March 2017
In This Issue
Are You a Pilgrim or a Tourist?
by Lori Mueller

I am reading a book written by Matthew Kelly and he raises the question about how we as people approach our lives. I think parents could ask this question about their parenting as well. Do we think our job as parents is to create the perfect "vacation" for our kids and our family? Do we plan the itinerary, check on times and schedules, and make sure entertainment is readily available? If something in our plan goes array, do we immediately reach for the phone and expect the travel agent to fix it and then react with disappointment or anger if our carefully orchestrated "vacation" is not going as planned? Simply put are we reacting to life and parenting our children from a tourist perspective?

A pilgrim parent has a bit of a different starting point. The pilgrim parent would say, "Well let's see what lessons today will bring for my kids and for myself. We are in this for the long haul, parenting this child of mine will take time, patience, a longing for understanding and an openness to what cannot be planned." A pilgrim parent wonders how character will be developed in their child today, and will they have the opportunity to learn about themselves and the world they live in? How will they support their child and approach a plan gone array with a curious mind instead of an angry heart?
You get where I am going with this I am sure. Parenting, at its best, is a combination of incredible love built on memories and experiences we could never have planned on. Great memories are important in laying a solid foundation of trust and the painful ones are when our kids actually grow into extraordinary people.

I want to be clear that our children need intense loving, we all do. I also want to be clear that when they have that love, they can deal with the pain that will cross their path and grow into responsible and wonderful adults. Our job, as parents, is to create the loving foundation and then trust life and our kids to pass through painful times with the mind of pilgrim. One of the greatest tragedies that our children experience is when adults take away, rescue and deny them the opportunity to take on a challenge and find success.

We see it every day at YouthZone, youth who are treated with kid gloves, the adults in their lives not believing in them to problem solve and to feel such pride when they overcome a great challenge. We snatch the learning right out from underneath them because we are a tourist parent, trying desperately to plan their vacation instead of standing by them in their pilgrimage. Life is a pilgrimage many of our youth have no idea how to handle because they have been prepared only for a vacation.

YouthZone cares for families every day - families that may be walking through a painful time, we hope that we approach our time together with a pilgrim hat on. We will walk alongside them, we won't fix it or take away the pain. We will steady them and set before them the hope that this journey will be better than any vacation they could have planned.

If you are a parent who would like to know how to embrace this pilgrimage and throw away your itinerary please give us a call at 970.945.9300.
Parenting Programs at YouthZone

YouthZone helps parents, too!
Initial Parent Consultation:
This 50-minute consultation is often the first step for parents who want to work with YouthZone to help ease the challenges of parenting and raise more responsible kids. $35 for initial consultation.
One-on-One Parent Education: 
Parent educators from YouthZone support parents with fast, effective strategies that focus on building parents' individual strengths.  Our education is goal-oriented, judgment-free, encouraging and empowering. $65 per hour.

While YouthZone has involvement with all of the parents of kids utilizing our services and we provide support to all parents - last year we worked with 84 parents with individual consultations.

From a YouthZone Parent:

"YouthZone was very helpful in giving guidance and foresight into the future relationship with my children.  They were reassuring that what I was doing was the right thing."
Love and Logic

YouthZone recently taught a Love and Logic class for parents in Spanish!  The class was well-received, and we were excited to offer this resource to 16 parents in our community who speak Spanish.  
If you, or someone you know, is interested in future Spanish parenting classes, please call us at 970.945.9300.

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