For National Teen Dating Violence Awareness & Prevention Month, we are offering FREE materials about accountability in healthy relationships. We uplift four parts of transformative justice to describe accountability.
Which of the following is NOT one of The Four Parts of Accountability?
D) Changed Behavior
Correct Answer: A
Accountability has four parts, and each part is important to the entire process of maintaining a healthy relationship. The four parts of accountability are self-reflection, apology, repair, and changed behavior.
Looking inward and sitting with uncomfortable feelings (but not with guilt or shame) may help you understand the choices you made, the outcomes of those choices, and how to make different choices in the future. Apologizing is also a chance to share that you understand what you did and to take responsibility for the impact of your actions. It is an opportunity to do the work necessary to be in a healthy relationship with those you have hurt or harmed — and to be in a healthier relationship with yourself. Repair can take a long time — you may need to apologize more than once. Behavior change is one of the hardest parts of accountability. It will likely take time and lots of practice.
Accountability doesn’t have to be scary, even though it can be extremely uneasy and uncomfortable.
Conflict, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and breaks in trust can all happen in healthy relationships. Most of us do not know how to be accountable for our actions. We can learn – and continue learning – about being accountable in our relationships.
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