Daly News

September 2023

The power of consistency

What do you do if you don't get results you want or hope for right away, or even the first few times you try something new?

I put out a hummingbird feeder around the start of summer, and hoped that I'd get to see the beautiful little birds later that same day, or at the latest in the same week. I didn't. Every 3-4 days depending on weather temps I'd change the feeder sugar water. I did this for 2 months without seeing one hummingbird.

Then, on a gorgeous morning in August, one arrived and enjoyed the nectar. I was over the moon! I may have jumped up and down and squealed with giddiness (I did.) And guess what? The bird came back several times, and then later that day too. I've seen a hummingbird about every few days since, and it has been glorious.

As I watched the hummingbird drink from the feeder the first time I thought about how long it had taken for the bird to show up, and that if I had given up after the first week of changing the food out I would have missed this glee. I thought about how being faithful in my actions eventually got me to the goal; feeding and seeing hummingbirds.

What is a big goal you have? Have you given up on something after a couple tries?

Is there something you can continue to be faithful with even though you haven't gotten the outcome you hoped for sooner?

Links to Previous 2023 Newsletters

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August - Do you always want the 'right' answers?

July - What relationships need tending?

May - Participating in Mental Health Awareness Month

April - Hope (National Month of)

March - Stop "Shoulding" on yourself!

A few riddles

(answers will be in next newsletter)

What is always in front of you but can’t be seen?

I shave every day, but my beard stays the same. What am I?

You see a boat filled with people, yet there isn’t a single person on board. How is that possible?

A Personal Note

BEFORE

FINISHED

Several weeks ago I went to a local pottery studio. I picked out a bowl to glaze and went to play! I used stencils, and what came out was a sky, water combo; likely inspired by my recent viewing of the movie Moana.

I played*. I exercised my right brain, and have a bowl I've already used several times. I love it!

How are you getting right brain exercise?

*Play is an idea Brene Brown writes about in her book, "The Gifts of Imperfection"

COUPLES CORNER

Prepare/Enrich

CHALLENGE: LEARN SOMETHING NEW ABOUT YOUR SPOUSE

How well do you know your partner? Probably pretty well. You know their tendencies and preferences that pop up on a daily basis. You have a good idea of their triggers and what gets them riled up in an argument.

So here’s another question for you: When was the last time you learned something new about them?

When you’re first dating, it seems you’re constantly learning new things about each other, and you can’t get enough. You’re still getting to know all the different facets of one another, and you hear new stories and tidbits at every turn.

Flash forward to a point in time when you’ve been together for years. How often are you learning something new about each other now? While you and your spouse probably aren’t changing drastically on the daily, the fact is that you do grow and change as individuals over time.

However, it’s often in ways that aren’t going to come up in your usual day-to-day conversations. So how do you keep up with these changes in each other? How do you keep learning new things about your spouse when you’ve been together for years? What if we challenged you to do just that? Sounds simple enough, right?

Here are some tips to get you started:

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