 through 1952, the Ekroth family with 4

children lived in the county sheriff's residence, separated

from the prisoners' cell area only by one heavy door.

 

Loren's father had lost the general election for sheriff

in Nov. 1942 by 12 votes out of 15,000 cast. He

requested a recount and, at the end of 10 full days

of examination of each ballot by a judge, the candidates, and their attorneys, Loren's father Elton Ekroth won by 3 votes and became county sheriff. He served five 2-year terms.

 
6. Happy Independence Day! 

Although many communities will not be doing their usual fireworks displays (due to the "sequestration" that limits funding), I expect

you celebrating Americans will be able to light a sparkler or two.

 

Happy 4th!

7. Preparing to Talk About Death and Dying

Some subscribers requested further information

to prepare for talking about death and dying.

Below you'll find both books and websites.

 

Books:

 

No Longer Awkward: Communicating with Clients through the Toughest Times of Life, by Amy Florian (2013)

 

Dying to Be Me, Anita Moorjani (2012)

 

On Death and Dying, Elizabeth Kubler-Ross (1997)

 

When Someone Dies: The Practical Guide to

the Logistics of Death, by Scott Taylor Smith (2013)

 

Websites:

 

Canadian Hospice Center in Victoria, B.C.

http://www.victoriahospice.org/

 

This organization trains professionals how to

support their clients in times of loss and transition. 

 

 

 
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Loren Ekroth �2013, all rights reserved

 

Loren Ekroth, Ph.D. is a specialist in human communication and a national expert on conversation for business and social life. 

 

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