Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Marin
UUCM Email Weekly!
February 8, 2018
Issue #439
Sunday Worship Service
10:30 am
February 11, 2018: Side With Love
Linda Haumann

Have you noticed that the word "unprecedented" has been used almost every day during the past year or so? We are witnessing an ugly time in our history when our country is very divided -- when the democratic norms and institutions that we hold dear are being threatened. It is a time when overt racism, sexism, misogyny, anti-LGBTQ rights, and anti-immigrant sentiment are being normalized. We have a responsibility as Unitarian Universalists to speak out and do what we can to clearly Side with Love.

Linda Haumann is a long-time member of UUCM and identifies as both UU and Jewish. Taught from an early age "never again" regarding the Holocaust, Linda has always had a passion for fairness, justice, and equity. Having witnessed, as a young child, the murders of John Kennedy, Martin Luther King, Jr. and Robert Kennedy, she has been drawn to social justice causes and does not take her privilege for granted. Linda holds a masters degree in Expressive Arts therapy and has held positions in social services, senior services, and as UUCM's former Director of Religious Education. Currently, she is the new chair of UUCM's Social Justice Committee.

Past services  (you can listen to the audio of many past sermons)
The Sunday Circle 9 am

9 am - The Sunday Circle 

Upcoming Topics and Leaders
Inspiration and Contemplation: More Mary Oliver  
Doug Kerr

2/18/18 Courageous Crusader: Ida B. Wells 
Carol Kerr  
More Info and additional service topics.

The Sunday Circle is held from 9:00 am to 10:00 am each Sunday in the Fireside Room.
Words of Joy: Valentine's Day and Love    
     You can't go into a drugstore or supermarket much after New Year's without seeing the shelves of valentine cards and gifts. Like so many of our holidays, Valentine's Day is now a commercial event. But behind it stands the basic human desire to express love, as well as a complex history. According to one theory, it goes back to the ancient Roman feast of Lupercalia, which was celebrated on February 15 to honor Pan, the deity of earth. On this feast day, unmarried men drew lots to pair up with single women. The men would then act as servants for a year to the woman whose names they drew.
     The Christian church, so this theory goes, tried to abolish Lupercalia by replacing the names of the women from which the Roman men drew with the names of saints. The church also moved the date to February 14, and named it St. Valentine's Day, after two third century Christian martyrs, both named Valentine. But despite the church's efforts, it appears that the Saint's Day was not as appealing a holiday as the ancient mating ritual. In England during the Middle Ages, and probably earlier, people seem to have reverted to the ancient Roman mating sport, although the Christian name for this holiday was retained. Single men and women would draw each others' names at random. They would then exchange gifts with their chance "valentines," and sometimes, the sport would turn into a romance.
     Our current Valentine's Day seems to be descended from this ancient mating practice. It is not much of a saint's day anymore. It's a day for lovers. May we celebrate it with joy, whenever and wherever and it occurs: between men and women, same sex lovers, parents and children, among dear friends. It is a precious gift, the ground root of our being. Through love, we expand our vision, and our lives gain a sense of meaning and purpose.
     According to Willard Gaylin, in his book Caring, the ability to love and care may be built right into our genes! How else, he asks, could we human beings, who also have aggressive tendencies toward other humans, have survived as a species?
     So here's to the joyous, complex and many-faceted human experience we call love. May it bloom forth abundantly in your life!
Happy Valentine's Day!
jef melcher
 Spring feels so imminent. Here is a little check-in on our RE program. Also, please note the list of RE teachers and give them all a hearty thank you for their service to the community.
We have 35 registered children in RE and a few more regular visitors not yet registered. We are getting more of them registered now with a clearer registration process with the Nursery - K1 teacher and registering three new families coming in from the OWL class.

Serving our RE programs are almost
2 dozen teachers and assistants in our four classes.
Nursery - K1 is successfully being led by Glynda Christian with regular assistance by Carol Kerr and Susan Mathews. We need another regular assistant to fill out this crew. Interested?
Creative Compassionates Teaching Team is well staffed. Monique Webster is done for the rest of this year, but Earle Owen is being rotated in as a regular assistant. Lead teachers are Julie Prentice, Ilana Trumbull-Stearns, Mary Bicknell, Jef Melcher, and Sarah Tiederman. Assistants are Earle Owen, June Fesler, and Katherine DaSilva Jain.
OWL 4-6: Lead Teachers in this class are Mikey Songster and Chris Davenport with substitutes Lori Smith and Sher Sheldon. The parent group is being facilitated by Doug Kerr with Jef Melcher as a sub as needed.
YRUU: Helping George Pegelow on a regular basis are Peter McAllister and Jef Melcher. Assistance has come from Bea Meluch, and Cat Woods. Additional assistance will be coming from Chris Davenport and Cat Woods with the reinvigoration of the Youth Adult Committee (YAC) in Feb/March.
Intimate RE Experience for Parents
For ages 0-12, parents are going to be invited into the rotation as assistants. We want each parent to have a classroom experience once per semester. We will be starting the rotations in Feb. We want child and parent to have a better connection about what is happening in RE and a more intimate experience with the RE program
RE topics: 
We continue our discussion about White Supremacy and Racism in grades  4-12 until at least mid-Feb to coincide with the congregational conversation. Then the Creative Compassionates will take on the Hatred Horcrux, Child Slavery Horcrux, and the Environmental Disaster Horcrux. The YRUU will move into doing portions of the HS OWL curriculum starting with consent, body image, and harassment. The Nursery - K1 is working on ideas of empowerment and the interconnectedness of our lives and how this relates to our commitment to our Unitarian principles, our planet and plants, and animals and people we interact with.  

Creative Energy Moving in the DREAM Room. Take a peek and check it out. More to come. Big thanks to Dianne Estrada for her continued efforts.

Make a Great Day, 
Jeffrey Melcher, 
Selected Upcoming Dates
Upcoming dates link to the UUCM calendar for saving on iCal, Outlook etc.
Remarkable People - February 16
Friday, February 16,  7- 8:30 pm  Fireside Room

The ongoing Remarkable People series gives us time to learn about each other from the interesting stories of individual lives.  Whether you already know them by name or not, you will learn what you don't know in the evening of sharing and community.  Each person talks and there is time for questions and general sociability and usually some sustaining snacks.

Kim Holscher  and  Dianne Estrada  are our February people of the month.

Kim Holscher  has been attending UUCM since August 2016 and, with her husband Dave, re-generated our hilltop Labyrinth.  She is a German immigrant, a Waldorf teacher, and a handcrafter.  She has been studying Biography as Social Art and will describe the events of her life through the OTHER PEOPLE involved in it.
Dianne Estrada  was born in the San Fernando Valley and this makes her a birthright suburban " Valley Girl".  This may explain why her favorite music comes from early 80s hard rock but not why she went on to a career as an actuary. We don't know if that predicted having two wonderful children but she did.  Leaving a 25 year marriage in 2011 sparked her to find our congregation, where she kindled a lot of new energy: stepping into lead the annual Retreats, then into Board leadership, and now with the fired-up Facilities Committee.  
Jump in and learn about these good people.  

Be remarkable yourself and come enjoy! 
Discussion after February 18 sermon
Adult Ed, through generous funding from a Wesley Grant, is sponsoring a "Talk About" discussion led by Rev. Jane Ramsey Feb. 18th in the Fireside Room from 12:15 - 1:30 PM.  This will be a facilitated discussion of her sermon Fact, Fiction and Faith: Finding meaning in life when facing death.

Women's REST Sunday Supper Crew Needs YOU!
We had a heart warming start this fall -- now we're looking for more volunteers.  Come join the crew who are preparing Sunday Suppers and spreading kindness at the Women's REST shelter. For 10 years, with the help of volunteers from congregations like ours, the shelter has provided a meal and a place to sleep for up to 20 women a night during the winter months.  

This year we're implementing a new model with a rotating "lead" for each Sunday Supper. The "Lead" recruits participants, organizes food, company and clean-up for the meal. The Lead may chose to have or to not have Ukulele players from "The Fountain of Ukes".   Our goal is to encourage more people to become involved in supporting the women in the REST Program -- so feel free to invite your neighbors, co-workers and friends!  

Heartfelt thanks to Joan Nelson for many years of inspiring leadership for this program -- and to Walt Littrell who this year is connecting us with the Ukulele Players and creating a festive atmosphere.  We can truly say that participating in supporting this program will lift your spirits. Join us!

Click this link to sign up!  http://www.signupgenius.com/go/70a054aafac2e5-sunday 

These links give more information about the REST Program. 



Questions?  Ask Sarah Tiederman --  bambooplanet@earthlink.net 
Retreat Registration Now Open
Retreat 2018
Please save the date. Your annual All Congregational Retreat at Walker Creek Ranch will be held the first weekend in May 2018 - May 4, 5 and 6. Registration is now open. The registration form is available from the link shown below. Please access the form and bring or send it to UUCM. If you are bringing children, please also complete the Retreat waiver available from the link below and attach it to your registration form or copy on the back of the registration form.
Registration form
Retreat Waiver

Thomas Ervin
UUA 2017-2018 Common Read
UUCM Adult Ed Committee is sponsoring the UUA 2017-2018 Common Read

Join in the national conversation!

This year we are reading  
Centering: Navigating Race, Authenticity, and Power in Ministry  edited by Mitra Rahnema

Two years in the making, this book was published as Barack Obama ended his 2nd term as president of the United States.  This anthology of vital voices from our own UUA ministry speaks to the challenges of being a minister of color in our denomination. The essays are well crafted and written from the heart.  The perspectives will wake you up. These caring voices show us that to create true diversity in our congregations we must listen carefully and deeply.  These dedicated UU ministers give us just such an opportunity.  From them we can begin to learn how to expand into truly diverse welcoming congregations.  We can see more clearly the pervasive whiteness of our UU culture and forms of ritual, worship, even music.  We can see how much more we could be.    

Shirley Chisholm was asked why she, a Black woman, was running for president: "You don't have a chance.  Why are you doing that?"  And she said, "Because I am in love with the America that does not yet exist," and that's how Unitarian Universalism is also.  I'm in love with the Unitarian Universalism that does not yet exist.  But I have to hold both the love for that thing and the love for the reality.  It does not yet exist.  It will probably not exist in my lifetime.  I don't think it will in that of my children, but I can't deny my love for it.  You know, wanting to be there in that struggle.  That's why I'm fighting.  Rev. Natalie Maxwell Fenimore   

Adult Ed has purchased 10 copies from the UUA for circulate for reading.  These will be available after the Sunday service to "check out."  If you are able, please consider "sponsoring" a book for $15 (retail price is $18).  This helps defray the costs.   
Also available as an  eBook in the Amazon Kindle store and on  Google Play.
It's going for $9.99 and $7.99.

Discussion groups will be scheduled in late February and March.  They will be lively and vital to building a better world one congregation at a time.  

Pacific Western Regional Assembly - April 27-29 
The four districts of the UUA's Pacific Western Region will gather April 27-29 in Portland, OR for the 2018 Regional Assembly. Speakers include civil rights activist, the Rev. Dr. William Barber; Washington Congresswoman Pramila Jayapal, advocate for women's, immigrant, civil, and human rights; and the Rev. Susan Frederick-Gray, newly elected UUA president.
Programming includes workshops, worship, district meetings, and an optional social justice activity. A day-long Professional Day designed for religious professionals is planned for Friday, April 27, before the start of Regional Assembly. Discount lodging is available at the Portland DoubleTree by Hilton Hotel, site of the Regional Assembly. Childcare and youth programming will be available.  
Register for our Regional Assembly.  Early Bird Registration now closed www.uua.org/pwr .
Women and Religion PCD Women's Retreat 3/8-11
The annual Women and Religion PCD Women's Retreat is coming up on March 8-11, 2018 .  All self-identified women are welcome to join us for a calming respite from our busy lives.  Usually held at a retreat center near Napa that was severely damaged in October by the wildfires, this year we will be meeting at the Anubhuti Center in Novato .  Anubhuti is a contemplative retreat center run by Brahma Kumaris, the largest spiritual organization in the world led by women.  It is housed in a group of historic buildings that were fully renovated by the sisters 7 years ago, and sits on top of a hill, surrounded by 1,600 acres of protected open space, water and a wildlife preserve, with spectacular views of the Bay, Pacheco Pond, Novato creek and the rolling hills of Marin County. (note this is close by this year and $50 for Sat. with meals)
 Our retreat offers something for everyone: delicious meals; workshops for mind, body, and spirit; conversations with new and old friends; time for quiet contemplation; and a boutique, silent auction, and book swap.  To learn more about Women and Religion and our retreat, visit our website at   http://womenandreligionpcd.org. There you will find information about pricing, payment and date-dependent discounts as well as questions to be answered that are pertinent to retreat housing and meals for each registrant. To register, click on "Home" then "Register for the 2018 Retreat" where you can download the printable form. This year registration will be by MAIL ONLY, so you will need to print out the registration form, complete it and mail it in with your check to the address on the form. 
Rescheduled Class Conversations workshop is now February 10
The Class Conversations workshop that we had to postpone in October because of the Northern California wildfires has now been rescheduled. The new date is February 10.
UU Class Conversations Workshop
Saturday, February 10, 2018
10:00 a.m. - 4:30 p.m.
UU Church of Berkeley, 1 Lawson St., Kensington CA
Refreshments and registration open at 9:30 a.m.
Workshop includes lunch (vegan and gluten-free options provided)
Childcare available if requested in advance
Sliding scale $20-50, no one turned away if cannot afford to pay
If members of our congregation registered for the workshop in October and did not request a refund when asked after the cancellation, they are still on the registration list for February 10 and do not need to register or pay again.
Attached is a new flyer.
Basket Share Participants Needed
basket share
Are you involved as a volunteer or recipient of the services of a local 501(c)(3) agency or program?

You can help that organization raise money by initiating a 50/50 UUCM Offering Basket Share.  

Complete the application form on the UUCM website Social Justice page. Or find one at the Social Justice Table on a Sunday morning. Send it to  socialjustice@uumarin.org or leave it in the SJ box in the Community Room.
Sending Announcements for the Order of Service
If you have an announcement for the back of the Sunday Order of Service please send it to  worshipassociates@uumarin.org  instead  of sending it to the office. Please send by 5 PM on Wednesday, any later submissions will be considered for timeliness and room. The Worship Committee members are now putting together the Order of Service and Janette will print it.
Social Justice Education/Action
We have a newsletter list to inform you about  UU Social Justice actions and local issues. Sign up by  replying to this email and typing  "Yes to Social Advocates".
Contribute to the 3rd Tuesday night dinner at the First Presbyterian Church. Contact Carol Littrell. 
UUSC Take Action Items - Sign petitions, learn about issues, donate money.
Ever feel frustrated that you're not doing enough to make a difference in the world? Bring your concerns to the  UUCM Social Justice Committee. 
Continue your commitment to environmental and economic justice by shopping at   http://shop.uusc.org 
Visitor's Box
We cherish diversity and welcome among us
people of all races, cultures, ages, abilities, sexual
identities/orientations, and faith perspectives.

GUESTS are always welcome. Sunday worship is a time for inspiration, renewal, and connection.

CHILDREN AND YOUTH join adults during the first part of the service, and then attend Religious Exploration classes.  Nursery and toddler care is provided during the 10:30 service. There is a speaker system to bring sound from Fellowship Hall to the nursing room and the pre-K area. 

  REFRESHMENT HOUR  in the Courtyard or  Fireside Room follows the services.
 There are four "Sunday First Time Visitor" parking spots at the top of the parking lot.  
Come, join us! 
Quick Links
Staff Links
 Interim Minister:   Rev. Joy Atkinson  minister@uumarin.org

Office Hours:
Tuesday, Thursday 11AM  - 6PM
Other times also available. Call/email for an appointment.
phone 415-479-4131 ext 102

Director of Religious Exploration: 
Jeffrey Melcher  dre@uumarin.org
Office Hours:
Sunday 12:30 - 1:30 PM
Tuesday 10:30 - 1:30 PM
Thursday 12:30 - 3:30 PM
phone 415-479-4131 ext 104

Youth Advisor: 
George Pegelow  youthadvisor@uumarin.org
Administrator: Janette Morrow  office@uumarin.org  
Choir director:  Amanda Morando  muusic@uumarin.org    
Pianist:  Milton Wong   milton.wong@csaa.com

Nursery Teacher: Glynda Christian
Pastoral Care Committee: pastoralcare@uumarin.org
Don Beck: 415-892-0642
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