Do you, like me, crave simplicity? Choice is supposed to give us freedom yet somehow it seems to have blindsided us with confusion, stress and unlimited options. One can’t help but have a sort of Hitchcockian sense of creeping paranoia about making the “right” choices in life.
This demands leaving the door open, waiting, avoiding, weighing things up “just in case” and you don’t want to limit yourself, or rule anything out or close a door on choice – so best to stay put for a while and think it over; not make any hasty decisions. After all there’s no rush and besides a clear road hasn’t suggested itself yet. Sound familiar?
Are you one of those people who just can’t make their minds up? Should you stay or should you go? Should you date or dump? Why do you always want what someone else has ordered?
Of course you want to chase your bliss. But what exactly is it? Is it a year out so you can help in orphanages in Africa or work in an orangutan sanctuary? Do you fancy dropping it all to become a yoga teacher or travel blogger?
If it helps you are not alone.
Welcome to the Flitteratti
If you want to know if you are a Flitterer here’s a simple test.
- You answer questions – “Yes. No…” but don’t realise you do it.
- You always think there is something better round the corner so don’t commit to the present.
- You half finish or abandon courses, writing projects, keep fit classes, diets etc.
- You find it very stressful to make a decision from anything from a night out to a career move
- Travel always seems the best way out
- You go round and round in circles a lot. Friends are bored of hearing your “broken record
- You wait for Fate to deal with situations rather than make a decision yourself. Then when you do you complain about what’s happened.
- You get anxious about making the wrong decision
- Perfectionism is a bit too important
- You’re often exhausted by your indecision and neurotic thoughts
- You “leave the door open” on relationships in case someone better comes along
- In the end you do nothing
If several of these observations are resonating then you’ll know all too well how difficult it is being you sometimes. How you wish for clarity amid the chaotic choices out there. You are not alone. An advertisement for Samsung phones a while ago dictated “Impatience is a virtue” as crowds of young folk, mindlessly run from one amazing thing to next with an attention span of a goldfish. A waterfall or sunset, a party or downpour in Cuba. Who cares? What’s next? Nothing registering, nothing meaningful. Nothing matters.
