“But I Was Just Joking!” – Teaching Kids the Boundaries of Humor
Many kids use humor to try and connect with peers, but sometimes those jokes—especially sarcasm or teasing—don’t land the way they intended. When a joke leads to hurt feelings or a friendship rift, the common defense is: “I was just kidding!”
But here’s the social truth:
➡️ If it isn’t funny to the other person, it isn’t funny.
Helping your child learn the difference between playful and hurtful humor is an important social milestone. This includes understanding:
- The importance of shared laughter—not one-sided jokes
- How to read facial expressions and body language for feedback
- Why intent doesn’t outweigh impact in social situations
Try this simple coaching script:
“When your friend didn’t laugh and looked upset, that’s a clue the joke didn’t land. What could you do next time to keep it fun for both of you?”
And remember, repairing a misstep with a sincere “I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings” goes a long way in keeping friendships strong.
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