Alyce Deering Scholarship recipient Aimee Nemer
submitted the following article for the June 17-18, 2021 – TMCCP seminar in Granbury.
Speak your mind; also, be mindful of those that may not.
We all want to be heard, but not all of us are able to articulate our thoughts and feelings as well, or as loudly as others. Those that do easily speak their mind should consider quieter personalities and encourage them to share their opinions – and give them that chance by being quiet.
Just because you can speak your mind, doesn’t mean you should – always. Consider the timing, your audience, the setting, and what you have to say. Does it really need to be said? Sometimes, YES! And sometimes, it’s okay to let the moment pass or keep that thought to yourself. It’s also okay to let others speak while you remain silent.

When I was younger, I was one with a quieter personality. Some of my friends and colleagues would say that I am still today. That’s because I am drawn to big, bold, personalities…bigger and bolder than mine; so, in comparison, I am typically less outspoken than my friends. Yet others may think I’m one to easily share my opinions. Whether you consider me an introvert, or an extrovert depends on the lens you are looking through. But my perception of myself is my reality. And in my opinion, I’m no longer a quiet one! Some days, I wish I was, some days I still think I am, and some days I wonder who is this person speaking her mind?
When I interact with various groups socially or professionally, I strive to seek out those voices that have something to say but struggle to be heard. I recall the times in my life when I did not speak up and why. Sometimes it was fear, lack of confidence, or lack of knowledge. But sometimes, it was because the other voices around me were louder and spoke easier and more often than me. “I have something to say…give me a chance!”
So, I encourage those that speak easily to stop, listen, and look around. Who else has something to say? Give them an opening. And I encourage those who have something to say, look for those opportunities, and don’t let the moment pass! If you have to create your own moment, do it!
I felt led to write this article for those that need some encouragement, but it is not meant to shed a negative light on those who are quiet. There is nothing wrong with being quiet and most of us could surely benefit from some quietness. To borrow a phrase from Miranda Lambert, “It takes all kinds of kinds.”
Sometimes we have to speak for ourselves. Other times, we have to speak for those who cannot. But whenever possible, we should inspire those who can speak but don’t – so they can be heard too.
Aimee Nemer
I raise up my voice – not so that I can shout, but so that those without a voice can be heard.
Malala Yousafzai