friday.august 23.2024

reflection section

on my honor 

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(Entered in the Gulf Beaches Library Essay Contest. I didn't win, but it was fun to write.) 


Public libraries … still the best honor system in America. Where else can you walk into a building, take what you want, and promise to return it?  


Although public libraries have undergone drastic changes since I was a little girl in the 1960s, their splendid concept remains the same: come in, browse the shelves, borrow as many books as you desire, but please return them on this due date. That’s trust.

 

Like many of you, I grew up in the era when libraries had hordes of skinny drawers lining their walls, each with a tiny handle. The drawers contained handwritten and typewritten numbered index cards containing every piece of material they owned. Going on “the hunt” was half the fun! The other half was strolling through the multitude of aisles, not knowing exactly which books to select, yet feeling excited to check out and rush home to begin reading. Ooooh ... which one first?


I am still as proud of the plastic digital library card in my wallet as I was the first day receiving my first paper library card as a little Catholic school girl, with my name handwritten on it. The soothing ritual of going-to-the-public-library is one which still delights me. It was “an event” with Mamma Gina & Papa Louie who drove us, usually on a school night to our little library in our town of Perry Hall, Maryland. Sometimes we had to look up topics for schoolwork projects and homework. At the end of the jaunt, we would happily balance a stack of books in our arms, following Mommy and/or Daddy to the car. 


To this day, I am not one to shop in bookstores or purchase books online. (Unless I am #147 in line for a hold, such as with the book I'm reading, Remarkably Bright Creatures, about an octopus.) I never understood buying books unless you plan to read one over and over. Why buy them when the library lends them to us for free?

 

I cannot predict what a standard library will look like in 20 years, but I know this: gimme books, books, books – on my honor – I wanna read them all. Do not hand me a paperless Kindle or anything related to an e-book. I want the physical book in hand, to choose between hard- or soft-cover, to feel the paper, turn the pages, and stick in one of my many special bookmarks. I want to carry around the book in my purse, beach bag, tote, airplane carry-on. I want to hold the book, touch its cover, turn it over, read the back cover reviews and inside cover synopsis, inspect the spine, read who published it and what year, read about the author ... and secretly dream about a big publishing house one day publishing my work - then host a wild book tour around the world. :-D

 

Libraries and books make us readers happy. Even those Little Free Libraries around neighborhoods are delightful – browse for a book, take a book, share a book - or not. [Find a little library near you on littlefreelibrary.org. My sister, Paula, organized one in her Pennsylvania neighborhood. It was constructed, painted red, then installed by her neighbor the week she passed. She never even got to see it.] 🥲


Books are good for gifting, boredom, entertainment, escaping, decorating a shelf, and certainly terrific for learning. Public libraries are great venues for kids’ events, reading, family time, quiet time. 


My parents taught us library respect: to respect the books (return them to same shelves, don't dog-ear any pages, never ever write inside); respect for reading, respect of the three-week timeframe we were allowed to keep library books, respect for keeping our checked-out books in a neat pile in the kitchen vs. scattered around the house, and respect for returning the books on or before the due date. And never ever pay the fine!


We were in awe of the oh-so-smart and important librarians – to my young mind, they seemed to know everything! Let alone the speed at which they could locate a book among the thousands ...“Follow me please.” 


I hope libraries - and the concept of such a trusting institution - never leave, never change. Maybe in 20 years we may not have physical library cards. Maybe books, audio books, music, etc. will be delivered to our homes after choosing titles online. Maybe librarians won’t be stationed any longer in-house at large circular desks. Yet I hope America will keep intact her best honor system … the Public Library. 


Read on!



Paula's husband, Doug, and their twins, Lucas & Logan, on the day her Little Free Library project was installed in their Yardley, Pennsylvania, neighborhood. Paula never got to see it.


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"Self-image is a complicated thing, isn't it? I’m very much a realist. I know what I look like and if I had any illusions, I need only look at the mirror or my Ring camera. Hips don’t lie. As for my face, I am not photogenic at all. It wasn’t as bad when I was younger but my face structure causes weird shadows in photos.  

 

Analyst that I am, I've pondered this question before and looked at photos of people I don’t know. They just look like themselves. I don't have pre-conceived notions of how they should look now or how they did at an earlier time, so I make no judgement. I accept them at 'face' value.  I think it is very hard for us to not judge ourselves when we are constantly bombarded with images of how we “should” look or even how we used to look. A close friend saw a photo I was in and asked, 'Who is that guy?' We had a good laugh. (And I did look like a guy – my dad.)

 

Social media and everyone carrying a camera has made it hard for us to just enjoy what we are doing without feeling the need to document every single thing. And, you really can't go to any public space with the expectation of not having your picture taken. I have avoided some events because of the picture taking. Luckily for me, you probably wouldn’t recognize me anyway, unless you know my dad. I will say that having old photos is a wonderful thing. I frequently look at those. Brings back many good memories.  

 

Bottom line, I don't like how I look in photos. It’s rarely flattering. If asked, I will decline being included in a photo. That's my prerogative. It’s not ridiculous to care about our images. Once that photo is taken, I have no control where it ends up or who sees it. Maybe that shouldn't matter. But, if it does matter to someone, please respect their wishes.  

 

Love you girl. I hope your words find their way to help someone to just go with the flow. We love your positive messages. Maybe I'll start taking pics and even posting them when I hit 80. I bet I won't give a hoot at that point. LOL."


~ Cindy B in Maryland


prayer flares

FOR Sister Dolly asking for prayers after being diagnosed with liver cancer and in home hospice. "I am at peace with the decision knowing I am ready whenever my loving God calls me into my reunion with so many of my family and friends. I have lived a long time - 92 years - and am grateful for the journey! Into your hands I commend my spirit."


FOR Egidio battling cancer, now affecting his

pulmonary system

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queen of quotes



If you compare yourself with others,

you may become vain and bitter;

for there always will be greater and lesser

persons than you.

Each of us has a story.

Pay attention to only yours.


good to giggle

Dear Tech Support,


Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a distinct slowdown in overall system performance, particularly in Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5 applications, which operated flawlessly under Boyfriend 5.0.


In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled other valuable programs, such as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5; then installed undesirable programs such as NBA 5.0, NFL 3.0 and Golf 4.1. Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Cleaning House 2.6 simply crashes the system.


Please note I have tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these glitches, to no avail. What should I try next?


Signed,

Desperate Programmer


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Dear Desperate Programmer,


First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while Husband 1.0 is an Operating System.


Enter the command: I-thought-you-loved-me.html, then download Tears 6.2. Do not forget to install Guilt 3.0 update. If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then automatically run Jewelry 2.0 and Flowers 3.5.


Caution: overuse of the Tears 6.2 application may cause Husband 1.0 to default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Man Cave 7.0, or Beer 6.1. (Please note Beer 6.1 is not a very good program that may automatically download Snoring Like a Hog beta version.


Whatever you do, DO NOT - under any circumstances - install Mother-in-Law 1.0 since it runs a virus in the background that will eventually seize control of your entire system.


Also do not attempt to reinstall Boyfriend 5.0 - an unsupported application that will most likely crash Husband 1.0.


In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited memory. It also cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider buying additional software to improve its memory and performance.


Good Luck,

Tech Support 


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