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Dear Red Hot Mamas

I know this may sound peculiar but I need to ask it anyway.  I was in a healthy relationship with my husband since I started college. Unfortunately, my spouse passed away about seven years ago. Considering my age (58) and my life stage, I am quite lonely and would like to find someone who wants  a long term relationship or marriage. Can you please offer some suggestions to help me? I'm just not ready to place a personal ad.

Thank you.

Barbara
Dear Barbara,

There are many things you can do to find that special someone.  Here are a few things for consideration:
  • Indulge your special interests with others by attending activities which interest you.  For example, attending public events (fairs, festivals, auto shows, museums, art shows, and nature parks, etc..   These events allow you to make new friends that have the same interests. Check your local newspaper for these events.
  • Chatting it up at your place of worship.  This activity allows you to make friends and mix with people.
  • Enroll in adult just for fun class from sports, dancing to learning a new language.  And you will also expand your mind and get in shape too. Choose a class that allows you to laugh and interact with people whom you might consider dating.
  • Join a gym.  Some gyms have juice bars where you can meet and mingle.
  • Volunteering your time for doing something worthwhile.  Helping people in greater need can keep you connected to the world and people will benefit from your efforts.
  • Flash your smile in everyday places especially if you see an interesting person perhaps on a train, in a store or elevator.  Keep your eyes and ears open at all times. Even at the drycleaners.
  • Explore singles specific events.  Singles dances, parties, dinners, sports tournaments, etc. 
  • Online dating services. The services computer program selects certain people who match you to another person who has your likes, passions, and goals.  However, no one interviews the applicant or verifies the accuracy of the responses.
Just stay positive as you can meet another great man.  There are many emotionally available men out there that are sincere and are marriage minded like yourself.   Happy hunting!

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FROM THE EDITOR...KAREN GIBLIN 

"You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough."
- Mae West

Dear Red Hot Mamas,

For many of us, aging seems to have become much easier than it was even a generation ago.  I hope that you all will back me up on this statement. I know that each and every birthday, there are more candles on my cake than ever before.  However, when I look in the mirror, I don't see an old person looking back at me. Yes, there are certainly more wrinkles, but I always try to keep a twinkle in my wrinkles by having a positive attitude about aging and incorporating laughter and maintaining an enthusiasm for life.  

Laughter can keep you young and in good health.  Vigorous laughter is like an aerobic exercise and can speed up your heart rate and works all over the body; it decreases stress hormones; boosts our immunity; combats depression; and relieves pain.  It certainly is one of my favorite forms of exercise.

So, try to devote yourselves to pleasurable pursuits that bring happiness and laughter into your lives.  I am at that age where I have grandchildren. And, they certainly contribute to my having a lot of chuckles and keeping that twinkle in my wrinkles, too.  

5 Red Hot Ways to Laugh More:
  • Read the funnies
  • Befriend a funny person
  • Turn off the news and turn on a comedy
  • Hang out with little kids
  • Don't take life so seriously
Laughter is contagious. Make humor a priority in your life and find laughable moments each day to share with your family and friends.  

Good Health to You All,

Karen Giblin

THE RED HOT MAMAS WELCOMES OUR NEWEST HOSPITAL
Welcome Aboard....

Exciting news!  Red Hot Mamas is pleased to announce their new hospital site and they are hosting their first program.  We hope that you will join them for this special event.  Bring your loved ones and friends.

Montgomery County Memorial Hospital 
"Making Time for Menopause" 
Presented by : Sharon Johnson, ARNP 
Oct 25, 2018 at 6:00pm 
Conference Center- Lower Level 
2301 Eastern Ave 
Red Oak IA, 51566 

Call 712-623-7179 for more info and to register 

MORE THAN BIRDS AND BEES: RECHARGING YOUR SEXUAL BATTERIES

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I collaborated with AMAG Pharmaceuticals to develop this post to educate women about painful sex due to menopause through the PAINFULLY AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS campaign. All opinions are my own.

Sex can sizzle after menopause - it doesn't have to fizzle! It should and can remain pleasurable at any age!

Sex plays an important role in our lives and has positive health benefits. It decreases our stress levels; improves our sleep and relaxation (what a great way to overcome insomnia!); it helps with losing weight (sex burns about 150 calories every half hour-so say goodbye to those "quickies"); it also increases our longevity (it slows the aging process, enabling us to stay younger). So with all these positives, why should women want to give up one of life's most pleasurable pastimes?

Sizzle or Fizzle...Sex During Menopause

Feeling the Fizzle? Changes and Symptoms of Menopause

It's important for women to understand what to expect when menopause arrives and how to manage its course. Some women have symptoms which are mild and easily tolerated. Unfortunately, for others, hot flashes, mood swings, poor sleep, vaginal dryness and painful sex become intolerable. These changes greatly influence "life between the sheets" and bring about sexual challenges that many women aren't prepared for.

Pain during sex, along with vaginal dryness and other discomforting symptoms like loss of vaginal tissue, lubrication, and flexibility, is a common problem experienced by postmenopausal women due VVA, or vulvar and vaginal atrophy. In fact, millions of women in the U.S. aren't enjoying sex because of the pain or discomfort with sexual intercourse that result from the changes in our bodies that happen after menopause.

The Sexual Sahara

VVA symptoms, like painful sex will not get better without treatment, and can often get worse. For some women, sex becomes mission impossible and as a result they flatline sex. This creates a sexual Sahara (sexual dry spells) in their relationship.

There is a definite gap in women's knowledge about both the symptoms and treatment of painful sex. Women need to be better informed about this prevalent issue. Vaginal dryness occurs around the time of menopause and may lead to discomfort, itching and pain during sex. Over time, the vagina mucosa becomes thinner and leads to vaginal atrophy. These changes are driven by the decrease in sexual hormones that start at the time of menopause. Left untreated, the symptoms worsen and impact quality of life and sexuality.

That's why I was so excited to partner with AMAG Pharmaceuticals on their PAINFULLY AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS campaign to help bridge the gap and educate women on this common and treatable condition. Take a look at how Emmy nominated actress Cheryl Hines and her friends discuss painful sex due to menopause and see that you're not alone.

More details about this issue are available at the PAINFULLY AWKWARD CONVERSATIONS campaign website, www.pausesexpain.com . Learn more and educate yourself on painful sex due to menopause. Also, learn how to feel comfortable discussing this condition with your healthcare provider.

Don't be embarrassed to discuss your changes and communicate your needs with your partner.  You will be surprised to find that the challenges you face at menopause may open up new sexual dimensions.  Remember, sex is not an exclusive birthright only for the young. It may need cultivating, a wee bit more at menopause, but it should last a lifetime.  

Treasure it and Respect It.  
Overall, even after menopause women can enjoy sexual intimacy if they have the knowledge to recognize the symptoms associated with painful sex and they can clearly communicate their needs with their healthcare provider.

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